OP anglo73 1 | 16 25 Sep 2007 / #61OK, so are you saying this guys a creep then? Because that's what I think he is.Yea, creepy huh?True, but we don't have female genital mutilation as a "custom" here in the US and it is a custom in Africa....I'm just wondering, not trying to be offensive.
plk123 8 | 4,142 25 Sep 2007 / #62mmost liely but not necessarily. how does he treat your girl? i've seen a similar thing in the past, a couple of times.. and in the long run it seem to work contrary to conventional thought.. i have no idea how to explain it but i've seen the most tender care and love in such relationship.. if you're creeped out.. put your foot down.. you're the adult here.
OP anglo73 1 | 16 25 Sep 2007 / #63That's what I'm trying to figure out, we know of quite a few 1st generation Polish Americans (we don't know them well though) that seem to have this age gap and they have quite happy marriages. But we've met them all after they were married for a few years, and don't really know for how long the courtships lasted. You know, did they meet at 18 and 32 and get married at 20 and 34? Or did they meet at 16 and 26? I just don't know. He actually is a super nice guy and if she were already 20 or 21, and lived a little, I don't think anyone would have a real problem with it.By the way, I'm only a cousin anyway, sadly it's not my job to put my foot down. The whole thing started out with him being her math tutor. As soon as it seemed to be turning into anything more there would have been a new math tutor if it were in my house!
plk123 8 | 4,142 25 Sep 2007 / #66If she also lives in the U.S. and they were to have sexual relations, it could be considered statutory rape, depending on the state. What do her parents have to say about this?not at 16.. not even in one state.
OP anglo73 1 | 16 25 Sep 2007 / #69Michigan the age actually is 16, but if you are over 18 and with a 16 year old even if the parents know about it and allow it someone else can report it...anyway I really don't believe they are having sex. At least I seriously hope not!
plk123 8 | 4,142 25 Sep 2007 / #72well, unless you count puerto rico and canada. lol the there also is iraq.. :DUnder Utah law, a 14-year-old can consent to sex in some circumstances. But sex is not considered consensual if a person under 18 is enticed by someone at least three years older.apnews.excite.com/article/20070926/D8RSSS3G0.html
_Sofi_ 26 Sep 2007 / #74in that case there is a problem even if they are happy and he is genuine.Anglo73 - I don't think he is a creep for this. But - I don't know him and you do, and you say isHe actually is a super nice guy
sledz 23 | 2,250 26 Sep 2007 / #76in that case there is a problem even if they are happy and he is genuine.he can go to jail..yesyour not considered an adult untill your 18If somebody older than that has a relationship with a younger person plan ongoing to jail, even if you give her 1 beer and dont even touch her you still can be charged.
krysia 23 | 3,058 26 Sep 2007 / #77even if you give her 1 beer and dont even touch her you still can be charged.Then you might as well give her 3 beers, if you gonna get charged anyway...O.o
sapphire 22 | 1,241 26 Sep 2007 / #80I dont see a problem with this.. yes, he is older, but only 10 years and at 16 I think she is old enough to make up her own mind if she wants to date him.
_Sofi_ 26 Sep 2007 / #83I dont see a problem with this.. yes, he is older, but only 10 years and at 16 I think she is old enough to make up her own mind if she wants to date himIf it wasn't for it being illegal there for her to have sex with him, I'd agree.Over here, I wouldn't see the problem at all.
plk123 8 | 4,142 26 Sep 2007 / #8418no, it's not.. most states it's 16... in UT it's 14.. click the link in my post that's just above yours. i don't think there is one state that has the age of conscent at 18.1 beer and dont even touch her you still can be charged.beer yes, sex no.
_Sofi_ 26 Sep 2007 / #87"Michigan16"if the cousin is from the same place then as anglo73 is in, then it's okay isn't it :)plk123Thanks lol
plk123 8 | 4,142 26 Sep 2007 / #88wheather it's ok or not is up to the individual.. however, it leagal.
krysia 23 | 3,058 26 Sep 2007 / #89all but two states require a couple be age 18 in order to marry without parental consent. Nebraska sets the age at 19 and Mississippi at 21.Most states however need a consent of both parents or guardians if under 18
Bubbles 1 | 120 26 Sep 2007 / #90Nebraska sets the age at 19Yesss we know what we are talking about in this state. LOL
