i love a polish girl alot.
Well. The only solution is to marry her and be done with it. F-ck the relatives. If you are sure that they'll beat the c-ap out of you, just honestly tell your girl how impossibly retarded they are, and stay away from your ignorant bystanders who just happen to be blood-related to you. It's none of their business. You are, I suppose, a grown up man, and you can feed yourself and your future wife. Then, why do you need your stupid and backward relatives coming into your way?
I'm saying this as a Japanese man from a very Japanese family. I mean, I can somehow imagine the situation. My grandmother used to make a lot of noise about it. She was telling me all the time to marry a Japanese girl, so I told her that I'd disappear permanently from Japan, renounce all the possible inheritance, cease to be a Japanese citizen and become British if she makes any more stupid noise about it.
So, I have some peace of mind now!