beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Do I need a visa to visit Poland for 6 weeks? [20]
Yeah that clears it up. Feels like I am text messaging with a 10yo.
Yeah that clears it up. Feels like I am text messaging with a 10yo.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Poland from a Persian Tourist's Perspective [269]
And that's why nobody stays here for long...if you don't march lock step with the mob here you get pounced on. No room for differing views here ladies and gentlemen ;)
And that's why nobody stays here for long...if you don't march lock step with the mob here you get pounced on. No room for differing views here ladies and gentlemen ;)
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Do I need a visa to visit Poland for 6 weeks? [20]
When I first glanced at the post I thought it said GRANDMA passed away and imagined you carrying her ashes across. I felt bad for a second ;)
When I first glanced at the post I thought it said GRANDMA passed away and imagined you carrying her ashes across. I felt bad for a second ;)
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Do I need a visa to visit Poland for 6 weeks? [20]
I don't think you can carry a grandma across as proof of residence ;) Her head wouldn't fit in the document scanner :P
I don't think you can carry a grandma across as proof of residence ;) Her head wouldn't fit in the document scanner :P
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Do I need a visa to visit Poland for 6 weeks? [20]
Ah ok....that would make sense as there are no stamps within the "border" of Schengen. But I can see it causing you a problem when trying to get out as you can't prove how long you had been there unless you had a residence card or something else for DE.
Guess I should have been clear and said you get the 90 day stamp at the first border your cross entering Schengen. If you are flying direct to Warsaw it would be there.
Ah ok....that would make sense as there are no stamps within the "border" of Schengen. But I can see it causing you a problem when trying to get out as you can't prove how long you had been there unless you had a residence card or something else for DE.
Guess I should have been clear and said you get the 90 day stamp at the first border your cross entering Schengen. If you are flying direct to Warsaw it would be there.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Do I need a visa to visit Poland for 6 weeks? [20]
When coming from outside the EU? Weird. There would be no way to prove how long you had been in Schengen without it. But I didn't get stamps on the train often in the old days when you had to cross eveery 3 months. Who knows.
When coming from outside the EU? Weird. There would be no way to prove how long you had been in Schengen without it. But I didn't get stamps on the train often in the old days when you had to cross eveery 3 months. Who knows.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Do I need a visa to visit Poland for 6 weeks? [20]
Assuming you are American you get a 90 day tourist stamp at the border. Only need valid passport.
Assuming you are American you get a 90 day tourist stamp at the border. Only need valid passport.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Life / Which on the list of Polish girl's names do you like the most? [67]
Ah yeah I like this one because of the short name Kasia.....classic and nice sounding.
Isn't Basia a short form of something?
Katarzyna.
Ah yeah I like this one because of the short name Kasia.....classic and nice sounding.
Basia
Isn't Basia a short form of something?
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Life / Which on the list of Polish girl's names do you like the most? [67]
I love the names Magdalena, Justyna, and Elzbieta. I am old fashioned like that.
I love the names Magdalena, Justyna, and Elzbieta. I am old fashioned like that.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / Secret meaning..What does it mean when a polish girl touches her nose? [43]
Fair enough. I am still going to drool however.
That could be true but if you were nice looking i'm sure we wouldn't be screaming about you staring ;)
Fair enough. I am still going to drool however.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
I know exactly where they come from...never said I didn't. The thing myself and others like me are annoyed by are:
1. You (polish people) perpetuate those insecurities and use them as "victim status" often.
2. You regularly overcompensate by bragging and taking credit for everything under the sun.
3. You can't admit fault (because they would in your minds validate the "stupid Poles" theme)
I know exactly where they come from...never said I didn't. The thing myself and others like me are annoyed by are:
1. You (polish people) perpetuate those insecurities and use them as "victim status" often.
2. You regularly overcompensate by bragging and taking credit for everything under the sun.
3. You can't admit fault (because they would in your minds validate the "stupid Poles" theme)
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
Most people intend this....very few actually do it. Reality of life takes over and people communicate in the simplest common denominator. Not saying it is impossible...but I think many people expect too much and assume since they have known a language their whole life that anyone can pick it up.
but i will for sure be making every effort to learn as much of her language as i can , so that i can talk to her in her language as well as mine..
Most people intend this....very few actually do it. Reality of life takes over and people communicate in the simplest common denominator. Not saying it is impossible...but I think many people expect too much and assume since they have known a language their whole life that anyone can pick it up.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
Of course....us "foreigners" can't possibly notice a self confidence complex when we see it. Only another Pole could possibly know the TRUTH about why we are so sensitive. Please.
Her first reaction was to separate it into "big bad arrogant westerner" and "poor little persecuted easterner".
I feel bad for her that he was not good to her...I have had the same experience. But this innate reaction of accusing him of seeing her as a stupid Pole has nothing to do with the relationship and everything to do with the cultural complex.
Of course....us "foreigners" can't possibly notice a self confidence complex when we see it. Only another Pole could possibly know the TRUTH about why we are so sensitive. Please.
Her first reaction was to separate it into "big bad arrogant westerner" and "poor little persecuted easterner".
I feel bad for her that he was not good to her...I have had the same experience. But this innate reaction of accusing him of seeing her as a stupid Pole has nothing to do with the relationship and everything to do with the cultural complex.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
I did not attack you...I was also not getting "grief" from Poles...I was just not happy with a lot of the cultural issues that made life complicated for me. I pointed out your automatic default to the "we are seen as lesser and poor us" mentality that Poles exhibit a lot. That has nothing to do with either of our relationships. I don;t disagree people shouldn't try to learn..I do think you have unrealistic expectations when you have been learning English since childhood and he likely never even cared about Polish until he met you.
In any case I was more commenting on your "it was almost like he saw me as a stupid easterner" comment. It is a default attitude amongst Poles and of course you don't want to admit it. The complex is very real. Even a lot of Poles admit it. It is annoying and self perpetuating. If you had just said he was a tw@t because he didn't even try and treated you like cr@p fair enough I would have left it.
I did not attack you...I was also not getting "grief" from Poles...I was just not happy with a lot of the cultural issues that made life complicated for me. I pointed out your automatic default to the "we are seen as lesser and poor us" mentality that Poles exhibit a lot. That has nothing to do with either of our relationships. I don;t disagree people shouldn't try to learn..I do think you have unrealistic expectations when you have been learning English since childhood and he likely never even cared about Polish until he met you.
In any case I was more commenting on your "it was almost like he saw me as a stupid easterner" comment. It is a default attitude amongst Poles and of course you don't want to admit it. The complex is very real. Even a lot of Poles admit it. It is annoying and self perpetuating. If you had just said he was a tw@t because he didn't even try and treated you like cr@p fair enough I would have left it.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
Right....Poles do it just as bad as anyone. That's why I commented on your assumption he was the big smart Brit and you were the stupid little Pole. It is a behavior irrelevant to nationality to be a jerk or to default to the simplest language.
My ex got a dose of her own medicine the times we went to the US and she was not in control and couldn't understand the system, customs or all language in certain areas with strong accents and she hated it...gave her a new appreciation for that I went through every day in Poland. It's never easy to be the odd man out.
Right....Poles do it just as bad as anyone. That's why I commented on your assumption he was the big smart Brit and you were the stupid little Pole. It is a behavior irrelevant to nationality to be a jerk or to default to the simplest language.
My ex got a dose of her own medicine the times we went to the US and she was not in control and couldn't understand the system, customs or all language in certain areas with strong accents and she hated it...gave her a new appreciation for that I went through every day in Poland. It's never easy to be the odd man out.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
How can you accuse me of being "hung up" and dismiss what I say when your language makes it obvious you are angry at him still?
Sorry things didn't work out but it doesn't mean someone thinks you are "less" because of where you are from. You clearly have confidence issues because you keep saying things like "people like you make others feel like they don't belong" etc. Do you think I felt like I belonged in Poland? You are never going to fit in a foreign place as well as you can at home. It is always challenging to be an expat in some ways. Maybe you need to go home. It worked wonders for me in a lot of ways.
How can you accuse me of being "hung up" and dismiss what I say when your language makes it obvious you are angry at him still?
Sorry things didn't work out but it doesn't mean someone thinks you are "less" because of where you are from. You clearly have confidence issues because you keep saying things like "people like you make others feel like they don't belong" etc. Do you think I felt like I belonged in Poland? You are never going to fit in a foreign place as well as you can at home. It is always challenging to be an expat in some ways. Maybe you need to go home. It worked wonders for me in a lot of ways.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
Yeah right...the "supposed inferiority complex". YOU exhibited it.
You are projecting. Accusing me of making comments because of my relationship experience but it's obvious to all in your last posts that is exactly what YOU are doing. You are angry and called him a twit even.
Yeah right...the "supposed inferiority complex". YOU exhibited it.
You are projecting. Accusing me of making comments because of my relationship experience but it's obvious to all in your last posts that is exactly what YOU are doing. You are angry and called him a twit even.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Travel / Poland from a Persian Tourist's Perspective [269]
You cannot be serious?
I don't know why people keep claiming that we have a problem with the Jews or anyone else for that matter.
You cannot be serious?
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
No you people as in Poles. You have complexes about how people see you and your statement is a perfect example of it. You made this assumption he thought you were a "silly little easterner"
My ex and those around me always spoke English....made it really hard to gain any proficiency. People will always default to the simplest common option. It takes YEARS to learn Polish fluently. You can't expect someone who visits occasionally to do it. When else would he use it? It's not disrespectful its practical. People have to have a practical motivation to really learn a new language..."Love" isn't going to cut it. Communication needs will always come first and people will do so following the path of least resistance...if you hadn't learned English as a kid and you moved to a place where a lot of people spoke Polish the odds of you learning English would be slim. I see it here in the US all the time....immigrants who don't speak English because they live in communities of their own people and never have to learn it.
No you people as in Poles. You have complexes about how people see you and your statement is a perfect example of it. You made this assumption he thought you were a "silly little easterner"
My ex and those around me always spoke English....made it really hard to gain any proficiency. People will always default to the simplest common option. It takes YEARS to learn Polish fluently. You can't expect someone who visits occasionally to do it. When else would he use it? It's not disrespectful its practical. People have to have a practical motivation to really learn a new language..."Love" isn't going to cut it. Communication needs will always come first and people will do so following the path of least resistance...if you hadn't learned English as a kid and you moved to a place where a lot of people spoke Polish the odds of you learning English would be slim. I see it here in the US all the time....immigrants who don't speak English because they live in communities of their own people and never have to learn it.
beelzebub
9 Mar 2010
Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]
Wow what an expression of the victim mentality. You people perpetuate this idea and it is from your minds not ours. He probably felt self conscious since he didn't speak Polish and you spoke really good English. It is easier to fall back on the most common option. It is uncomfortable to not understand.
This "almost as if he is better because he is from the West" nonsense is a figment of your imagination. It is about human nature and communication abilities not where you are from.
When one person already speaks the other's language fluently it becomes the default communication mode. You can't express yourself when you don't know how to speak that well so it's natural to do this. Polish is a tough language and unless there is a real need to it is not likely someone is going to invest in it. I know lots of expats that have lived there for a long time and still speak very little because everyone around them speaks English. It's life.
it's almost like he's more important because he's British and you're from some silly little Eastern European country so your needs are second best.
Wow what an expression of the victim mentality. You people perpetuate this idea and it is from your minds not ours. He probably felt self conscious since he didn't speak Polish and you spoke really good English. It is easier to fall back on the most common option. It is uncomfortable to not understand.
This "almost as if he is better because he is from the West" nonsense is a figment of your imagination. It is about human nature and communication abilities not where you are from.
When one person already speaks the other's language fluently it becomes the default communication mode. You can't express yourself when you don't know how to speak that well so it's natural to do this. Polish is a tough language and unless there is a real need to it is not likely someone is going to invest in it. I know lots of expats that have lived there for a long time and still speak very little because everyone around them speaks English. It's life.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Love / Secret meaning..What does it mean when a polish girl touches her nose? [43]
Then cover them up. Men are not complicated when it comes to this. Exposing the parts we find luscious and then screaming about it is a bit silly ;)
They know exactly what they are doing.
Then cover them up. Men are not complicated when it comes to this. Exposing the parts we find luscious and then screaming about it is a bit silly ;)
They know exactly what they are doing.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Life / Mixed race girl in Poland, good idea? [149]
Another Polish expat defending the virtues of Poland while not even living there or having anything to do with life there. How quaint.
Another Polish expat defending the virtues of Poland while not even living there or having anything to do with life there. How quaint.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Life / Mixed race girl in Poland, good idea? [149]
Nope.....not feeling guilty. Next topic?
Regarding Poland's finances it is well known that without assistance from the EU and international investors Poland would collapse financially. All nations are intertwined now and many could not survive if they were cut out of that circle of funds.
More pride showing.
Nope.....not feeling guilty. Next topic?
Regarding Poland's finances it is well known that without assistance from the EU and international investors Poland would collapse financially. All nations are intertwined now and many could not survive if they were cut out of that circle of funds.
More pride showing.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Life / Mixed race girl in Poland, good idea? [149]
I never give it a thought unless someone like you brings it up. You know why? Because I had no control over where and when I was brought into this life. Zero. Therefore I have no responsibility for anything that occurred before I was old enough to control my own actions. Therefore I feel no guilt about that bad things people did before me. Simple.
What do you want me to do cry daily for all the slaves in history? Should I flog myself, not use indoor plumbing and give everything I earn to the ancestors of said slaves? No thanks.
We all....every one of us...YOU INCLUDED...live on the backs of those who came before us. We live using their architectures, cultures, economies etc. You are not more "wholesome" if you come from a village in Tibet than if you are born to Lenin. You sound like a hippy.
You are still benefit of this. You didn't do a bad things - someone else did it for you. How comfortable...
I never give it a thought unless someone like you brings it up. You know why? Because I had no control over where and when I was brought into this life. Zero. Therefore I have no responsibility for anything that occurred before I was old enough to control my own actions. Therefore I feel no guilt about that bad things people did before me. Simple.
What do you want me to do cry daily for all the slaves in history? Should I flog myself, not use indoor plumbing and give everything I earn to the ancestors of said slaves? No thanks.
We all....every one of us...YOU INCLUDED...live on the backs of those who came before us. We live using their architectures, cultures, economies etc. You are not more "wholesome" if you come from a village in Tibet than if you are born to Lenin. You sound like a hippy.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Life / Mixed race girl in Poland, good idea? [149]
Hahaha....yeah as if Poland was built on the backs of only hard working and honest people? Give me a break. Every developed nation is guilty of things we now think are not nice.
I have no guilt nor responsibility for anything someone in the past did. I find it humorous that you imagine anyone could. Guilt is a reaction to having done something wrong. I didn't do any of those things. I live my life well and give to others when I can. I do not own slaves and do not waste in life.
Even if say my father or someone right in my bloodline did something bad I bear no responsibility for that and therefore no guilt.
Methinks you have semantics issues and like to pretend things mean differently than they really do.
Hahaha....yeah as if Poland was built on the backs of only hard working and honest people? Give me a break. Every developed nation is guilty of things we now think are not nice.
I have no guilt nor responsibility for anything someone in the past did. I find it humorous that you imagine anyone could. Guilt is a reaction to having done something wrong. I didn't do any of those things. I live my life well and give to others when I can. I do not own slaves and do not waste in life.
Even if say my father or someone right in my bloodline did something bad I bear no responsibility for that and therefore no guilt.
Methinks you have semantics issues and like to pretend things mean differently than they really do.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Life / Mixed race girl in Poland, good idea? [149]
Seconded...you did do this enkidu. Ironically you accused someone of being racist. Make up your mind.
Good catch Trevek.
Seconded...you did do this enkidu. Ironically you accused someone of being racist. Make up your mind.
Good catch Trevek.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
USA, Canada / Finding a job without work permission in the US [32]
By encouraging people like the OP you add to the problem...THAT is what screws "us" over. You already expressed your selfishness by saying since "it get's me nothing I don't care what happens there" pretty much. "Why should I care?". It's obvious how you are adding to the problem.
I met lots of expats like you in my years living abroad and seems they hated their country so bad I wondered why they don't give up citizenship.
By encouraging people like the OP you add to the problem...THAT is what screws "us" over. You already expressed your selfishness by saying since "it get's me nothing I don't care what happens there" pretty much. "Why should I care?". It's obvious how you are adding to the problem.
I met lots of expats like you in my years living abroad and seems they hated their country so bad I wondered why they don't give up citizenship.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
USA, Canada / Finding a job without work permission in the US [32]
Wow...thanks. Screw those of us living here over because you don't care and aren't affected so much by it. Nicely done. Selfish tw@t.
Not our fault the IRS sucks. Don't take it out on us. Feel free to renounce your citizenship and become another nation's problem.
I haven't been a resident in the USA for a long while.
Wow...thanks. Screw those of us living here over because you don't care and aren't affected so much by it. Nicely done. Selfish tw@t.
Not our fault the IRS sucks. Don't take it out on us. Feel free to renounce your citizenship and become another nation's problem.
beelzebub
8 Mar 2010
Real Estate / Just by gauging the interest in this forum says all about property in PL [36]
I don't understand how Poles pay for their homes. The flat costs compared to the salaries do not mesh. They couldn't possibly pay a lot of those prices off in a lifetime of working.
I also notice a lot of cheating in regard to taxes and who "owns" the flat. Everyone I knew with a flat had it "owned" on paper by some dead grandma or some other odd arrangement to prevent some inheritance tax etc.
I don't understand how Poles pay for their homes. The flat costs compared to the salaries do not mesh. They couldn't possibly pay a lot of those prices off in a lifetime of working.
I also notice a lot of cheating in regard to taxes and who "owns" the flat. Everyone I knew with a flat had it "owned" on paper by some dead grandma or some other odd arrangement to prevent some inheritance tax etc.