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Dating age difference - my 16 yo is dating a 26 yo Polish guy


Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #31
had a huge crush on my teacher, who happened to be 26 and I'd have loved a relationship with him haha.

Big difference between crush and actually dating someone. :-P

She is only not legal for having sex though

Exactly she is not leagal. He is 26 come on.................he is thinking something.
Ronek 1 | 261  
25 Sep 2007 /  #32
She is only not legal for having sex though - so if it is supervised as anglo73 says, then it is legal for them to be together...(is that right?)

I'm not sure if a 26yo man is looking for a type of relationship you are describing:)
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
25 Sep 2007 /  #33
The father is totally against it (as many of us are).

Why does he allow it to continue? My dad would have killed the guy already. (Not literally. You know what I mean.)
_Sofi_  
25 Sep 2007 /  #34
I'm not sure if a 26yo man is looking for a type of relationship you are describing:)

lmao I know - but anglo73 did say it is supervised. I'm surprised myself if he is not wanting more, like I said lol

If he is honestly willing to wait for that then he must really care. (And possibly is a saint - it's hard to imagine)

Big difference between crush and actually dating someone. :-P

true lol
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #35
If he is honestly willing to wait for that then he must really care. (And possibly is a saint - it's hard to imagine)

pfttttttttttt. Not falling for it.
_Sofi_  
25 Sep 2007 /  #36
lol I'm not convinced either
Ronek 1 | 261  
25 Sep 2007 /  #37
but anglo73 did say it is supervised. I'm surprised myself if he is not wanting more, like I said lol

supervised o rly?
I think anglo73 is not fully aware of the capabilities of a horny couple:)
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #38
think anglo73 is not fully aware of the capabilities of a horny couple:)

Ohhhh totally agree. :-P
_Sofi_  
25 Sep 2007 /  #39
I think anglo73 is not fully aware of the capabilities of a horny couple:)

blink and she'll be pregnant :P

j/k
Peter 3 | 247  
25 Sep 2007 /  #40
but I wouldnt say its a good thing.

I am not saying that it is a good thing. Just pointing out that what we may consider to be "undesirable" or outside of our "norms" is a normal fact of life in some parts of the world.
OP anglo73 1 | 16  
25 Sep 2007 /  #41
Well of course anything can happen...I was once 16 too. But we hope nothing is going on yet. Besides, even if its not right now, isn't he a creep for going after a girl that young? It seems so weird...
_Sofi_  
25 Sep 2007 /  #42
isn't he a creep for going after a girl that young?

I find that difficult to answer, because it is legal here for someone her age, which makes me think that "so long as she's legal - he's not a perv/creep" if he really loves her. You can't help who you fall for!

But there - is a different story because it IS illegal, so my thoughts don't apply the same way hmmmm
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #43
You can't help who you fall for!

True. I will give you that......................

But if you "loved" someone that young, you would have to care enough to know that it wasn't the right time and they need to experince life with peers not babysitters. Let them go and let them grow up. If it was meant to be it will happen at that time.

People get arrested for these things.
OP anglo73 1 | 16  
25 Sep 2007 /  #44
I know! Thats what we said! We have a 9 year old son and there has been a girl at school stalking him already!!!! I don't want him to get involved in serious relationships until he's like 25...We put an end to this "play date" crap!
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #45
We have a 9 year old son and there has been a girl at school stalking him already!!!!

Oh come on he is 9............. he doesn't knkow the difference.
_Sofi_  
25 Sep 2007 /  #46
Thats what we said! We have a 9 year old son and there has been a girl at school stalking him already!!!!

lol I'm sure that is only harmless kid fun!
Peter 3 | 247  
25 Sep 2007 /  #47
Quoting: anglo73
Thats what we said! We have a 9 year old son and there has been a girl at school stalking him already!!!!

lol I'm sure that is only harmless kid fun!

Sadly it is a sign of the times. There are reports, here at least, of children aged as young as 8-9 being sexually active.
_Sofi_  
25 Sep 2007 /  #48
There are reports, here at least, of children aged as young as 8-9 being sexually active.

But surely it's not so common you would worry about your kid having a 'girlfriend' - normally it's just cute and harmless..!
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
25 Sep 2007 /  #49
There are reports, here at least, of children aged as young as 8-9 being sexually active.

late developers huh?

i blame the parents
Peter 3 | 247  
25 Sep 2007 /  #50
i blame the parents

That's a huge part of it.
OP anglo73 1 | 16  
25 Sep 2007 /  #51
Yea, that's why we don't let our 9 year old go on play dates with extremely forward girls that call like 6 times a day....

Is it really just harmless, or is it a spring board for something more serious later on?

True, but where do you cut it off? It's ok when your 9, but now that your 14, 15,16 (whatever) you aren't aloud to hang out and have sleep overs anymore. Why not just set the precident when they're little?

OK, so is it common for Polish men to go for younger women, in this case little girls and what "groom" them until they are ready for a real relationship?
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #52
Is it really just harmless, or is it a spring board for something more serious later on?

OK you are totally freaking out now. He is 9 you are going to give the kid a complex and force him to a dysfunctional relatonship.

He can have friends thats fine he is 9 she still has cooties as far as he is concerned. Second they are the same age so if it develops in to something 6 years down the road when they can actuallly do something. You as a good parent step in and hopefull gave him some good values and you don't have to worry about some 23 year old flusie teaching him what he doesn't need to know yet.

Relax
plk123 8 | 4,149  
25 Sep 2007 /  #53
anglo73

were you ever 9 y/o? think about it. sheesh.
OP anglo73 1 | 16  
25 Sep 2007 /  #54
Don't get me wrong, he has plenty of friends that are girls, I just am not into this crazy little vixen girl that stalks him...I'm talking about calling like every 2 minutes all day long during summer break, when everyone else has forgotten about school friends and moved onto other summer things. Its just a little weird how totally aggressive this little girl is.

Yea, but I made some really stupid decisions at a young age and hurt alot of people because of them. Maybe if the people around me would have aimed my arrows at different things I could have avoided hurting all the ones I did and in the mean time going through a ton of crap that could have been uneccesary.
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #55
Its just a little weird how totally aggressive this little girl is.

So end it.

But don't end it because you think she is a sexual preditor. End it because you don't think she is the right friend for your son.

THEY ARE 9 YEARS OLD!!

You have bigger problems with the 16 year old. Fix that!!
OP anglo73 1 | 16  
25 Sep 2007 /  #56
I can't control what they do in their family, but I can hopefully influence my own kid in the right direction.
plk123 8 | 4,149  
25 Sep 2007 /  #57
Yea, but I made some really stupid decisions at a young age and hurt alot of people because of them. Maybe if the people around me would have aimed my arrows at different things I could have avoided hurting all the ones I did and in the mean time going through a ton of crap that could have been uneccesary.

you did all this crap at 9y/o? hmmm.. acorn doesn't fall far from the tree?
OP anglo73 1 | 16  
25 Sep 2007 /  #58
That's nice, haven't you ever learned from mistakes and not wanted people you care about to make similar ones?

Anyway, this is totally off the subject. What I really want to know is if it is customary for Polish men to date younger women?
plk123 8 | 4,149  
25 Sep 2007 /  #59
yes definitely.. j/k is it customary for anyone to do this.. come on.. polish people are just like the english or the americans.. people are people
Bubbles 1 | 120  
25 Sep 2007 /  #60
people are people

But 26 year olds don't date 16 year olds!!! I don't care who you are!!

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