I am pobably like Patrycja in general pro-life but......there are different situation, circumstances....I think that guess is a good person but as you she said she tried to please everyone and didn't decide for a baby even she wanted it. She just needed someone who would support her in this moment.
its a really tough subject Iwona, I know my mom was very scared for me.
now I am going to tell people about my mom, dont anyone dis her, because
she is in heaven, but this story is true, much like guest. so please read and
only know this is to show that this happens now, and even before we were
all taught the ways of life.
my sister is my half sister, 1950 was a very impressionable time.
my mom fell head over heels for this man who claimed his age was 23 and he was
much older and on his way to getting married, she didnt have a clue to this.
so he talked her into things, she became pregnant, 1950 is a bad time to be
pregnant with the father no where in site.
so my moms friend, suggested her going to tennesee to have abortion.
people at work were relentless, second looks, making her look like she was
some kind of floosey, loose and no smarts. MY mom was just like any one of them
who would have fallen the same and had the same happen, only she became
unlucky (those Cackly B*$%HES ) so she told him I am pregnant, he said , I
am getting married (Devastation) , she said she cried for a long time. her
friend who helped her, they went to tennesee. when she got there, she said
I cant do this. I cant do it at all. she stayed overnight and took the first train
back home, my grampa who was waiting with gramma at the train station, picked
her up. spoke in Polish to her, we will take care together.
my mom all along thought no one wanted this. but even though she had help
she still went thru that moment of despair, what will I do, what will people
think , what will my parents do. the decisions she had to make when abortion
wasnt even safe for a dog let alone a human, but she came back with dignity.
she still faced guilt at work, and had to put up with staring, and when she
wanted child support, he took off with his new wife, who has a child -listen to this
same age as my sister! two months apart, my sister being older!
he moved away to tennesee, payed on my sister for one year back in 1951
and that was it, never a card, never seen her, never wanted to know her.
and claims hes a good Christian and when I tried to arrange a meeting with him
because all those questions always bothered my sister, does he look like me, do
we have same eyes, nose? etc. the sister (her sister from him) told me, my father
is a good christian man, we had heard that he had another child from some
other woman ( Other woman!! she has a name! ) and this conversation goes
no further then this phone call, I dont want to cause family pain.
Pain?? No worse then the pain my mom went thru for 53 years!
she made 20-25 cents a hour back then. she supported my grandparents on
what little she made, plus the scraps of govt money social security.
it was hard, she chose to take this on, and she made it, but she had times of
depression, she went thru rough times. so anyway, this story was meant
as a Learning tool, anyone disrespects my mom , trust me, she will haunt your
arse! shes told me that many times.
Moral of this story, he was a deadbeat dad! still to this day he will not
even say that he is her father. good christian my arse!
so, anyway, my other point along with this, is that this can happen to anyone
and when faced with these life changing events, what our actions will be, no one
can tell, we can feel very strongly about it, and never ever want to face this type
of situation ourselfs, but it can happen. we as women are very strong , compassionate
lovers, who once we find that man who makes us melt like butter, cant help but
to fall under that spell of he will always be here.
(pinch) big reality check! stressing again, Quote_ you never really know someone
even when you know someone. People change.. you know those famous words
we all have repeated " but but you said?
ok, Im done being inspirational for one night.
my fluffy pillow is calling. "sniff sniff" I will miss you guyz!!!
you will all be waking soon and I will be snoring!! lol
