Women like to choose individuals who display certain characteristics,
Or perhaps some men are very good at hiding what they're really like.
I rarely talk about my private life on this forum and the only reason I am doing so now is because I get sick of men like you basically saying that in some way it is always the woman's fault and she deserves a smack in the mouth for daring to open hers.
I have been the victim of domestic violence. I was 6 months pregnant when my partner attacked me. The only thing stopping him was the guests we had staying in the next room who heard the commotion. He had come home drunk and far from giving him lip, I kept my mouth shut because I didn't want to aggravate him in any way.
I didn't deliberately choose someone who behaved like that. I never saw any signs of violent controlling behaviour or I would have run for the hills many years before.
I was also the victim of a sexual assault by the doctor who diagnosed my pregnancy. I testified against him along with 7 other women in Crown Court. He went to prison for those offences.
Please don't try telling me that either of those things that happened to me were my fault or that I deserved them in any way.
then they shouldn't complain but simply split up; unless they have children, then they should just grin and bear it*
In that situation you're going to end up with screwed-up kids. People whine about single parents but far better that than parents who are screaming constantly at each other.
No-one should stay together just because of the children. Two miserable parents = miserable and unhappy kids.
On those happy notes;) I'd like to wish all on PF a Happy New Year!!
Szczęśliwego Nowego Roku!!