attraction is what brings 2 people together the first time they meet.
Unfortunately - true. However, sometimes you see a person at a party...not too attractive, maybe even ugly. Later, you happen to to talk to them. ...It turns out, he/she is witty, intelligent, interesting... fun to talk to. The attraction happens next.
Have you ever seen a couple, when one of them is pretty darn unattractive and the other is beautiful/handsome, like a model! Do you wonder... what the heck keeps them together? Trust me, until you can see beyond the visible, you miss out a lot.