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Help, Polish men are very complicated!


Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #1
I recently met a Polish man through work (i am an English girl). He was very charming and funny and friendly, he said nice things and would kiss my hands when we said goodbye! I thought he must really like me, so i gave him my phone number. He hasn't really made an effort to contact me, but every time i see him, he is still really charming etc. I have a big crush on him, but have no idea if he does like me, or if he is just being polite. From reading this forum it seems that Polish men do generally treat women in a very complimentary way - so how do i know if he likes me or not??!!

And can you tell me how 'przytulic' translates, would this be a nice thing to say to him??

Thanks, English Girl x
esek 2 | 228  
20 May 2009 /  #2
how old are you? 15? just ask if he would like to go out with you say for a dinner or sth and see what he says..
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 May 2009 /  #3
I Concur.

Angielski - Polish men are no different to English men, they can't read minds, if you like him, ask him out, Im sure if he thought you were a pig he wouldn't be kissing your hand.
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #4
Hi, thanks for the reply but not helpful!

I am trying to understand a little more about Polish men and their culture before i make a big mistake and end up looking really stupid. I only see him in a 'work' situation so its not appropriate for me to ask him there.

Also the hand-kissing thing - isn't this some kind of custom that all Polish people do??
sausage 19 | 777  
20 May 2009 /  #5
I only see him in a 'work' situation so its not appropriate for me to ask him there.

In this so-called work situation it is ok for him to kiss your hands and flirt with you, but not for you to ask him out.

if you like him, ask him out

Either that or live a life of regret.
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #6
Is hand-kissing flirting, or is it a Polish custom?! He as been friendly, funny and 'charming' so far - nothing else.

You guys on the forum are tough!
sausage 19 | 777  
20 May 2009 /  #7
Is hand-kissing flirting, or is it a Polish custom?!

Good question...

You guys on the forum are tough!

If you were a man, we'd be telling you to grow some balls!
Krisha 2 | 21  
20 May 2009 /  #8
lol you guys crack me up.

My boyfriend is polish and he act no different to any other male in the world. He is charming and affectionate ect ect... he does not kiss me on the hand when we say goodbye though so I doubt its a polish custom thing.

WHy dont you ask him if it is a custom thing of if he likes you? might be an opener to find out if he is interested.

Does he do this with anyone else at work?
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 May 2009 /  #9
I am trying to understand a little more about Polish men and their culture before i make a big mistake and end up looking really stupid.

And I TOLD YOU that they are no different to English men..some are well mannered some are not...FFS they are not from another planet!!! HE IS A MAN from a european country, they are no different to men from the rest of Europe....

If you were a man, we'd be telling you to grow some balls!

We can still say that - in a metaphorical way ;0)
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
20 May 2009 /  #10
Also the hand-kissing thing - isn't this some kind of custom that all Polish people do??

Ive been living in Poland for almost 2 years and I have never seen a Polish man kiss a womans hand. I just said this to my Polish girlfriend and she has just laughed at the suggestion Polish men kiss womens hands, although she said her grandparents so it with friends occassionaly. I suspect he is being funny and exaggerating the notion of male charm. I often kiss my females friends hands but it is fun, and I assure you it isnt an irish custom either. Polish men treat women in no more a complimentary way than men anywhere, with the exception of perhaps some extreme islamic nations :) Just ask him out, what have you got to lose ?
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 May 2009 /  #11
You guys on the forum are tough!

Not really, if you were in the same situation with an English guy - how would you read it? Would you dash off and google for a forum for English men?

By the way does he just give you a quick peck on the hand or does he give it a little lick? If he licks, it could be that he's craving salt, offer him a bag of walkers ready salted and the hand kissing may stop.
bullfrog 6 | 603  
20 May 2009 /  #12
Also the hand-kissing thing - isn't this some kind of custom that all Polish people do??

Yes , indeed it is, maybe not all men but most, especially with the older generation (say 30 and over), so in my opinion, kissing hands is probably just a sign of politeness.. How old is he? The only way to really find out is indeed to ask him out..

And by the way, yes, Polish men are generally much more courteous to women than in many other countries (holding doors, helping ladies to put on their coat and so on..) and I am not Polish!!
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
20 May 2009 /  #13
And I TOLD YOU that they are no different to English men..some are well mannered some are not...FFS they are not from another planet!!! HE IS A MAN from a european country, they are no different to men from the rest of Europe....

What part of what ShelleyS reply dont you understand, seriously ? Men are Men, all are different, all behave differently towards women, regardless of culture or nationality.

By the way does he just give you a quick peck on the hand or does he give it a little lick? If he licks, it could be that he's craving salt, offer him a bag of walkers ready salted and the hand kissing may stop.

lol ...............

Yes , indeed it is, maybe not all men but most, especially with the older generation (say 30 and over)

Nonsense, most of my friends in Poland are over 30 and they would roll around the floor laughing at you suggesting such a thing.

It's an old tradition. You can see old men in Poland still kiss women's hands. It's something like shaking hands but a little more affectionate. But it's rare among younger people these days.

True, but its an old tradition in every country.

By the way did he lick your feet yet. Its Polish culture to lick a womans feet, then turn around three times, jump up in the air and finish by slapping you on the left cheek three times. When he does that you know he is interested, try wearing sandals maybe
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
20 May 2009 /  #14
Is hand-kissing flirting, or is it a Polish custom?!

It's an old tradition. You can see old men in Poland still kiss women's hands. It's something like shaking hands but a little bit more affectionate. But it's rare among younger people these days.

especially with the older generation (say 30 and over)

I would say over 60... hehe. :)
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 May 2009 /  #15
By the way did he lick your feet yet. Its Polish culture to lick a womans feet, then turn around three times, jump up in the air and finish by slapping you on the left cheek three times. When he does that you know he is interested, try wearing sandals maybe

PMSL...

Just to clarify, which set of cheeks?
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #16
At least you have all made me laugh!! I reckon he's about 35, very gorgeous ( in a bad boy kind of way). NO HE DOESN'T LICK, but he doesn't do it to anyone else either! Sorry if i've made out that Polish people must be alien's, but its kinda exciting not having a clue what he's talking about..........

Can someone help me translate something i can text him, to avoid the embarrassment of trying to talk to him in polish.

hold on - Can i trust you lot??!!
welshguyinpola 23 | 463  
20 May 2009 /  #17
Are u gay Angielski, cos ur profile says ur a man?
sausage 19 | 777  
20 May 2009 /  #18
Can someone help me translate something i can text him

Ah, so you have his number...

hold on - Can i trust you lot??!!

yes, with your life
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 May 2009 /  #19
I reckon he's about 35, very georgeous ( in a bad boy kind of way).

Married? wife at home in Poland? Sounds like he's charming his way in to your knickers sweetie! I wouldn't bother chasing it any further.

hold on - Can i trust you lot??!!

Not me, I'll make you tell him that you've got genital herpes or something, but the Polish girls and guys that do the translations on here are worth their weight in gold.
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #20
JESUS!! i'm very female - have just corrected my profile! What an idiot, can't even get my own sex right - what hope have i got!
cable 3 | 42  
20 May 2009 /  #21
I think Polish guys are pretty damned complicated critters!!! or at least that has been my personal experience. I have been dating a Polish guy for the past few months, and I really never know what each day is going to bring - hot and cold, up and down!!!

That said, I have never felt like this with anyone before and despite the emotional rollercoaster, when it's good it's fantastic!!! Polish guys are hot, hot, hot!!!
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #22
I have his number because he sent me a picture of some wobbly-looking house in Poland - some kinda new age architecture or something, but no message with it!
theblueenigma 3 | 188  
20 May 2009 /  #23
Are u gay Angielski, cos ur profile says ur a man?

lol

Can someone help me translate something i can text him, to avoid the embarrassment of trying to talk to him in polish.

Yes, you can trust me I go to church.

Polish : Czesc biga boya, I lovz yza way youz licka ma handzes. I wouldz likz to ze make ze happyz happyz timz wiz you and havz your babiez. Na zdrowie Jestem w ciąży x

Translation : Hi there, its me (insert name) from work. Just a quick hello to see how you are and wondering if you would like to meet up for a drink sometime. Talk soon x

Just to clarify, which set of cheeks?

You rascal :D

Married? wife at home in Poland? Sounds like he's charming his way in to your knickers sweetie! I wouldn't bother chasing it any further.

Sounds like that to me also but shes happy and she likes her hand being kissed
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #24
Cable - Interested to hear about your polish experience - so do you understand what i'm talking about with this whole charming/politenesss thing, or am i just being a mad cow?

BLUENIGMABOY - THIS IS SERIOUS - get a grip and help me out!!! Are you Polish? you are funny too!
Lir  
20 May 2009 /  #25
Angielski ! Rather than try and get translations why don't you arrange for a few of you to go for a drink after work and invite him too. Surely you will then see if he is interested in you ?

Just an idea!

:)
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #26
I know i know, but its really complicated at work, i can't really explain, and i only actually see him once a week for a couple of hours, so that's why i have no idea what he's thinking.

How about a joke i could txt him in Polish, then see if he replies??
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
20 May 2009 /  #27
How about a joke i could txt him in Polish, then see if he replies??

He might think, why the fook is this English chick sending me jokes in Polish, I just like to lick her hand because Im low on salt every time I visit her offices!
Lir  
20 May 2009 /  #28
Sounds like you have a crush on him then and he is just being friendly and polite then as he only sees you once a week at work.

I think you are reading more into this really ? He has your number and if he was interested then I think he would have texted you by now and asked you out.

:)
OP Angielski 1 | 11  
20 May 2009 /  #29
Shelleys! you are so harsh. Look, is there a moderator on here somewhere, i can't get any sense outa you lot!
I have a real big crush on this man, but want to retain some English pride and not look like a complete tit if i have totally mis-read him. So i thought i could test the water with a joke rather than just come straight out with 'i want you now!'

Lir, i think you are right :(
db1874 7 | 227  
20 May 2009 /  #30
Shelleys! you are so harsh.

I would just ignore Shelley's advice as she's not Polish, am not sure what her connection with Poland is and she seems to only contribute irrelevant drivel to this forum.

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