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Why do Polish Women Think They Know Better?


Griff 17 | 67  
4 Jun 2008 /  #1
Is this just me?

All the polish women I have met since I have moved here are very strong minded and also very quick to voice their opinions. I'm not saying this out of anger but of shock really (actually it is quite funny). I have already recieved so much advice on life, health, work, clothing, business!! It's crazy. And they never move one inch from their view, even if its something you know more about.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is this normal everywhere?

And most importantly, do polish guys think this is easy to live with or hard? ha ha?
pipeczko  
4 Jun 2008 /  #2
yes they are alarmingly self possessed. polish guys like it like that, because it means they just have to do what they're told ; )
OP Griff 17 | 67  
4 Jun 2008 /  #3
Ha ha, no guy likes or does what they are told
VaFunkoolo 6 | 654  
4 Jun 2008 /  #4
Is this just me?

No. It's a national trait.

now watch for all the posts saying this is wrong and they know better
sausage 19 | 777  
4 Jun 2008 /  #5
It's a national trait.

Phew that's a relief! I thought I had a duffer on my hands.
VaFunkoolo 6 | 654  
4 Jun 2008 /  #6
No mate. You've probably hooked yourself a goodun. No need to throw her back unless your trousers start disappearing from the wardrobe.
sausage 19 | 777  
4 Jun 2008 /  #7
You've probably hooked yourself a goodun

Not sure if it was the bait or the rod I used...
VaFunkoolo 6 | 654  
4 Jun 2008 /  #8
View yourself as the fisherman. You decide if the catch is worth keeping or not
southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Jun 2008 /  #9
Yes,polish girls are stubborn.In some it is part of a general sadomasochistic trait.
Anyway this quality of stubborness is not sth bad since it does not mix with sex life and maybe the stubborness can drive to repeated,wanted sex as well.
pipeczko  
4 Jun 2008 /  #10
and maybe the stubborness can drive to repeated,wanted sex as well.

i must be polish, then ; )

Ha ha, no guy likes or does what they are told

you'd be surprised ...

basically, it means the guys don't have to worry about what's for dinner/what she's going to wear today/how to look after the kids ... all he has to do is 'be a man' - ie, pay for everything (including shoes for £300, etc) and provide her with as many kids and as much sex as she wants. Perfect.

oh, but she turns into a pretty mean mother-in-law when the time comes ... think the passion of Sophia Loren and the features of Les Dawson ...
sobieski 107 | 2,128  
4 Jun 2008 /  #11
My wife is a Góralka. They are very much a class on their own in many things :)
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
4 Jun 2008 /  #12
think the passion of Sophia Loren and the features of Les Dawson ...

ROLF! (it just reminds me of a comment a two guys made (both Polish BTW) abput how Polish women dont age too well)
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
4 Jun 2008 /  #13
Has anyone else experienced this?

That happens but luckily it's not my daily experience.

ROLF! (it just reminds me of a comment a two guys made (both Polish BTW) abput how Polish women dont age too well)

Again, not my experience. Some advise to look at your potential mother-in-law. You'll have a half decent idea what the future holds ;)
southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Jun 2008 /  #14
i must be polish, then ; )

Why?Are you a stubborn,sex addict?
Polonius3 1,000 | 12,448  
4 Jun 2008 /  #15
Athough the Polish feminists, imitating their sisters in the West, are always on about the "oppressive patriarchal society", in actuality Poland has traditionally been quite matriarchal. In centuries past, hardly a generation went by when the menfolk didn't have to go to war in the numerous invasions, insurrections and uprisings, or were sent to prison or siberia for doing so, leauing the women to run the home, family and farm on their own. The strong male penchant for libation also required someone level-hjeaded and responsible to step in and take control.The strong-willed Polish female of today may be a reflection of that strong self-reliance, often to the point of bossiness. Women decided thigns and handle family finances in many if not most Polish homes. A joke going round says a good marriage must be based on compromise between the two sides: the side that is always right and the male side. The man may be the head of the family, but the women is the neck...Go figure...
Lir  
4 Jun 2008 /  #16
because it means they just have to do what they're told ; )

Hehehe ! LOL :)

are very strong minded

Not really, it's just that they know best and are always right <g>
pipeczko  
4 Jun 2008 /  #17
Are you a stubborn,sex addict

well, let's say i'm persistent, if not insistent, when i like something ... ; )
twice a day seems to me to be the basic requirement: to be woken up by it, and go to sleep after it. i don't think this is excessive ... seems to me to be entirely healthy and desirable. addicted? naturally.

in actuality Poland has traditionally been quite matriarchal

oh boy yes - the guys like to pretend it's patriarchal, but they all know (and, i suspect, secretly love the fact) that is completely matriarchal ... those battleaxes, be they young or old, totally rule the roost. Part of that, though, involves some serious play-acting to preserve male pride (through the illusion of male dominance). face it, guys: you're only allowed to go as far as they say ...

(which is probably why there is an, erm, explosion of polish guys having extra-marital relations in the uk ... once off the leash ...)
mkpolka - | 3  
6 Jun 2008 /  #18
Has anyone else experienced this? Is this normal everywhere?

Griff,

Good luck to you.

Iam a polish woman and what you have written sounds strengly familiar. My (english) husband used to say it a lot, I don`t think he even bothers now, just gets on with the flow. Trust me it`s easier. WE ARE ALWAYS right
badabing  
6 Jun 2008 /  #19
Get used to it. Why do you think so many guys drink vodka.....
OP Griff 17 | 67  
6 Jun 2008 /  #20
Good luck to you.

Iam a polish woman and what you have written sounds strengly familiar. My (english) husband used to say it a lot, I don`t think he even bothers now, just gets on with the flow. Trust me it`s easier. WE ARE ALWAYS right

Ha ha, I am already doing it, you see its easier to go along with when its your g/f or wife, thats fine, you get all the benifits. But what do you do if its your mother - in - law or your grandmother - in - law?? And with the whole respect your eldars thing there is in here i can't even tell them no! ha ha
badabing  
6 Jun 2008 /  #21
Griff, how is the move takin you, been here 9 months myself and its been interesting.... have you got any work yet?
Krzysztof 2 | 973  
6 Jun 2008 /  #22
if its your mother - in - law or your grandmother - in - law??

They are probably worried that as a foreigner you might be sometime lost in Polish culture, customs, everyday life, so they want to protect you from making too many mistakes :)
badabing  
6 Jun 2008 /  #23
mother in law hahahahahaha.

......really difficult to kill.

If my missus turns into her mother I'm in real trouble. So the solution is drink regularly, smoke heavily and die at 55/60 and never witness the final chapter.
VaFunkoolo 6 | 654  
6 Jun 2008 /  #24
Forget the MiL - Just look at your father in law. If he drinks like a fish, smokes like a chimney and spends as much time on a boat away from his wife as possible, this should give you a good idea of what you would be marrying into ;)

LOL
OP Griff 17 | 67  
6 Jun 2008 /  #25
ha ha, ok, now im scared!

Had a job before i moved, setup with an english internet company how have a base out here. Like poland a lot, loving the weather and having a little extra in the pocket each month. You working out here?
PLAT 1 | 23  
8 Jun 2008 /  #26
I think its just you guys like the assertive woman ruling over ya. but there is also quiet , shy girls and they have the lkast say , I pRefer this kind of girl.

C-yo
jrc - | 1  
14 Jun 2008 /  #27
So funny! Great work guys! I recognise this in my Polish "friend" all the time even if I'm blatantly right I'm still wrong!
smiffer 2 | 55  
6 Jul 2008 /  #28
My ex was exactly the same,and she had some weird things she said to......like colgate toothpaste is not good for you,i said i been using it for 35 years and i still have all my teeth,she replied,yes but thats your teeth.lol

there are so many i can't begin to tell you.
Wroclaw Boy  
6 Jul 2008 /  #29
Has anyone else experienced this? Is this normal everywhere?

No, i wear the trousers mate you should try the same, i would guess its the opposite with you. Man up biatch and stick up for your self, if youre unable to make the big decisions move over 100% and let them take control. On the flip side - its never your fault.

However coming back to this post Poles do always think they know better, I dont know what the crack is with that. They all think they know something you dont and bang on and on about advice, ive made the mistake of taking their advice a couple of times even if my gut instinct was against it. Not any more I do what I want to do, and thats it now. They dont know shite.
miranda  
6 Jul 2008 /  #30
it i true. I am always right;)

I know how it feels on the receiving end too. I get advices all the time.

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