Divorced Polish women

Hi,

I don't want to sound stupid, but do Polish men have a problem with divorced Polish women with childern ?. The reason I am asking is that I have met a few Polish women in this situation who seen very nice people but they say that they cannot find a partner.

Since Poland is a very catholic country, people who divorce are not so well seen... But you should wait for some pole's answer :) I just gave my general opinion of what i know about their culture trough my gf/friends..

Polish men can be picky (don't know why), but outside Poland the issue of a divorced Polish woman is not that important.

"Polish men can be picky (don't know why), "

So I see, it seems that it is ok for Polish men to get divorced and re-marry, but it is different for the women in Poland.

generally speaking, single men without any baggage dont want women with baggage, a.k.a kids.

well thats fk me over then i have the one .. my last bf accepted me with one and she was 4 when we got together and 9 when we split up ... !

nothing like stereotyping though ....

im not stereotyping. most single guys like me think along the lines of, im single with no kids and thats what the women should also be. guys i knew over the years avoided women with children. single guys dont generally want to deal with mommy and her kids. there are guys who dont care if women have kids, but thats a smaller percentage of men.

I have to agree with this one when it comes to polish men. American men don't seem to care as much. Sometimes, the family will try to break it apart. "Why can't you find somebody without kids?"

yup.

why?

mark s said it so did lczachor.

i personally wouldnt have a problem dating a divorced women, but if she has kids, no thanks.
being that i dont have kids, i dont want to deal with anybody elses.

i don't mind kids.. it depends for me.

depends on what? ...a number of her kids? :P:)

nah, how big her tatas are. ;) :D :D

it depends on the person.. kids could be influential.. helliens i don't want to deal with. they are the reflection of their parents after all.

How big her dads are???

If you love the woman, you should love her kids. They are part of her.
But it might make a difference how old they are and how is their relationship with their mother. Younger kids don't understand much what is going on and will accept her mom's friend more readily, while the older ones might get upset or jealous, etc.

But finding a woman with children is the best solution. You have an already made family and are not under pressure to start one. You have double fun, one with the mommy and more fun with the children. The more children, the more fun!!!! :)

Depends on how secure the guy is. He may want her undivided attention and a lady with a child/ren would be unable to give a man this.

has nothing to do with how secure a guy is. he just may not want a women with a different mans kids.

Surely that is a form of security, feeling threatened/ having selfish thoughts caused by anothers offspring.

Yes...

how about just not wanting to deal with kids

you said it,, small percentage, but they are the real men, any man who is willing
to step up and take over is a real man in a womans eyes,, hes definately someone
to be cherished because anyone can be a dad, but it does take a real man to be
a father.

a real man as you call it, wont want anything to do with another mans kids, a real man wants to sire his own. real men dont want to deal with other peoples problems.

ill bet that your divorced and have kids, and a single guy minus kids wont date you unless your just his sex buddy.
im sure you have found this out already though.
no single guy within his right mind will want to date a women with kids when there are plenty of women without kids out there.

coming from a real man..

what if the father died at a young age of heart attack... would a man as you say
turn up his nose to two young children who have no father because his life was taken
so quickly...????

do me a favor,, shut the F up.. you are prime example of a closed head injury!!

that is correct.


i dont care what happened to whoever, not my problem.


truth hurts doesnt it.

Haha... this is so funny! That is just your opinion, which is valid and I'm sure many men (real or otherwise!) would be in agreement with you, but...

there are also many men (real men... I checked!!) who just don't see the kids or the past as a problem!

yes those are the ones ( like marek) who lose the women they have and end up
dying a drunk old man with no one who cares about them...

and no marek, I am not divorced, my husband just saw your post and said what
a arse, so you are calling my husband of more then 10 years not a real man?

my older daughter isnt his, he came along and took on her as his own, as well as
having one of our own.. he is more man then you will ever be.. judging by your
threads and how hateful you are, the above said that you will be a lonely old fart
wondering if someone will come along and love you..not with your attitude..

but that's their problem! I won't cry for them :-)

Jesus christ there is no definitive rule on how guys have to act in this situation, it's life so there are factors here that are difficult to anticipate. There is the unavoidable issue of biology and genes though, and whether some will admit it or not, we are animals. It is rare for one male species to take on another's. While i don't advocate one position or another i will say that there is probably the arguement of instincts to add to this whole messy subject.


not that i disagree with your sentiment but that's such a silly way to say it, we could just switch the words dad and father and come up with the same thing, it's hardly an arguement on its own.

every man who has replied in this post has stated it would be a problem yet im wrong, o.k.


if above makes you feel better thinking so go ahead.

truth be told, youll be an old women on her death bed, with 5 cats and your kids surrounding you, because no man within his right state of mind wanted you.


thank you, somebody else can see one of the points im making