My wife has been secretly sending money back to Poland

Just found out my wife is sending money back to Poland behind my back and am having to pay most of the bills in our house

well it is what it is, I do not know your situation but I would like to know what was the reason?

she always say she has not got a lot of money when it come to holidays and bills she works and brings home £1000 pound per month

did you confront her about it?

master, it may be time to re-consider if you are in a healthy relationship...

wow someone has problems, at this point I would say no wife no problem.

Call me old fashion but the master of the house always pays his bill, there's a different name for a man that has women working for him. Perhaps it's time to reconsider your nick or simply stop Trolling.

I am sorry you are in this situation but I would honestly say you are being walked all over. Maybe try to walk out on her and see how she reacts, you'll know her true intentions based on her reaction.

You will feel down about it no doubt but in the bigger picture it is the best you can do. You seem like a good respectful guy there is a girl who will be greatful to have a guy like you instead of disrespect you. I am sure you have more self respect for yourself than you are showing yourself. This is a good leaening experience for next time. I really wish you the best.

maybe you'll be surprised but I tend to agree with you here. My wife never had to work but if she did, she'd be eligible (she would be in any case and she wouldn't have to hide it, either) to help out her parents, to begin with. When you get married, your wife's family becomes yours and the other way around.

Why was my post removed?

Small potatoes. My wife works and pays very few of the bills. It's just the way it is. Why quibble over the little stuff. The money I make is in a joint account, the money she makes is in her account. But who cares, I don't.

that is very simple situation. You should immediately start to send your money on a secret location, behind back of `your` wife.

Plus, don`t try to seduce her. Give up, be happy and just play the game (eventually she would also want to prolong game). What to tell you man, marriage as institution is fatal for love and after some 10 years in a marriage, as one friend of mine said, when you jump at your wife its like that you jump on your own brother.

Very wise advice from Crow here.

Yes, it happens to simpletons. But intelligent people know how to plan their marriage so it gradually develops as a constant novelty for decades.

Do you know where the money goes? Is she saving for her retirement? There should be no secrets.. If you run into financial problem in the future, is she going to make the money available to help you recover or is the income intended to remain undeclared? That would be very selfish and punishable. My advice is, run a full investigation and find out.

Particularly if you are the only one working.... Walk softly and carry a big stick like Roosevelt proclaimed. In other words exercise intelligent forethought and take decisive action sufficiently far in advance.

I remember watching a film based on such a story - Bilet powrotny/ Return Ticket with Anna Seniuk from 1978. A sad film.

pl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bilet_powrotny


I won`t tell to avoid spoiling the fun from watching. .