Ken Noddy
8 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
You and me both. Cheers.
I'm a bit brain dead now because I am so tired
You and me both. Cheers.
Ken Noddy
8 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
What does that mean exactly? I've heard that before but could never quite work it out.
"No man is an Island'
What does that mean exactly? I've heard that before but could never quite work it out.
Ken Noddy
8 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Looking for pro's and con's of being single really.
At a crossroads in life and not sure which path to take.
Do you think that some people are in relationships just because they are afraid of being single?
Society seems to exert alot of pressure on us to conform. Feeling this pressure at the moment. Feeling the pressure to get a girlfriend, settle down, start a family etc.
Not sure this is the right thing for me but the pressure just builds and builds as you get older.
Does anyone else feel this pressure?
Looking for pro's and con's of being single really.
At a crossroads in life and not sure which path to take.
Do you think that some people are in relationships just because they are afraid of being single?
Society seems to exert alot of pressure on us to conform. Feeling this pressure at the moment. Feeling the pressure to get a girlfriend, settle down, start a family etc.
Not sure this is the right thing for me but the pressure just builds and builds as you get older.
Does anyone else feel this pressure?
Ken Noddy
22 Jun 2007
Love / Want a female point of view on behaviour [14]
Forget Einstein, Newton, Freud or Socrates....if you really have figured out women then its the greatest discovery in the history of mankind.
Only joking, couldn't resist that one.
I think I have women all figured out now.
Forget Einstein, Newton, Freud or Socrates....if you really have figured out women then its the greatest discovery in the history of mankind.
Only joking, couldn't resist that one.
Ken Noddy
22 Jun 2007
Love / How to get to know a polish guy better? [102]
I beg to differ...for some, yes it is easy but others find this fear of rejection to be a massive obstacle to overcome. Speaking from personal experience I find anything like this so difficult and I really do understand you're situation liiii. It took me ages and ages to pluck up the courage to talk to the girl I liked and even though it didn't work out, the sense of accomplishment I felt from actually facing my fears outweighed the disappointment of not being with her.
This may be positive news for you, he may well like you very much but is just uncertain of the whole situation. He possibly does get the hint that you like him but is maybe doubting his own judgements and has this fear of rejection also. Taking it slow could be better, certainly I would be put off by a girl being a bit too forward and always taking the initiative (the chance would be a fine thing! :). I can't speak for him, but as probably the shyest and most introverted man on the planet I feel I can speak from a position of some authority!
The fact that you like this guy is actually positive news for me as I always thought that girls only went for bold and extravert men. This gives me new hope, thanks.
not that difficult
I beg to differ...for some, yes it is easy but others find this fear of rejection to be a massive obstacle to overcome. Speaking from personal experience I find anything like this so difficult and I really do understand you're situation liiii. It took me ages and ages to pluck up the courage to talk to the girl I liked and even though it didn't work out, the sense of accomplishment I felt from actually facing my fears outweighed the disappointment of not being with her.
I think he really is shy, he is not very extravert...
This may be positive news for you, he may well like you very much but is just uncertain of the whole situation. He possibly does get the hint that you like him but is maybe doubting his own judgements and has this fear of rejection also. Taking it slow could be better, certainly I would be put off by a girl being a bit too forward and always taking the initiative (the chance would be a fine thing! :). I can't speak for him, but as probably the shyest and most introverted man on the planet I feel I can speak from a position of some authority!
The fact that you like this guy is actually positive news for me as I always thought that girls only went for bold and extravert men. This gives me new hope, thanks.
Ken Noddy
21 Jun 2007
Love / How to get to know a polish guy better? [102]
There are a million possible maybe's, but you should probably prepare yourself for the worst. It sounds like you have made it quite clear that you like him and he is either not getting the hint (we can be a bit dim in this respect) or more realistically (and painfully) he doesn't feel the same way about you.
You really have to decide for yourself what to do next, you can continue taking it slowly, building up the friendship and hoping it leads to something more serious or grasp the bull by the horns and find out exactly where you stand. There isn't a right or wrong answer here, each to their own as they say.
A thought has just occured to me and it would be interesting to hear others views; do people ever change their minds about someone romantically? By this I mean that initially they may not be interested, but then it suddenly dawns on them that this person is right for them. I had always believed in the 'love at first sight' theory until the other day when a girl I am friendly with, who, I admit, I never previously considered attractive suddenly appeared in a different light. Maybe it happens, but trying to force someone to like you when they just don't doesn't work either and it is a really tricky situation to guage. My heart goes out to you and I hope you can find a solution. Your own happiness is the key in all of this, please remember that.
Maybe he's shy maybe he's gay (might have taken her along to meet work colleagues as a cover)...
There are a million possible maybe's, but you should probably prepare yourself for the worst. It sounds like you have made it quite clear that you like him and he is either not getting the hint (we can be a bit dim in this respect) or more realistically (and painfully) he doesn't feel the same way about you.
You really have to decide for yourself what to do next, you can continue taking it slowly, building up the friendship and hoping it leads to something more serious or grasp the bull by the horns and find out exactly where you stand. There isn't a right or wrong answer here, each to their own as they say.
A thought has just occured to me and it would be interesting to hear others views; do people ever change their minds about someone romantically? By this I mean that initially they may not be interested, but then it suddenly dawns on them that this person is right for them. I had always believed in the 'love at first sight' theory until the other day when a girl I am friendly with, who, I admit, I never previously considered attractive suddenly appeared in a different light. Maybe it happens, but trying to force someone to like you when they just don't doesn't work either and it is a really tricky situation to guage. My heart goes out to you and I hope you can find a solution. Your own happiness is the key in all of this, please remember that.
Ken Noddy
20 Jun 2007
Love / How to get to know a polish guy better? [102]
I guess it's good that at least you got the chance to see him again, okay, it wasn't one to one but taking it slowly may be the best way forward. I don't know, I'm not really the one to give advice on these matters.
I guess it's good that at least you got the chance to see him again, okay, it wasn't one to one but taking it slowly may be the best way forward. I don't know, I'm not really the one to give advice on these matters.
Ken Noddy
14 Jun 2007
Ken Noddy
14 Jun 2007
Ken Noddy
14 Jun 2007
Love / Do Polish men shave under their arms ? [45]
Okay, I've tried this. I'm not a faggot, I'm not a psycho but then again I'm not Polish either. The smell was getting a bit nasty, desparate times call for desparate measures. It certainly removed alot of the odour issues.
Okay, I've tried this. I'm not a faggot, I'm not a psycho but then again I'm not Polish either. The smell was getting a bit nasty, desparate times call for desparate measures. It certainly removed alot of the odour issues.
Ken Noddy
12 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Well done, that is such a brave and difficult thing to do. It was the right move. It always takes a wee while to get over. Respect.
Well done, that is such a brave and difficult thing to do. It was the right move. It always takes a wee while to get over. Respect.
Ken Noddy
11 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
This you must do. She is using you 100%. It is not a pleasant decision to make, but for your own pride, please end it asap.
You are in love with an ideal, but the reality just doesn't measure up. No-one, absolutely no-one, is worth that kind of hassle.
I understand how hard this is for you, a lot of us on here have been in similar positions. It is for the best.
It sounds like it's time for you to move on.
This you must do. She is using you 100%. It is not a pleasant decision to make, but for your own pride, please end it asap.
because I love her so I find myself running after her like a puppy doiing her shopping, buying cigarettes etc and I feel so stupid.
You are in love with an ideal, but the reality just doesn't measure up. No-one, absolutely no-one, is worth that kind of hassle.
I understand how hard this is for you, a lot of us on here have been in similar positions. It is for the best.
Ken Noddy
8 Jun 2007
Ken Noddy
8 Jun 2007
Ken Noddy
6 Jun 2007
Life / Beach fashion. Are Polish youth into baggy or tighter clothing? [48]
I wouldn't have the balls to wear a boykini (excuse the pun!)
I wouldn't have the balls to wear a boykini (excuse the pun!)
Ken Noddy
6 Jun 2007
Life / Beach fashion. Are Polish youth into baggy or tighter clothing? [48]
It varies, probably some do wear boykini. The point I was making is that it seemed that every single German wore these. It is only a stereotypical view of mine, I've nothing against Germans. Just calling it as I see it.
so what do British wear on the beach then?
It varies, probably some do wear boykini. The point I was making is that it seemed that every single German wore these. It is only a stereotypical view of mine, I've nothing against Germans. Just calling it as I see it.
Ken Noddy
6 Jun 2007
Life / Beach fashion. Are Polish youth into baggy or tighter clothing? [48]
Was in Tenerife a couple of years ago, full of Germans. They all seemed to wear these, thought it was part of their National dress!
I wouldn't step foot througha leg of boykini. Hell no.
Was in Tenerife a couple of years ago, full of Germans. They all seemed to wear these, thought it was part of their National dress!
Ken Noddy
6 Jun 2007
Life / Beach fashion. Are Polish youth into baggy or tighter clothing? [48]
Not a good look. Maybe if you have six pack but for hairy men with beer bellies it is a definite no no.
If you happen to make it to the beach, be aware that most men wear bikini briefs or tight boy shorts.
Not a good look. Maybe if you have six pack but for hairy men with beer bellies it is a definite no no.
Ken Noddy
3 Jun 2007
Love / Polish Engagement and Wedding Traditions [42]
This is very confusing, the girl I liked had a ring on her right hand. Whoops. I was always told to check the left hand for an indication.
This is very confusing, the girl I liked had a ring on her right hand. Whoops. I was always told to check the left hand for an indication.
Ken Noddy
31 May 2007
Love / A flying Dutchmen..deep in the Polish forest..... [34]
A very eloquent description.
Modern life seems to be invading every second in our lives. So many gadgets, internet, tv, desparate for a piece of our time. So many things to distract us. It is easy to get swept away on this tide, it takes courage and intelligence to fight against the current, to realise that this 'stuff' is unnecessary, it is spam and we need to filter it out properly.
It saddens me, I see it every day, people totally absorbed in meaningless activities, getting worked up about things that when you look back in a year, or a month, or a week, don't matter a goddamn. I am guilty of it myself, it takes courage to step back, to step out of yourself sort of and look at the bigger picture.
It seems to be human nature to 'busy ourselves', I guess it is good to be busy but the key is to be aware of the situation, to be in control so as not to let it dictate our lives.
loneliness
A very eloquent description.
we have smothered ourselves in activities, in books, in relationships, in ideas which really prevent us from being aware of loneliness.
Modern life seems to be invading every second in our lives. So many gadgets, internet, tv, desparate for a piece of our time. So many things to distract us. It is easy to get swept away on this tide, it takes courage and intelligence to fight against the current, to realise that this 'stuff' is unnecessary, it is spam and we need to filter it out properly.
It saddens me, I see it every day, people totally absorbed in meaningless activities, getting worked up about things that when you look back in a year, or a month, or a week, don't matter a goddamn. I am guilty of it myself, it takes courage to step back, to step out of yourself sort of and look at the bigger picture.
the mind will not let us be alone.
It seems to be human nature to 'busy ourselves', I guess it is good to be busy but the key is to be aware of the situation, to be in control so as not to let it dictate our lives.
Ken Noddy
29 May 2007
Love / Seeking advice - I get a feeling she is seeing other guys [25]
Thats good to hear.
but i think the other day we straightened it out.
Thats good to hear.
Ken Noddy
29 May 2007
Love / How to get to know a polish guy better? [102]
Been reading this thread with interest. I too am very shy and can certainly empathsise with your situation. Maybe all along he has been hoping you would make the first move.
How about sending him an email and suggesting that you meet up somewhere, just for a chat. Its not a marriage proposal, nothing like that, just two people who are friends. Thats what friends do, isn't it?
Trust your own judgment and take it slowly but I think it is best if you take control of this and make this first move. Believe me, I know it isn't easy but you will feel great that you have tried, even if it doesn't work out.
I'm too shy and afraid to ask him out, and I do hoped he would ask me...but not...
then we walked home again and said we would keep in touch by mail...
and realy i do'nt know what he thinks about me, and I start to think and analyse way too much...!! (making list in my head of pro and contra...)
Been reading this thread with interest. I too am very shy and can certainly empathsise with your situation. Maybe all along he has been hoping you would make the first move.
How about sending him an email and suggesting that you meet up somewhere, just for a chat. Its not a marriage proposal, nothing like that, just two people who are friends. Thats what friends do, isn't it?
Trust your own judgment and take it slowly but I think it is best if you take control of this and make this first move. Believe me, I know it isn't easy but you will feel great that you have tried, even if it doesn't work out.
Ken Noddy
28 May 2007
Love / HELP! SEXY POLISH FEMALE STUDENT ISSUES [57]
What do you mean by this?
I certainly wasn't implying that they where easy. I mean they are easy to talk to, they show interest in other people and smile a lot. This is a superb quality and it really shows up local women who appear much more guarded. I can understand how some men mistake this friendly attitude for something more.
I don't think hollywood has anything to do it.
What do you mean by this?
I certainly wasn't implying that they where easy. I mean they are easy to talk to, they show interest in other people and smile a lot. This is a superb quality and it really shows up local women who appear much more guarded. I can understand how some men mistake this friendly attitude for something more.
I don't think hollywood has anything to do it.
Ken Noddy
28 May 2007
Love / HELP! SEXY POLISH FEMALE STUDENT ISSUES [57]
Very true, I have found Polish girls to be way more friendly than native girls.
Why is that? It can be very misleading but that is no excuse in this case. Hang your head in shame.
non-native Poles can frequently misinterpret (certain, I hasten to add!) Polish women’s sweet friendliness as a green light/come on...
Very true, I have found Polish girls to be way more friendly than native girls.
Why is that? It can be very misleading but that is no excuse in this case. Hang your head in shame.
Ken Noddy
28 May 2007
Love / Seeking advice - I get a feeling she is seeing other guys [25]
It's a awkward situation, if you confront her it looks like you are being overbearing and a control freak. Proceed with caution.
And then you do not discuss it with her but post on a forum instead
It's a awkward situation, if you confront her it looks like you are being overbearing and a control freak. Proceed with caution.
Ken Noddy
23 May 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]
Thank's, you're very sweet.
Why should they? Everyone has their problems but it is unrealistic to expect someone else to do it for them. No, I need to find my own way through this maze called life.
Come on Ken......you seem to be attractive inside....after all this is what counts..cheer up
Thank's, you're very sweet.
But girls never help shy boys.
Why should they? Everyone has their problems but it is unrealistic to expect someone else to do it for them. No, I need to find my own way through this maze called life.
Ken Noddy
23 May 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]
Indeed. My problems have been well documented in another thread. I suppose I am making things out to be worse than they really are.
If I may be permitted could I run a thought by you Unicornes and indeed any other attractive women who may be out there. I have a theory and I would like to see if it is accurate or way wide of the mark. You're bound to get a lot of male attention but it requires much skill to determine the true intentions of potential suitors. Are they interested in you the person or are they just after your looks so they can brag to their mates about the 'babe they pulled'. It must be incredibly difficult to find the right guy and is probably the reason alot of beautiful women end up with unsuitable men. Actually, in my case, being not very attractive means that if (and it is a big if) I find someone I can be confident that they are interested in me for what I am and not for some superficial reason.
you need some self esteem thats all
Indeed. My problems have been well documented in another thread. I suppose I am making things out to be worse than they really are.
If I may be permitted could I run a thought by you Unicornes and indeed any other attractive women who may be out there. I have a theory and I would like to see if it is accurate or way wide of the mark. You're bound to get a lot of male attention but it requires much skill to determine the true intentions of potential suitors. Are they interested in you the person or are they just after your looks so they can brag to their mates about the 'babe they pulled'. It must be incredibly difficult to find the right guy and is probably the reason alot of beautiful women end up with unsuitable men. Actually, in my case, being not very attractive means that if (and it is a big if) I find someone I can be confident that they are interested in me for what I am and not for some superficial reason.
Ken Noddy
23 May 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]
Thanks Southern for trying to play cupid.
But seriously, Unicornes, I've seen your photo's. Phew, you are breathtakingly beautiful. You could have any man you desire. I'm just an ordinary, decent guy, my poor heart couldn't survive such a relationship. It would be broken for sure.
I think you would like a guy like Ken Noddy.
o lol, can u explain it?:P
Thanks Southern for trying to play cupid.
But seriously, Unicornes, I've seen your photo's. Phew, you are breathtakingly beautiful. You could have any man you desire. I'm just an ordinary, decent guy, my poor heart couldn't survive such a relationship. It would be broken for sure.
Ken Noddy
17 May 2007
Love / HOW MANY TIMES CAN YOU LOVE IN A LIFETIME? Once, twice or many ... [70]
I have a friend of a friend who is only mid 20's and he is already father of three children to three different women. Makes me sick and he is boasting to everyone. I would hold my head in his position. I feel sorry for the children, sorry for the mothers but angry that this is all too common. Makes me ashamed to be a man.
only 1? hey men. . u are born to make as much girls as possible pregnant^^ it s in ur nature to change girls! can u explain me this '1'?:P
I have a friend of a friend who is only mid 20's and he is already father of three children to three different women. Makes me sick and he is boasting to everyone. I would hold my head in his position. I feel sorry for the children, sorry for the mothers but angry that this is all too common. Makes me ashamed to be a man.
Ken Noddy
17 May 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]
I understand. Glad your exam went well.
You went into this relationship with honest intentions, he did not. He is to blame, not you.
Please don't run yourself down by saying that you are stupid, dumb, etc. It just isn't true and thinking these things can damage self esteem. I know, at your age I felt the same way and it spirralled downwards into depression which ten years later is hard to break out of. So try hard not to feel bad, it is not easy but is crucial for your future happiness. You seem a lovely girl, things will work out for you.
As for my opinions of Polish girls, I am probably not the best to say but I have found them to be beautiful, warm and friendly. They are certainly very popular where I live.
i m not gonna write about it here, interested? there is my mail in my profile^^
I understand. Glad your exam went well.
sure i was stupid, i must admit, but i m even happy that it happened to me, i ll be 100times more careful. . before u start insulting me by telling me how naive and dumb i am, keep in mind im only 19:P we should do mistakes in youth to avoid them in adulthood, dont we. .
You went into this relationship with honest intentions, he did not. He is to blame, not you.
Please don't run yourself down by saying that you are stupid, dumb, etc. It just isn't true and thinking these things can damage self esteem. I know, at your age I felt the same way and it spirralled downwards into depression which ten years later is hard to break out of. So try hard not to feel bad, it is not easy but is crucial for your future happiness. You seem a lovely girl, things will work out for you.
As for my opinions of Polish girls, I am probably not the best to say but I have found them to be beautiful, warm and friendly. They are certainly very popular where I live.