Feedback / Polish forums members - please stop being agressive and dishonest. What a waste of potential. [48]

I am a foreigner who has been living in Krakow with my Polish partner for years. I have never posted here before but now after years, having ended up once again reading a post by a normal lovely person trying to use this website for it's purpose and being met only with strange rudeness, anger, aggression, downright lies and basically everything except for an actual answer. I feel compelled to speak now because this forum should be a valuable resource and for many of the questions people have asked, this has been the only website with a forum for discussion on it, or that could even potentially have any useful information. Unfortunately it does not live up to it's potential and as of yet I have found absolutely no information on here and even when somewhere amongst the arguments there is a nugget of potential truth, the surrounding posts throw everything into doubt and you dismiss the entire forum as untrustworthy, any helpful posts being swallowed up in the malestrom.

We often have varied Poland/Visa/Work/etc related things that we want to find answers about in Google and this website always shows up at near top of the list. (This is usually not a sign of good quality but rather of good SEO techniques) At first we clicked on this forum when we saw that there was a discussion about a particular query we had. After a few times of ending up here and reading the information available about our query and leaving empty handed and confused, we were soon to realise that it was full of bickering, calculated lies and downright rudeness - but empty of the information that it seemed it was its sole purpose to provide.

I'm not sure if there is a moderator on here - it doesn't seem like it - but if there is you should clean this place up and keep it in check because people need a forum like this. Perhaps someone should think of starting a new one.

Sometimes we would simply end up laughing at the pure ridiculous nature of the 'discussions' but I think never once have we clicked on a section of this forum and actually left satisfied and feeling like we had any kind of answer, direction or that we could come here to ask our own questions for support.

If you are behaving like this on this forum then I would say it's more or less a reflection of how you behave in real life, or perhaps it's the welled up bitterness behind aggression towards life itself that you do not feel you can express in your day to day physical reality.

This is a disease of humanity, this anger, this bitterness, this strange manipulation of the truth and this gut wrenching fear and today I have gotten to the point where I no longer can laugh at the behavior of the members here but I actually feel instead like crying for the sake of those who are asking potentially life changing questions and may feel this is their only chance to find them against the brick wall of red tape, company politics and faceless government agencies.

Your comments may be ruining peoples lives. It does have an effect, the negativity you portray hurts and discourages people - the lies you tell and the manipulation of the truth in order perhaps to stave off competition or simply our of viciousness is unnecessary.

There is enough ******** in the world, we need to band together and help each other out as a human team of compassion and support - not try to tear each other down so that we as individuals can get ahead. I'll tell you right now that if you live your life with this ruthless and self serving attitude then you will be fighting with your own heartless kind, forever looking over your shoulder for the knives being plunged into your back whilst you watch the calm, kind, compassionate and full hearted float lightly to the top with seemingly no effort. This will make you more bitter and you will try to drag them down, sometimes you will, you will shoot birds because you were jealous of their flight when instead you could have spent the time learning to fly yourself.

Mostly when people behave this way it is because they are deeply unhappy and they feel they have been given a hard lot - I understand this. I don't return your anger with anger, I simply wish to hold up a mirror to attempt to cease this cycle of cynicism.

Compassionate people and good people will never hate you for this, they won't judge you either because they will only feel your pain and take it on their shoulders.

You will continue to hurt yourself and those around you. Everyone is good at heart and if you can just TRY to change your aggressive patterns into kind ones, just a little bit every day and particularly when you are within the faceless confines of an INTERNET FORUM DESIGNED TO HELP PEOPLE then you might change peoples lives for the better with a simple sentence, or even with a lack of one.

If you don't have something helpful to say then it's probably better to stay silent or sign off this forum forever and let those who are here to listen and to learn use it to help the thousands of people who truly need its services each year.

Thank you for reading and I hope that you all find happiness and get to a place in yourself where you don't feel the need to be randomly aggressive or manipulative in an internet forum.

Maybe spend more time in a park or the mountains or anywhere else in your stunning country aside from in front of your computer (irony noted).