Have you ever trained or participated in a sport for a long time? It can be amazing therapeutic.
No, I haven't, but I think I can somewhat understand this - painting is like that for me. It is therapeutic - when you're painting you focus only on that, it takes your mind off things, it can be an escape, something to help you get through stuff. But, to be honest, if someone very close to me died - a husband or a child - I wouldn't give a sh1t about painting... I think painting could prove to be therapeutic some time after the death, but not right away...
Sitting on the floor and pouring ashes over your head is of course nice and desirable - but not everyone can do that, Paulina.
There's nothing "nice" or "desirable" about sitting on the floor and pouring ashes over your head. I'm just talking about a normal human reaction to the sudden death of someone you loved very much...