Yes, but it's typically not that commonplace among whites (abusing partners, leaving kids, and so forth).
No? Well, I wouldn't be too sure about the younger generations, and not to be excessively negative or anything, but I *do* see much more single mothers out here than let's say, fifteen years ago? But then again I don't really know if all those women experience this as a negative thing per se, so I'm not going to speak on their behalf or even expand on that subject too much!
It's not racist to remind someone considering a relationship with a black partner the cultural differences that exist. Trust me , there ar many and there is quite a chasm of mores, expectations, etc, etc.
I know, I have a few black friends myself. I've spoken with quite a few girls from Aruba, Surinam and the Dutch Antilles who have told me this about black guys quite a few times, so I'd say that's hardly racist coming from their own women! I also want to add that black guys who were born and raised in Holland tend to be gentlemen though. (Just being honest!) But you know, it's not about that. It's about Southern and how he puts his points across.