I need help with this, I struggle to attract women. I was born in the US, attended college in the US, and am somewhat of a practicing Catholic. At 46 years old, I shouldn't be so picky, but Polish women are very pretty. I hope Polish men don't hate me because I am trying to pick up one of their own. I like my family, my culture, and my Catholicism. But, what I don't like about my culture, is that everyone around my family is boisterous, petty, there is jealousy, and boisterous fighting within family. I think White cultures are more tame, easy going, and less fighting within family. Plus they are Catholic, so I think I can bond with Catholic Polish women. My height is about 6 ft tall, not overweight, average build, non tattooed, non smoker, no drugs, and a clean cut appearance. In Europe, it is common for Europeans to speak multiple languages, so that should not be a problem. English and Spanish are the only languages I know. The challenge for me is going to be meeting them. How would I meet them if I ever decided to visit Poland, especially if I wanted to meet somewhat of a practicing Catholic? I love love love John Paul II. If Poland does not work out for me, I can try the small Catholic town next door in Germany, where Benedict XVI was from. Also, how would I protect myself from the type that just want to meet any US Citizen to get legal residency in the US and then that woman would soon leave me? What would be my best approach? Going to clubs by myself and try to make friends with the local guys/ bros and tell them my situation and see if they can help me? Also, how would Polish women perceive as Hispanic man from the US that looks a little on the tan, brown side? I would appreciate your help, thank you.
@Ironside I struggle for a reason, there is less Catholics in the US, and the US is becoming less religious. I would be very interested in meeting an attractive, Catholic Polish woman. They are also very smart and speak multiple languages. The challenge might be meeting them.
I guess everything happens for a reason. That reason will be there no matter where you go. I warn Ameircans from viewing European countries or countries like Poland through the lens of some unrealistic expectation. It is not a la la land it is a real place with good and bad sides. You can be disappointed if you go about it the wrong way because like everywhere you can attract the attention of the wrong kind of women. Just a friendly piece of advice.
@Ironside Another reason why I struggle is because the women around me, I don't find them interesting. They are from families that are very loud, boisterous, and fighting within family. Lots of drama and shouting, that is not for me. I think Polish culture has some similarities to Mexican culture, being close to family and Catholicism without the fighting. However, I am afraid I could meet the type that just wants US legal residency and that will be the end of that relationship.
how would I protect myself from the type that just want to meet any US Citizen to get legal residency in the US
Tell them that you'd like to move to Poland and see the reaction :)
Also, how would Polish women perceive as Hispanic man from the US that looks a little on the tan, brown side?
European women, especially from the non-Southern parts of the continent, often are into Hispanic-looking men. But, you know, considering that you're 46 and if you're not attractive yourself - don't expect that stunning model-like looking and very young women will be throwing themselves at you just because you're from the US or something (in case that's what you expect from an "Eastern European country").
Here's a YouTube channel of a guy from Latin America - he married a Polish woman and lives in Poland - he gives a lot of info about cultural differences and such, maybe you'll find it useful:
The challenge for me is going to be meeting them. How would I meet them if I ever decided to visit Poland
You know, there are quite a lot of Polish people and Americans with Polish roots who uphold Polish traditions living in the US. Is there no Polish community where you live? You could try to connect with them and see if you like anyone there or maybe it would help you to get Poles and Polish culture better - just a thought. 🤔
@coffeeman, if you live in some big city you could, for example, look for some Polish cultural center, some Polish shop, events connected to Polish culture - where Poles and Polish-Americans are likely to hang around.
@Paulina Thank you for your help... I don't have swag like him, I also don't have a heavy accent, my accent sounds standard California from US. The things I have going for me: my overall appearance and demeanor. 6 ft tall, not overweight, and don't dress tacky. My style of dress is conservative and presentable. Clean cut type guy, and very respectful to everyone. At my age, my best chance is women 35-46, somewhat attractive. Of course, I am not expecting runway model type. But, I still think I can pull someone decent looking, more on the attractive side. I am just going to have to go out there some time in the next couple of years. At the moment I am swamped with work and projects here in America. But, it is always good to be doing my howework for stuff like this. Thank you all for your responses, I didn't reply to everyone, but thank you all for your input.
When you meet one, it's time to test her if she is an alcoholic. If she has more than 2, run.
Is she a gold digger? If she asks you how much you make or what car you own or lease, run.
Does she swear? Run if she does. She is a lowlife.
If I were in your situation, I would walk up to a woman police officer, and ask her for directions, or if she could be your guide when she is free. "I am new here..".
If she is married, she will deliver on the first request and refuse the second. But will smile because you found her attractive.
My stats are that women cops are logical, straight, patient to a fault, don't smoke or drink, and don't spend endless hours in bars. And they are everywhere while on duty.
@Paulina Thank you for this tip, there is about 2 Catholic Churches within driving distance that minister to Polish people and Polish Americans. There is also a couple of meetup groups that meet here to promote Polish culture and the Polish language. My best bet is to attend Mass or one of their events when they have food sales or something, play dumb, like I am not there to hit on women, and hopefully I have enough courage to strike up a conversation with Polish women. They are very attractive and are Catholic. The pressure on me will be enormous, hopefully I don't come across as akward to them. Or maybe go plenty of times, befriend one of the bros and see if he could help introduce me to women. Thank you again for this tip.
there is about 2 Catholic Churches within driving distance that minister to Polish people and Polish Americans.
Yes, I was thinking about churches too, since you're a Catholic.
There is also a couple of meetup groups that meet here to promote Polish culture and the Polish language.
That's great. Even if you don't meet any woman there that you'll find interesting maybe you'll make friends and someone will introduce you to a single lady looking for a guy.
The pressure on me will be enormous, hopefully I don't come across as akward to them.
First of all - relax :) Poles appreciate people who show interest in Polish culture, traditions, history, etc. so I'm sure there's going to be a friendly atmosphere during those meetups :)
