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Posts by Lenka  

Joined: 17 Nov 2009 / Female ♀ 		Last Post: 17 hrs ago
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Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

But men, in most cases, are absolutely atrocious when it comes to house chores.

Because they don't do it. Believe, girls are not born with the knowledge how to cook, clean etc. We learn. Do you want to tell me that an adult man is not capable of distinguish, vacuuming and following a recipe?

Why does it have to be this strange and unnatural "equal" division of earning and house chores?

It doesn't have to be but more and more women decide that they don't like that division. Plus unless a women is not working at all it makes it u fair.
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
Life / Why is women-hatred and stereotyping so popular in Poland? [181]

If yes, the location is irrelevant.

It's very relevant.
We don't force people to donate Blood or organs even when it can save a life. But we do force women to be unwillingly carry a baby.

That being said I'm not a supporter of late abortions beside medical issues
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

that's not the point of homeworks anyway.

Of course not but you gave it as an example of how you have time for your kids.

rather work 2 jobs and bring in a lot of money into your hosehold or have your hubby do all the chores and rise kids

Neither. I'd rather we both worked and both took care of home and kids.

But tbh if the kids and cares were really taken care of I would rather work.

Somehow guys don't jumping on those 'not that hard chores'
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

usually work 7:30-19:30

So your kids do homework after 19:30?
In most homes I knew that was time when kids were having their bed time phase.

Get back to me when you have a husband and children of your own

How do you know she doesn't?
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

I work over 1.5 full-time

I don't work weekends anymore

That means that Monday to Friday you work over 12 hours a day.
What time do you actually do that homework with them?

When, and if, you ever have children on your own,

Paulina never said if she has kids. It's possible she is a mother.
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

A big house and a private school have never brought happiness to anyone

Apparently it makes up for going to park with your Daddy. To each their own.

And yes Kania, I would rather have my kids going to state school than have their father being basically gone from their life.
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

Unless, of course those 95% of men earned enough in one job for all their families' needs.

Usually both work.

that's the kind of men you meet and live around, please accept the expressions of my deep regret.

I'd rather have less materiał things and have a father, partner etc that is actually there when I need him.
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

unless you have proof that women take care of finances in Polska "B" and men in Polska "A"

I'm Polska A and I see tge same you so.
Lenka   
12 Sep 2023
News / Polish Parliamentary Elections 2023 [933]

While I do know of some man that may take a gig or two outside of their Jobs 95% of man I know and knew had 1 job. In fact it was my mom that at times worked more than one job due to the demand.
Lenka   
9 Sep 2023
Life / The Polish Wedding - What is it Like in Poland? [338]

has to take care of finances on top of all that, it means that there is something deeply wrong with the man in such family

Or maybe simply the women in those households are better at it? Or the women has better idea how to devide the money from all that 'homemaking duties'.
Lenka   
9 Sep 2023
Life / The Polish Wedding - What is it Like in Poland? [338]

the woman protects the safe while Kania knows the remaining 40% where the male spouse does it.

While weird that would be OK, but all that margines spoleczny crap?

As to the freil and emotional? Well, Paulina showed the best answer with the article.
Lenka   
9 Sep 2023
Life / The Polish Wedding - What is it Like in Poland? [338]

for me it's margines społeczny

Yyy, the couple's decision about who keeps the money is enough to assign somebody to margines społeczny. Not how they spend they money or even if they have any money to keep? Wow...
Lenka   
3 Sep 2023
History / Historical look at various civilisational differences between Russia and the West [159]

develop some sort of Russophilia as a healthy psychological reaction.

I think it's enough to read few of Velund's and Crno3 posts to wonder why you'd ever like anything Russian.

in the name of country that lost millions of its citizens in their struggle against the nazis.

But at first killed many in Union with the Nazis.
Lenka   
28 Aug 2023
Life / Polish females who made it [29]

In the past it was common, especially among noble and aristocratic families, to marry off their kids to "the right" family.

We also have to rememberthat marrying a girl to a wealthy man was often the only way to secure her economically in the future. Today a woman can marry a poor man and still secure her living by her own work. Back then she could only rely on man.
Lenka   
21 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

Lenka didn`t forget Poland after 15 years of emigration.

It will be 10 years soon.

They aren`t wider, the same as before

I meant compared to UK:)

I slightly recovered and I'm back from my holiday.
The funny thing is when I like two sides for the same issue. E.g.:

I like that doctors, nurses etc are being polite, more partner-ish etc in UK but I hate that the hard truths are being glossed over,

Example that I came across was a pregnant women (just the beginning of pregnancy) with BMI 30 was told that it's fine. While I understand that she shouldn't go on a diet or anything in that time I would like a middle ground when she would be informed that it's too high and care has to be put into healthy food.

Or H&s:
I like the care put into h&S measures in UK but I also like the feeling of personal responsibility that comes with the more relaxed Polish approach.
Lenka   
21 Aug 2023
Life / Racism in Poland - the future [558]

When you ask a group to raise your hand if you feel you are not racist and nobody does,

It means they roll their eyes, say 'get lost' and go back to what they were doing.

It may come as a shock but people really can not give a damn about your 'demands'
Lenka   
9 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

gradual recovery from having been a communist country

I wouldn't to be honest. If anything I would say it helpdesk with this. In Poland lawyers and factory worker's kids were in the same school, lived in the same building etc and I think most people saw that there is nothing special in it and with hard work you can change your future.
Lenka   
9 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

it was a seemingly well calculated decision based on the fact that you could not envision Poland affording you the same life

No, it had more personal touch to it :) I was never bothered that much about money beside being able to have a roof over my head and enough to survive without a big struggle.

you don't notice anything for a long time and then it hits you... wow! things are so different! and for the better!

That is big part of my feelings atm. It seems Poland is constantlyimproving, I see so much work done, things progressing etc. Even the people I talk to seem more interested in improving themselves....

It's so motivating.
Lenka   
8 Aug 2023
USA, Canada / Netflix's The Witcher TV series [39]

True Yennefer is an attractive, intelligent mature woman.

Yes, but definitely not a sweetie...