Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]

Hi
Im looking for some advice if anyone can help. im starting from the begining so please excuse the long post

I have been with my girlfriend for just 10 years now, she is polish and i am english, we are not married its not something that we are bothered about.

she is 29 and i am 39. we have an 9 year old boy together.
to start with our relationship was brilliant although difficult because she got pregnant really quick into our relationship. we never really had the honey moon period per say where you get to spend time together as a couple and falling for each other, we were thrown straight into family life, we moved in together and immediatley started seeing each others bad habits which when you have gone through the whole dating and year long relationship isnt that bad but when you do it within months of seeing each other is not attractive.

anyway we batted on and i worked while she was mothering our baby and when he was old enough he went to nursery and she started working part time.

We dont have family or friends close by so we never really spent time together alone going out etc. we always did things as a family.

we had some bumps in the road but we got through them.
fast forward to the present and she still works partime whilst studying and this has been like this for the last 3 years, which i get because she wants to better herself.

so i would leave for work at 6am and return at 17.30 she would drop our son to school go to work and then pick him up after. she cooks dinner for us and then we eat when i come home.

she would then study (online at home) and i would do the housework do homework with our son and do things with him, either his football lessons or his music lessons.

on the weekend we would both clean the house and do something as a family, and on the second day she would study for most of it.

we always go on holidays and family fuctions xmas birthdays etc together.
she has friend she met around 4 years who also has a child similar age to ours, she meets with her quite often and goes out for coffee and sometimes for drinks with her.

she missis her party years because she fell pregnant during thoose best years and im ok with her going out with her friend to try and make up for it and have a good time.

over the last year our personal relationship has died down,. i love her to the moon. she really is my everything, but recently she has told me she doesnt love me any more, she is really beautiful and attractive so i know she gets lots of attention, but she would never cheat on me she is not like that in the slightest, she has said that she doesnt feel like she loves me anymore, and she thinks we should separate or not live together(stay together but live in separte houses).

i was absolutley heart broken when she said this, i as most guys would think immediatly thought that there is another guy involved, but she really doesnt have the time for anything outside of the above with the studying and work, we have no time for each other so i dont think she has the time for someone else.

i put it down to our hectic start together, not getting the chance to know each other to start with properly before moving in together and the whole crazy lifestyle of work studying and family life. and being in the same routine the last 9 years.

i want to take her out, i want to take her dancing and drinking and have a good time and try to live the whole get to know you again part, because even though we have been together for so long as couple we have not gone out with each other as much, either she would go with her friend i would look after our son or i would go out and she would look after him.

i believe that our family is worth saving and i will go to any lengths to do that, to make her fall in love with me agian, but at the same time i dont want to be selfish and hold her back.

im absolutley devastated about this and i think its because we have just got into a boring life routine with no time for each other that we have got to this point.

she is polish through and through and i need advice from you guys if this is the end and she wants to move on, or what should i do to try and get her to fall back in love.

we respect each other alot and i dont want to pressure her by being a sudden overbearing romantic showering of gifts flowers and nice messages every day, im lost to be honest and i need some polish peoples advice as our cultures do differ in these situations, i dont want our family to break up, her studies finish in 3 months and i was hoping to get our life back on track and rekindle our relationship.

please your opinions and advice are valuable to me.
thankyou for taking the time