NewBritAbroad
20 Sep 2020
Law / Relocation to Poland from UK & Relationship Breakdown (involving child) [7]
Hi all,
I'm new to this forum, but reaching out for help/guidance please.
I've recently relocated to Poland - from the UK - around 7 months ago, just before the global lockdown took hold, along with my girlfriend and our infant daughter. However, our relationship is now practically over and I'm completely lost with regards to my/her/daughters rights in Polish law.
We've been together over 6 years, are not married, and our daughter holds dual British/Polish nationality. We often came to Poland to visit her relatives over the years, and I grew to really like the country, people, culture etc.
My girlfriend spent all of her adult life in the UK, but suddenly decided she wanted to start a new life in Poland - to the extent that she told me that her & my daughter were going with or without me. Reluctant to miss out on my daughters future, after much thought and worry, I agreed. We sold everything, the house, cars, etc and took the leap.
Everything was great for the first few months, however we gradually grew more and more distant. She quit her job about 6 months before we left. I found a job pretty quickly after we got here, but she was wanted to wait until our daughter started nursery (September - and she has now started working again), which left me funding the family for the past year. We've always shared our money, but she's always been terrible with money and we'd often argue about finances when she demands money. In fact, she recently demanded half of our money (GBP after selling the house, etc), which I gave her - despite the fact that the house deposit, furnishings, and cars, were all paid for by myself/or finance taken in my name due to her bad credit history.
I recently flew back to the UK to give us both some space, and she begged me not to leave constantly during my 6 hour journey to the airport - but sadly nothing has changed. We're more like awkward friends now, but the strangest part is that she seems to ignore our issues and avoid talking about separating since I returned. This makes me think she wants me to make the first move - would this benefit her from a legal standpoint in some way?
I'm concerned about my options moving forward, as after reading a few threads on here, it appears that the Polish authorities always favour the Polish mother over a foreign party.
Essentially, I would move back to the UK as there's nothing else here for me. Where does this leave me?
1. What are my visitation rights?
2. What should I expect to pay in child maintenance fees, and does this take into account the cost of travel/hotels to see my daughter?
3. Could I take my daughter back with me (either for short visits, or permanently)?
4. What could she possibly gain from this situation?
5. If I walk away, does that affect my legal position/obligations in a negative way?
Sorry for the essay, but any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance!
Hi all,
I'm new to this forum, but reaching out for help/guidance please.
I've recently relocated to Poland - from the UK - around 7 months ago, just before the global lockdown took hold, along with my girlfriend and our infant daughter. However, our relationship is now practically over and I'm completely lost with regards to my/her/daughters rights in Polish law.
We've been together over 6 years, are not married, and our daughter holds dual British/Polish nationality. We often came to Poland to visit her relatives over the years, and I grew to really like the country, people, culture etc.
My girlfriend spent all of her adult life in the UK, but suddenly decided she wanted to start a new life in Poland - to the extent that she told me that her & my daughter were going with or without me. Reluctant to miss out on my daughters future, after much thought and worry, I agreed. We sold everything, the house, cars, etc and took the leap.
Everything was great for the first few months, however we gradually grew more and more distant. She quit her job about 6 months before we left. I found a job pretty quickly after we got here, but she was wanted to wait until our daughter started nursery (September - and she has now started working again), which left me funding the family for the past year. We've always shared our money, but she's always been terrible with money and we'd often argue about finances when she demands money. In fact, she recently demanded half of our money (GBP after selling the house, etc), which I gave her - despite the fact that the house deposit, furnishings, and cars, were all paid for by myself/or finance taken in my name due to her bad credit history.
I recently flew back to the UK to give us both some space, and she begged me not to leave constantly during my 6 hour journey to the airport - but sadly nothing has changed. We're more like awkward friends now, but the strangest part is that she seems to ignore our issues and avoid talking about separating since I returned. This makes me think she wants me to make the first move - would this benefit her from a legal standpoint in some way?
I'm concerned about my options moving forward, as after reading a few threads on here, it appears that the Polish authorities always favour the Polish mother over a foreign party.
Essentially, I would move back to the UK as there's nothing else here for me. Where does this leave me?
1. What are my visitation rights?
2. What should I expect to pay in child maintenance fees, and does this take into account the cost of travel/hotels to see my daughter?
3. Could I take my daughter back with me (either for short visits, or permanently)?
4. What could she possibly gain from this situation?
5. If I walk away, does that affect my legal position/obligations in a negative way?
Sorry for the essay, but any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance!