How to get to know a polish guy better?

yeah right....and then women complain that they spend all the time in a kitchen cooking for him....
why is it about domination? can it be a balance there? yes, it's hard, but not imposible...!

Personally the word "dominate" doesn't quite work - but for both people to have their strenghts is good I think.

I second that! :)

LOL. Well I just meant be the boss in the kitchen, but obviously its a personal preference and if your man is a better cook, then let him do it. I prefer to do the cooking, but I dont mind if he wants to get involved in washing up... and the bedroom obviously speaks for itself :)

Me again, Lii is back ;-)

I'm kind of sad about my situation, but glad to hear I'm not the only one....

To summarize: I wrote another mail to "my" polish guy (which isn't going to be mine) just to invite him to a party with some friends, and inviting his friends as well... he is out of town now, but anyway we will see how he reacts, .... as I've been told here... better to try and stay friends....

And well, I'm thinking a lot about giving the "other" one another chance, people on this forum have admitted regreting later of giving up someone just because the first impressions weren't right (or good or too "nerdy")....

So I might send him a mail to do something together, with some other friends...or so.....

why is it so complicated?
me loving the "wrong" one
and the "wrong" one loving me...

I guess someone out there made a small mistake (haha)

No one made a mistake, sweetie. It's just life.....

I think you're smart to get to know the "nerdy" one. You never know....sometimes chemistry hits when you least expect it. And at least you may end up having a good friend.

It seems men get to do the choosing, but we women are more adaptable. I sometimes feel I could fall in love with anyone if I put my mind to it -- don't you? :)

See the trick is to choose what you want before you start looking, then no matter what comes along you know what makes you happy and what won't. I did it backwards for most of my life - which I now realize isn't the way to true, passionate, inspired love. Men may pursue us, but regardless of who pursues who if you aren't into them and they don't move you - don't settle. :-)

So true! Be strong girls, there's one out there for everybody :)

well, yesterday was my birthday and he sent me a postcard
front: a shy bear holding a letter and some flowers
inside: "very happy birthday especially for you because your a nice fun girl"


I have to think about that....
Do you really think so??

Was this from the nerdy or from the Polish?

if it was from the nerdy, it's always nice to have someone who likes you so much, take him as a friend, you never know what's gonna happen in the future; just give him a chance.


HAPPY BIRTHDAY liiii

the "nerdy" one ;-)

although if i keep calling him like that i don't know if i wil ever like him


how? I don't know how te react...

You probably won't because you will have painted a frame of reference around him that is less than desirable most likely.

One a completely separate note from my earlier thread comments, liii like you I wrote the guy I had wanted to know better and it was flatly received. However 3 days afterwards, I met a great Polish guy from Warsaw (to exchange learning Polish) and we've talked just about every day since. :) And the language trade is the least of our conversations and interest. Ironic how things can be!!