Return PolishForums LIVE
  PolishForums Archive :
Posts by Jambo  

Joined: 11 Jun 2007 / Male ♂ 		Last Post: 21 Jan 2008
Threads: Total: 2 / In This Archive: 2
Posts: Total: 106 / In This Archive: 106 		From: London
Speaks Polish?: No
Interests: Music and Sport

Displayed posts: 108 / page 2 of 4
sort: Latest first   Oldest first   |
Jambo   
22 Oct 2007
Love / I reckon I've met a right plonker here - your thoughts please [44]

Aren't you already in a relationship with a woman

It was not really a serious comment the bit about phoning me. Well I am not in a relationship at present I hope to be though. I met a very wonderful Russian woman by chance when she was in the UK on holiday in August we have kept in very regular contact by phone/text/ messenger and I have just spent five days with her in St Petersburg where she lives. We had a most wonderful time. She is lovely. We now need to decide whether to move on to the next stage and build a relationship. Natalia says she is serious about that but really needs to think about everything which is absolutely right whereas I am more than ready to try. Her ex boyfriend is desperate for her back being one of the issues. She is an english teacher and is keen to move to the UK. I guess we will see. If she does not want to try to build a relationship to be honest I will be devestated as we got on so fantatically well much better than we both imagined. I speak with her every day.
Jambo   
22 Oct 2007
Love / i love you -why say it if you dont mean it [56]

For me love is when that person is always on your mind and you miss that person desperately and you have so much care and concern for that person and your spirits are lifted as soon as you meet or some contact like a text message happens. Sex does not come into it other than it is so much better when it is with a person you love it is then making love not sex. There is a huge difference.

I have been in love once and now maybe twice. It is difficult to tell whether you are in love as you can have strong feelings for someone without being in love with that person.
Jambo   
17 Oct 2007
Love / i love you -why say it if you dont mean it [56]

This is so true. It is not what you say but how you act that counts. A man can say he loves you but is his behaviour consistent with that statement. That is the test. Also some people say it to test the reaction of the person they are saying it to.
Jambo   
17 Oct 2007
Love / i love you -why say it if you dont mean it [56]

This is exactly the reason why I broke up with my last boyfriend. He would become upset, because I never told him I love him. I can't lie about and fake an emotion like love. He wouldn't accept the fact, he couldn't force me to fall in love with him.

I understand that but why stay with him as his girlfriend if you did not love him.
Jambo   
1 Oct 2007
Love / My friend and a married man [17]

The significant thing is he is married and not available. The fact is he only wants her for sex nothing else. If she has sex with him he will have got what he wanted and will move on to the next girl in the office. If she is okay with having sex in such circumstances as a boost to her self esteem then fine as they are both using each other. but she should not delude herself into thinking it is anything more than a quick fumble now and then when he he is not banging his wife. I have to say guys like him make me sick they are so false and the tragedy is women adore them.
Jambo   
27 Aug 2007
Love / Are men more unhappy about being single than women [47]

Falling in love is not an emotion you can control. After my last experience of love for my Polish ex girlfriend I wish I had not fallen for her but I could not stop myself.
Jambo   
27 Aug 2007
Love / Are men more unhappy about being single than women [47]

I am not unhappy at currently being single because that is where I am right now.It is better to be in a loving relationship though. As for sex I think that sex is best in a loving relationship as Gavin79 says but having said it can still be really good outside of a relationship.
Jambo   
27 Aug 2007
Love / A Polish Girl Without Heart!! [54]

Yeah Sunflower it has been really a good weekend and sunny in the UK at last! I am feeling pretty good really. I know how you are feeling because I am feeling it myself. It hurts and it is not easy to move on as that person was a very special person and to find out they do not care for you as you do for them is hard to take. She phoned me Saturday out of the blue and of course that got me thinking about her which I am trying not to do. Yes you are right about putting a brave face on it but you and know this is not easy. At the moment my friends and neighbours ask about her and I have to go through an explanation.

Take Care.

David (aka Jambo)
Jambo   
24 Aug 2007
Love / A Polish Girl Without Heart!! [54]

Thanks that is so kind of you I very much appreciate your post.

And I return your hug. I very much sympathise with your post. I guess at least you found out before he moved in to your house. Friends say to me well you are much better off now she has gone. But you know despite everthing I still think about her a lot. I suspect Sunflower although you know you are better off without him you still think of him and it hurts. It hurts to know the truth.

Have a good weekend and have fun!
Jambo   
23 Aug 2007
Love / A Polish Girl Without Heart!! [54]

Yes top post.

I have said before I do not consider all Polish women are the same. However there is no doubt there are a number of Eastern European women out there who come to the west befriend a man or men to get themselves established then move on. Nothing wrong with that in principle provided they make it clear at the outset they only want a friendship. Of course they say and do much more than that, the man then gets involved, everthing is great then one day the women says of course you are just my friend!

I took some photographs of my ex Polish girlfriend when we had a day out visting an historic castle. She took one of me. I gave her copies of all the photographs including mine.I noticed a couple of nights ago when I was clearing out the bedside table she had left behind her copy of the photograph of me which she said she really liked and had taken the others. She knew I would find the photo. That action said everthing about her, cold and heartless.
Jambo   
21 Aug 2007
Love / Mexican in love with Polish girl. Need advice on what to do. [49]

It is possible to marry a Polish person in the UK. It might not be possible for Jonny to gain entry into the UK.

It is certainly not possible for a non UK resident to marry another non UK resident in the UK. In any event the question is academic as he would not be allowed in the UK. I would have thought his best bet is to go to Poland and marry her in Poland if that makes him a Polish resident/Polish passport holder and I do not know the answer to that. However that almost certainly means he cannot go back to the US.
Jambo   
20 Aug 2007
Love / Mexican in love with Polish girl. Need advice on what to do. [49]

You cannot come to the UK and get married to her as she is not a UK citizen so whoever told you that is wrong. She can only be in the UK living and working as she is a Polish citizen and Poland is part of the EU. In the EU there is freedom of movement and labour between EU countries which is why there is so many Polish people in the UK.
Jambo   
19 Aug 2007
Love / A Polish Girl Without Heart!! [54]

I think the above post is a bit harsh on Kiwi Boy he said he gave her his heart. Yes he mentioned expensive presents but I suspect he did that out of love. In my case I gave her my heart and helped her in every way I could as she settled in the UK. I gave her some presents the most expensive present being a £70 watch. I did not do that to win her affection but simply to say I cared. The night before she left ( Poland for one week then back to the UK for five weeks then to Germany if she passes her training) she said more in ten minutes to me about her feelings than in the previous four and a half months. She thanked me for everthing I had done for her, how much she liked me and how much she cared. But you know I felt it was a speech she had made before to many other men. She came back to the UK today I called her twice ( first attempted contact since she left) to wish her good luck for her training. She did not answer. I doubt I will hear anything from her ( despite her saying she wants us to remain close friends) again my usefulness is over. She will migrate to another man in Germany who can help her and the whole cycle will start again. She is one of these intinerant women who work around Western Europe collecting men that are useful to her and then dispose of them. She said herself she is cold and hard. One day though she will get her just deserts.
Jambo   
14 Aug 2007
Love / A Polish Girl Without Heart!! [54]

Yeah really positive thoughts which is great. In the end Kiwi Boy the loss is hers not yours. One day ( as also in the case of my Polish girlfriend as well) she will realise how much you did for her and how much you cared. It is better to have followed your heart and cared for her than not. This is how I feel and why I am positive like you.
Jambo   
14 Aug 2007
Love / A Polish Girl Without Heart!! [54]

I had exactly the same experience with my ex Polish Girlfriend as you so I share your feelings and pain. Other people said the same to me and I did not want to listen to them although I knew they were right. There is no doubt she liked me a lot but she also used me to help her and provide her with a home and stability having recently come to the UK. Nobody likes to feel used.

She left me house on Sunday ( her new job is taking her to Germany if she passes her training in the UK). She thanked me for everything and wants us to stay in touch and remain very good friends. I was pleased to see her go to be honest and will not have her back.

The worst thing for you will be feeling she has used you.You will get over her put it down to one of life's experiences and remember the good times.
Jambo   
31 Jul 2007
Love / I've met a Polish girl, and have feelings for her... [44]

at which point he should go & shag her best friend right ? ;-)

He is probably doing that anyway!

I know a woman whose ex boyfriend ( whom she never wanted to see again) found her pic on the internet purely by chance surfing one day and he managed to find out where she now lived etc. Quite scary.
Jambo   
31 Jul 2007
Love / I've met a Polish girl, and have feelings for her... [44]

Then he finds out what a cheat she really is ???

Yes that is what I meant by my post. Although the pic should not have been posted if the Polish boyfriend does find out I suspect their relationship is over.