Moved to Poland to my younger boyfriend, now got sick; he's got a new one

and you probably never will.

PJ

Ok. It would not be a good idea to publish details.

As Shelley said earlier.... leave with dignity.

Why play with nasza klasa, that is so 10th grade. Step it up, send the girl an sms and let her know you exist and miscarried his baby. I bet an sms with that sure would open her eyes.

If you love him a lot, you will let him see this younger woman and you at the same time. It will certainly make him a happy man.

And it seemed OK then.

It's never ok mate despite appearances. People of all persuasions can fail to speak up for all manner of reasons, it does not however mean that they condone the action. Apathetic probably, like the sheep that watches on as the Wolf slays his mate and chews on a sprig of mint. It doesn't affect them directly they can choose to ignore things but one day it might. Perhaps even you. That would never be acceptable to us as you're a friend. But probably this person too has friends who are unable to speak and express their displeasure. As such, it is up to the compassionate yet disinterested observer.

gtd

<golf applause>

point taken. I've already had a gentle tap on the shoulder and a quiet word.

I've already had a gentle tap on the shoulder and a quiet word.

As long as they're not fitting you for a concrete browser. Otherwise, there will be complaints :)

edit: clumbsiness

And make her seem like a pushover woman who will stand for being treated like crap.

Please tell me this is a sarcastic joke. If it isn't you are worse than I thought.

The only negatives I see in that kind of relationship would be the fatigue factor. Perhaps he would not be able to keep up in his sexual duties.

He could use manual stimulation for the younger.Just joking.

Why not both at the same time?

And his penis will be in the refrigerator?

It will probably fall off after a few weeks of use.

OOOH the stories i could tell about my last disaster......but i won,t....

That's why I always keep a glue with me.


Tell us,tell us.What happened?Did she leave you for a girl?

i know you are dying to tell us for a while now.... if really not, don't tease us...


you're like a woman...hungry for gossip....

;)

No...i wasn,t dying to tell anyone , not something i am proud of , and i did get a few comments that it was not right to open my heart so much on this forum...However , so many people supported me and gave good advice , that i guess i should tell...

I don,t want to say too much , as the lady concerned has been a visitor on these very forums , tho i doubt she has any interest now she is back in Germany..

Its enough to say that after being in a 22 year relationship , with somebody who was jealous and insecure she had learned to be similar...
The first two weeks were magical , and special , but after the tenth time of being accused of infidelity just for checking my emails , or merely talking to someone of the opposit sex , the magic kinda wore off...

We managed to remain friends , and keeping out of her way avoided any arguments , but it did seem like a long two months before she went off to a job , or perhaps a boyfriend in Germany and i could breath again...

She is a lovely person , but i fear damaged by what she went through with her husband , a pity ,but i cannot live under constant scrutiny , afraid to check my emails or go out in case some girl i know says hello to me....

I am not a player , i would never have done anything disloyal , and i think deep down she knew that , but she could not help what she did....So , thats the story , and i am once again...alone again...and its my birthday soon...sob , sob...booo hoooo...

too bad, it didn't work out for you wildrover... cheer up...

Did you allow her cheat you with her husband?

No...not at all , she had been single a long time when i met her....

gosh , i cant begin to imagine how you feel he sounds really bad how could he ? come home please easy to say i know but ................. ? what do his parents say how cruel i cant believe it

he hasnt told his parents the truth-he said last night he would "put me in hospital" if i went to speak to his parents and if i found out who this girl was-i said how could he possibly ask me to still see him as a friend or ortherwise after saying such terrible things. he said because he still wanted me to help him-he said he was going to drive to gdynia tomorrow after seeing "her"and i was to give him money for petrol and if i didnt cause him trouble he would let me perform a sex act for his pleasure-and then he would drive back and have sex with her i know this sounds unbelievable but it is true-i have recoreded all these conversations and i will let him drive but i wont be there-and after tomorrow i will change my number and address-and never speak to him again-but one day i will let the right people knowwhat a monster he is

girl, you have to run away from this as$hole... don't be stupid... he's gonna ruin your life if you stay with him... unfreakinbelievable...

So really do this and don't just threaten it here. the guy is a huge piece of sh1t and everyone can see it including you. I can't imagine what sort of psycho would say such things to a woman.

Whether he is capable of actually hurting you or he is just the typical blustering loser who is trying to scare you but would cry if he was slapped, you need to run away ASAP. Don.t think about it...don't worry about it...just do it. I would call the police and let them know he has threatened you and write her and her parents a letter as it is easier to stay calm in writing.

He is dangerous and a loser and needs to be put in his place.

Are you nuts. Do not see him tomorrow at all.

If you are thinking of having a final word. Don't.

If you must have revenge... do it from a safe distance.

Or better still, on the advice of peers here... not at all... just walk away.

edit: You could arrange to have one or two large, male friends as guests tomorrow.

first of all, use your brain.. not your heart in this situation...

anyone who threatens your life is not a good person.. anyone who tells you he wants to be dishonest with another woman.. HOW F-IN dare him..

get your head together, get your things together. and get out.

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i have thought about doing this i have evidence of his threats-willthe polish police-listen to an english woman?

also should i put him of coming tomorrow iwhen he finds i am not there i am scared he may come looking-he knows my english address

I might be up for helping out. Not sure if I can get to Gdynia in time however.
I despise cowardly men like this.


Do you know anyone Polish who would go with you to translate/add a local connection?

This dude is a psycho. Stop messing with him. Dont invite him over, dont play games of "he can come, I just wont be there" to egg him on to look for you or whatever. Say you want to end it and thats it. Leave, change your number, your address, return home. You can plot your letters or whatever when you are home and far away from this freak.