POLISH SIBLINGS SLEEPING TOGETHER!

sorry. my friends said its 50/50

dumb and naive, your the one who isn't acting :) what i'm telling you is how it is, regardless of minor details, your relationship has not trust, communication and many other things like respect etc.

Don't abuse me, rather think about what you have to do :) I understand your angry because i'm telling you what the score is, i'm used to it, don't concentrate on my naivety or dumbness concentrate on your situation :)

If you want some piece of mind you will have to ask him. But think very carefully about what you are going to say and think about the possible outcome.

i agree

If innocent? He did sleep in the same bed with his sister.....whether or not anything happened, it's quite reasonable for you to ask.....this is not normal.....like Wysp, I love my brothers very much, but I wouldn't sleep in the same bed with them; even if there were only one bed, someone's a$$ is sleeping on the floor or the couch (and it ain't mine...lol).

Exactly.

i meant empty :)

Why should i sleep with him then? :D


depends who is in house :D

you should not sleep with your brother, i never said that :)


ok fair point

to tornado, i am not angry nor upset, just confused about what to do and how to approach it as i know whats hes like. no way was those words to you. i have not abused you. i was talking about my bf, how dumb can he be. thats just how i talk. when i talk about someone, i say you not, him.

ok thats fine thank you for explaining :)

cool. thankyou for your advice harsh and straight to the point. thats what i want. i dont want to be feeling like this no more. i have bad dreams about this.

im gunna do it. thankyou and thankyou everybody else who gave thier opinion and verdict. ill tell you what happened.

Is the sister beautiful?

probably yes, if even brother likes sleeping with her...lol.. ;)

Lucky brother.Pity the OP was not into girls.

lol... i don't know. i wasnt there at that time ;)

Sorry.I thought you had posted.I like polish family bonds.Sisters,cousins everywhere.Very cheerfull atmosphere.
You polishgirl look very slavic.I suppose you come from eastern Poland.

south - Krakow

And what does that have to do with the thread ?? are you trying to chat her up lol ;-)

God... If they were really so perverted, don't you think that they would hide It better ?

Yes but then if it isnt hidden then it isnt suspected !!!!!

I have a problem with this logic.

Its a very simple logic really, if you walk into a shop and blatantly pick something up and walk out with it in your hands without paying, knowone tends to notice you because you are not trying to hide anything,

whereas is you walked into the same shop and shiftely put it into your pocket, looking around checking knowone is watching then you are more likely to get caught.

i will appologise in advance, yes i have been drinking but i still think i make good sense

No problem with drink. I'm busy with a bottle myself.

The problem is in relation to the thread. Two people didn't hide their activity and because of this they were suspected.

The shop thingy makes sense.

brother and sister. what do you think. nothings happeneing? or they are.

he asked me today if he wanted to go back to poland to live if i could come with him. thats commited, but then again, i dont know, maybe its a plan to lure me away from the idea. tll me what you think

So did you ask and find anything out?

To be honest I don't know. It does seem odd, but I don't want to say something that might cause you relationship problems with your boyfriend. It is very difficult to reach a conclusion about something, that might be serious, on the internet.

You have to find a way to ask him.

Firstly, you have to be sure that you cannot go on with your BF without knowing what happened and why it happened. If you are sure that it is impossible to go on then you have to decide whether you just want to let him know that his behaviour with his sister was unacceptable and unsettling for you or whether you want the full details.

If you point out how unnerved you were by his actions, then hopefully he may explain and/or understand your position and promise that it won’t happen again. If that is not enough for you that you are going to have to confront him and demand to know.what was going on. You don’t have to go ‘full on, in his face’ to do that. You can start by explaining that it was very uncomfortable for you like the course of action above. The difference is you need to be forceful but calm and ask him the what and why questions.

Sorry if I have written this like I was preaching to you. It wasn’t my intention – it just came out that way.

i dont really understand what you mean by this. Asking you to go live in Poland in order to distract you from the fact he is shagging his sister? (sorry, I meant sleeping not shagging) Will you get a one or two bedroom place in Poland? assuming that she will be living with you.

To be honest i think he is thinking of returning home, if that is the case then it is up to you whether you want to go with him or not. To me you would be crazy to go with him to Poland. You don't speak the language, your relationship isn't going great guns at the moment.

Before you do anything you need to ask him those important vital questions. Or maybe you should be asking yourself a few questions, however its not my place to say. All i believe and have to offer i said yesterday. The longer you leave asking him the questions you want the answers to the less likely you will ever have a good relationship with this guy.

Plus just think, if he goes home to Poland the situation with this girl/sister will be like it was when she came to England, apart from the fact it will be constant and not one that disappears .

WHAT I WOULD DO: Leave him while i still could

WHAT YOU DO: is up to you but don't leave it to late either to ask him the questions or leave him. You don't want to commit moving to Poland and then have the Sh*t hit the fan out there, not only would you be punished psychologically but also in the pocket!!!

So please please please make a decision either way soon before its to late and your down Sh*t creek without a paddle.

T

If I was going out with someone that I suspected might possibly be sleeping with his sister, there would be no relationship! How could I be with someone I thought capable of that?!

I would hardly sleep in the same room as my bro any more unless under special circumstances i.e the house is suddenly overcrowded when he somes to stay and there is no room but my floor. In my bed? No way!!! Weird, I can't even comprehend why they would...

So the pictures you saw clarify he's related and not, say, friends from infantry and childhood sweethearts? I can't think why she would put up with his sleeping with another girl anyway if she was, so i don't think this really.

Maybe you should just express to him that you find it unusual how he is so close to his sister he would not sleep in the spare bed - that you have not heard of such a thing before.

Again, I say, I would not be with someone I could believe this of.