i love you -why say it if you dont mean it

now this is interesting. i cant say rthe words 1 love you if i dont mean it. now i know some poeple do say it to get one thing-but i am not talking about that situation. i am talking about it in a serious context would you say i love you to someone knowing they believed you when you didnt mean it. why would anyone do that-?

No, I would not say that. Anyone honest wouldn't.

I know someone who tells his gf's he loves them just to shut them up!?

I think that is really low, but he says they keep saying it to him or they keep asking him and in the end he just says it so that they will be quiet.

Obviously, in the end these girls get their hearts broken because he leaves them and then they realise he never loved them.

Yep.. he's going straight to hell!

Seriously though, I don't understand why he would do that to them because he's not really that bad a person. I was married to him for 9 years so I understand him really well, but I can't work out how he can be so careless with other peoples feelings.

Its a nasty thing to do.... I hope it never happens to me.

i think most poles wouldn't. culture of america seems to be opposite of that. everyone throws those words around like it wasn't a big deal. americans are more open and expressive though.


sour grapes.

So you think an american is more eager to say it than a Pole?? Or more importantly say it for the wrong reason?

why is it easier for a man to tell a girl he loves them when he doesnt why shut them up-i dont understand this-its cruel its giving false hope surely i am not sure is moer honest

so when a polish guy says i love you he really means it?

Because it is easier for them not to deal with the situatuion then it is to just "talk" about it. Cause we as women will always ask the ever dreadful "Why" when we don't get the answer we want.


Let's hope so.

It is cruel but I'm not sure if it is easier to say for a man than a woman when they don't mean it.


That would be too easy ;)

Then anyone would be crazy about Polish guys!

yes, only hope....

cmon... Polish guys are the same guys you find everywhere in the world.... only because they are Polish it doesn't mean that because he said that he loves you, he really does... Polish guys lie too....

many guys are scared of saying i love you because they know it means more committment so they avoid saying it-or only say it when they really mean it. so whats the point in saying it if you dont mean it?

you should say 'i love you' when you are 100% sure he/she is the one...

the rest of it is just throwing meaningless words around...

definitely the second but also the first to some degree. poles are serious.


i found women to be just as evil.


you've never loved anyone even though they weren't "the one"?

no.... well, i loved only one guy, i thought he was 'the one' but he wasn't.... but i didn't love every guy i've been with...

wow.. really.. hmmm.. :)

theres love and theres being in love-you know when your in love

so whats the difference between i love you and i am in love with you

ppl usually love each other for entire life but they are in love at the beginning.... the trick is to be in love all the time, feel the passion

Hey, no not at all! I'm the only person he ever loved, so I have no hard feelings. I just think its cruel for him to do that to his subsequent gf's.

Sooo if an american says I love you, you should question it, but if a Pole says it, it is probably for real?

You are wise PG, you are wise indeed

maybe you shouldn't trust all americans...
but some of us are sincere ;)
...not all of us throw around "i love you"...when we know it's not true. ;)


i think the american culture definitely over uses them....
...but i think we just want some kind of reassurance that we are cared about
(that doesn't mean that everyone should be telling everyone they "love each other"...when it's not the real and honest truth.)

maybe americans are just more verbal?!?
and want verbal reassurance of somthing?!?

i am not sure why "love" is the instant thing to say.

Yes we are!! Sometimes to sincere and your heart is on your sleeve. And I agree we want reassurance. It feels good to say I love you.

good luck getting that out of a pole. lol j/k.. could be though bubbles; poles rarely say that they love you so if i heard it from one i'd think it to be more serious. but you know how it is with generalizations, don't you?


i wonder if that stems from the 60s; you know, peace and LOVE and don't bogart... :D

Oh wow........

Americans say: I love your car, I love your dog, etc.
If someone would say: "Kocham twój samochód" in Poland, they would think he's nuts!

but that's completely said in a different way to the real thing!

This is exactly the reason why I broke up with my last boyfriend. He would become upset, because I never told him I love him. I can't lie about and fake an emotion like love. He wouldn't accept the fact, he couldn't force me to fall in love with him.

it all becomes more clear...

I understand that but why stay with him as his girlfriend if you did not love him.

In my experience Polish men are very romantic.. my boyfriend was telling me he loved me after a relatively short space of time (in my opinion) and still tells me several times a day.. guys of other nationalities Ive been out with before him have been nowhere near as expressive as this.. so I was of the opinion that it was easier for Polish men to express themselves in this way and wondered, especially in the beginning of a relationship whether they said this to all girls. After reading this, I'm not sure. But anyway, as someone said earlier.. doesnt matter the nationality, guys can lie as well as women can.. and sadly sometimes people do say things they dont mean. Best to look for body language too, but personally I think actions speak a whole lot louder than words anyway.

This is so true. It is not what you say but how you act that counts. A man can say he loves you but is his behaviour consistent with that statement. That is the test. Also some people say it to test the reaction of the person they are saying it to.