Patrycja19 61 | 2679
21 Jan 2007 / #31
You cannot judge me unless you are another woman who has been through a difficult time like I had, what do you know what it's like to be pregnant and feel utterly hopeless about the future?
I agree with this, because your already going thru some difficult changes, and
my opinion "takes two " and its not all your doing. you wanted the baby, but giving
the situation as it was, he had enough to take care of the baby, so the thinking
part should have also been more so on his part and he should have told you from
the start of the relationship that he didnt want kids so soon, and kept his restraint
or used a condom !
so he was irresponsible in that by not communicating with you this upfront before
you had intercourse, and by the post, you both living together , how would this
not happen if you are both happy ,living together, and commited to each other in
that sense?
he knew the risk ,and so did you, but again, bringing up in another post, when
you think you know someone, you truely dont, people change, or dont always
tell you what is on their mind, and can fool you for a while till its too late, so
I do sympathize with your loss, and only wish and hope that you can move on
because it was a very hard thing to do , and given your situation, hope that you
have healed.
Its easy for people to say " I told you so" but, when its you in that situation, I
really dont think anyone wants to hear that, we should all take this as a learning
tool and hope for the best for those who are willing to share that part of their
lives.
I said don't judge me but I was just being defensive. Of course you should judge. And I am the first to say that I was dumb, naive, immature and stupid. I should have known better at 22 and 23 but I acted more like I was 16 or 18.
we all have had our time, so dont judge yourself so harshly, just try to move on
and dont let anything hold you back from your goals that you set aside for yourself.
The one you have to look out for most is you!