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Someone please explain this to me [14]
its either all or nothing
Im stopping you right there , she said she isnt ready yet, doenst mean she will never
be, when she says things changed, its probably because you making her choose
and she sees you differently then the person she fell in love with.. you cant make it
happen or not, love grows, all the nice things add up.. stay friends , help with what
you can, but dont drive her away, your making the choices, its two way street you
have to lighten up or you will lose.. and see her often and just be there, she will
see that your the honest and good hearted one. you dont have to bend over
backwards, just being there, for other situations besides money, like going out and
talking..
thats it, I should just start a dear patty thread.. lol
I am ignoring my chores.. I hope it all works,, just dont force the me or the door
issue.. :)
I'll be going to Augustow near our home town Bialystok and she is already creating issues about it. So I told her that if she wants to come, its all good, it could be good time for us to figure our selves out, but she can't seem to make up her mind.
you should probably go without her, the only sense I can make is that she
is fearful of losing you, but for what reasons? and her friends saying she
messed up and you possibly leaving is creating anxiety for her because this is her
last shot at something good..
And she told me that before me, she had someone wait 6 years for her to tell him it wasn't going to work. And he waited patiently and he was crushed,
well, six years is a long time to wait,, i hardly think he would wait such a long time
and not know which way a relationship is going. she might not have felt the same
as he did, with you it sounds different.. she is confused.. maybe feeling rushed?
six years you can fall out of love with someone , every relationship is different so
I wouldnt compare the two either.. he could be in her eyes just a very good
friend whom she didnt want to hurt so badly but did so under her consious eating
away at her..
why dont you ask her plain out, do you love me or not? if she says no, then move on
if its I dont know, then shes keeping you around for that just in case, and if she
says yes, your rushing her, so try to be more patient.. all in all ,ask for honesty.