POLISH SIBLINGS SLEEPING TOGETHER!

you've done nothing wrong...

true i havent but then if i cant trust him, the relationship will fail. its driving me actually mental that im thinking of seeing i pyschiatrist (if thats how you spell it). i hate it. but i love him, and there is a 50/50 chance that hes lying or telling bthe truth. i dont want to end it for good and find out hes telling the truth. what then?

Agreed.

It's him that needs to put things right. But he won't, I'm sure.

You don't trust him, but at the same time you trust him when he says he loves you and will take you back in two months. You are only listening to the bits you want to hear. Look at the whole situation and find some friends at home that you can confide in. Your friends and family can see things that we on the forum can't.

Good idea.

I am Polish. Believe me, there is nothing bad in Poland in sleeping with a sister in one bed! They are a family and that's why they do not have sex together. Why did he sleep with his sister and not with you? Because he did not want his underage sister to see him sleeping with a woman and having dirty thoughts later. He did it to protect her, in the same way as he protected her while pulling up her trousers. For him, she is still his little sister. You had no reasons to be jealous. you have a great, traditional guy.

it seems your trying to find any excuse not to finish it, don't be so blind and don't have tunnel vision. This guy is not right, in any shape or form, its best to move on and leave him to his sister/friend, whatever.

for example he is so good for you that you are having counseling!!!!! he is the reason your having it, you bin him you stop the counseling and then get on with your life. I think you should change your name from 'wondering' to 'listening' that would give everybody a bit of confidence in the fact that you are able to move on from this creep of a guy.

Whatever hold he has over you is pretty strong i just hope you can break it.

Hope it helps,

harsh as usual

T

I read a story in the paper last week.
If i had a scanner id post it.

A Girl kept hearing her B'f Whispering on his Mobile Phone.
And making secret liasons.
He would dissapear. and make wierd excuses.

Her suspicions were aroused when he secretly withdrew £1000 From thier joint Account without telling her.
Suspecting he was having an affair. She confronted him and subsequently accused him of seeing someone else.
She even slapped his face.

It was then he explained..
He had been arranging a trip of a lifetime for her birthday.
The £1000 was to pay for Hotel and travel plans.

They were to visit France. and spend 2 weeks in paris.
After explaining.. He left her.
And refuses to answer her calls/Texts/Emails.

I Think the moral of this story is obvious.

Make sure you have your information Correct. before shooting yourself in the foot..
Bc afterwards.
It maybe too late. :)

What a crock of sh*t! He was cheating on her.....he was found out, so he made up a lame excuse......if he was an honest, loving man, he would have understood why she was suspicious, forgiven her for it, and they would have gone to Paris together.....my guess is he already had plans to do it with someone else.

It was a true confession. And the people who had helped him arrange it all.
Was her family and friends..

So not a crock

polish are inbreeds!!!! of course they will sleep together!!

they have no restriction's in there upbringing and sex at a young age is mutual!!!!

you are a flake.. I am polish, and wasnt brought up that way, and eww to even
the thought of it.. your the sick mind who doesnt even have a clue. anything
to put blame on a whole nation right!! got some proof cause I would just love
to see this!!!

I would like you to get signatures of all the people who are inbreeds , then lets see
where ya picked up your brains,, oh wait, that was a cracker jack box!!

BTW kiwi boy, how could someone who lives on a Island surrounded by sharks even
have a clue about Poland? or was it the enquirer you were thinking you read?

I dont know how anyone could get the wrong idea out of this anyway.

for one thing, hes with you ( so if he wanted something else) wouldnt he just
dump you? hes lived with his sister all his life, I protect my family too. my brothers
always looked out for me. so he pulled up her pants. maybe they were the two low
low rise jeans.. that says alot for him, hes wanting her to be more conservative
and do you think its appropriate to sleep with him in front of her ( her seeing him
go in the same room with you) and get ideas that she can do this too? shes only 17
and hes 20. he knows how boys are I am sure so hes protecting her.

now, if you felt so concerned, why didnt you just come out and ask him right when it
happened? I wouldnt have slept till I got a answer! so if anything, your thoughts
of this being something you thought it was, when you never even questioned it is
judging before you even have all the facts on the table..

and FYI.. if you do not forget, People with lower incomes can only afford certain
homes we all dont come from a home with 10 bedrooms and if we have 10 siblings
we all dont get to sleep in seperate rooms, the boys usually with the boys, and
girls with girls.. but if theres two bedrooms and 2 boys and two girls and mom and
dad, what type of sleeping arrangements do you expect from a someone who
cant afford to build onto their home?

I am done.. I think communication was lost here!

I know this guy and he can't be trusted because he also slept with my sister

LOL

now im getting worried if he didnt sleep with my bro haha

i agree totally... i dont think there is anything wrong with it...

i hope this is the case, and that it is just an example of differing accepted norms in poland and the uk

If you noticed in the very first post by the thread maker, she said her boyfriend had 2 double beds and 1 single.....why did he not sleep in his own bed and let her have her own? Something is just not adding up if you ask me!

Well, i never heard of that before :( Doesn't sound right !!
And I was brought up by Polish parents and most of my relations are Polish too,lol....

Sisters sleeping together Ok. Brothers sleeping together Ok.
Brother and sister sleeping together after a cetain age, not Ok.

:(

My GF and her brother have slept in the same bed while oin vacation.... because there was only one bed. I don't find it strange at all, unless it's a nightly thing. They're siblings so what's the big deal. When I first visited her she was around the house in her underwear and her brother was around and I thought it was strange at first, but I've seen this while visiting her friends as well.

In the US this doesn't happen ....not in my family anyway :) I don't want to see my sister in her thongs oO

but there was a spare bed in this case...


Don't think it does in the UK either...it's ...

is it OK for my brother to sleep with me and my boyfriend, so long as he goes in the middle?

hi they proberly were it's common for brother and sister to sleep with each other at a young age and sometimes it carry's on until adulthood you should ask him because you have reason to but try not to beat yourself up about it x

i would'nt think so its a boit uncuth depends on age i suppose but if you question it like what your doing now it shows your not sure about it so go with your instinks but to me and i think for yourself you not happy with it x

thanks for you reply Dani. I was only joking, sorry if that didnt come across. I have a strange sense of humour at times.

who does this guy respect more? he put you second over his" sister"-he will always put you second-when his sister has a boyfriend will he accept her brother sleeping with her? dont think so. infact this guy respects niether you or his "sister" sounds like a control freak-wondering repect yourself!!!!