miska24
22 Dec 2012
Love / Polish girls and American boys (who don't even know where Poland is located ;) [36]
This is the advice coming from someone who used to think EXACTLY like you. I moved to U.S over four years ago, it's a huge culture shock especially when you're a grown up teen (I was 18 at the time), everything seems different.. and by this i really mean everything. I remember that I was so weirded out by American culture, I would refuse to date American boys, my friends were mostly "international" - mostly people i knew from local esl (english 2nd language) classes and I didnt seem to share anything with people my age, couldn't find a common language with them either. Well, it depends what makes you happy. You might meet a polish boy or an italian and make it a successful relationship here in U.S. To me, a huge breakdown came when I enrolled in community college and was forced to hang out with Americans, make friends, immerse in their culture, participate in study groups and all that. I started to understand their culture more and more, they introduced me to a variety of food i had no idea existed, football, they started taking me out..I really felt comfortable hanging out with them. The more I was hanging out with girls, I learned how to talk to the guys ..haha seriously it sounds like a long learning process and it seriously is. We do things different in Poland, we really do. You might of felt intimidated when he brought you home and you got a chance to meet his big family but I feel like in Poland bringing someone home is a huge deal whereas here in U.S parents are used to hanging out with their kids' gfs/bfs and its no biggie lol.
There's no tips on how to make it work. An excellent COMMUNICATION is a must. If something bothers you, your boyfriend needs to know about it. Also the fact that he didn't know where Poland was or never heard of it.. Think about it this way.. Would you rather be with an english guy and deal with all the stereotypes and stigma? Cuz they SURE DO know where Poland is and where poles come from. I'm sure you're gon have to compromise a lot but its absolutely doable. I'm in a great relationship and love my American boy so much :) Yes, we do fight. Is it because of cultural differences? I think its more cuz of personalities than the country of origin. And if you want him to open up to you and show more interest in your culture, do the same.
This is the advice coming from someone who used to think EXACTLY like you. I moved to U.S over four years ago, it's a huge culture shock especially when you're a grown up teen (I was 18 at the time), everything seems different.. and by this i really mean everything. I remember that I was so weirded out by American culture, I would refuse to date American boys, my friends were mostly "international" - mostly people i knew from local esl (english 2nd language) classes and I didnt seem to share anything with people my age, couldn't find a common language with them either. Well, it depends what makes you happy. You might meet a polish boy or an italian and make it a successful relationship here in U.S. To me, a huge breakdown came when I enrolled in community college and was forced to hang out with Americans, make friends, immerse in their culture, participate in study groups and all that. I started to understand their culture more and more, they introduced me to a variety of food i had no idea existed, football, they started taking me out..I really felt comfortable hanging out with them. The more I was hanging out with girls, I learned how to talk to the guys ..haha seriously it sounds like a long learning process and it seriously is. We do things different in Poland, we really do. You might of felt intimidated when he brought you home and you got a chance to meet his big family but I feel like in Poland bringing someone home is a huge deal whereas here in U.S parents are used to hanging out with their kids' gfs/bfs and its no biggie lol.
There's no tips on how to make it work. An excellent COMMUNICATION is a must. If something bothers you, your boyfriend needs to know about it. Also the fact that he didn't know where Poland was or never heard of it.. Think about it this way.. Would you rather be with an english guy and deal with all the stereotypes and stigma? Cuz they SURE DO know where Poland is and where poles come from. I'm sure you're gon have to compromise a lot but its absolutely doable. I'm in a great relationship and love my American boy so much :) Yes, we do fight. Is it because of cultural differences? I think its more cuz of personalities than the country of origin. And if you want him to open up to you and show more interest in your culture, do the same.