Dating age difference - my 16 yo is dating a 26 yo Polish guy

OK, so are you saying this guys a creep then? Because that's what I think he is.

Yea, creepy huh?

True, but we don't have female genital mutilation as a "custom" here in the US and it is a custom in Africa....I'm just wondering, not trying to be offensive.

mmost liely but not necessarily. how does he treat your girl? i've seen a similar thing in the past, a couple of times.. and in the long run it seem to work contrary to conventional thought.. i have no idea how to explain it but i've seen the most tender care and love in such relationship.. if you're creeped out.. put your foot down.. you're the adult here.

That's what I'm trying to figure out, we know of quite a few 1st generation Polish Americans (we don't know them well though) that seem to have this age gap and they have quite happy marriages. But we've met them all after they were married for a few years, and don't really know for how long the courtships lasted. You know, did they meet at 18 and 32 and get married at 20 and 34? Or did they meet at 16 and 26? I just don't know. He actually is a super nice guy and if she were already 20 or 21, and lived a little, I don't think anyone would have a real problem with it.

By the way, I'm only a cousin anyway, sadly it's not my job to put my foot down. The whole thing started out with him being her math tutor. As soon as it seemed to be turning into anything more there would have been a new math tutor if it were in my house!

well then.. trust your gut instinct.. it's NEVER WRONG.

Thanks

not at 16.. not even in one state.

Are you saying that 16 is the age of consent in all 52 states?

52 states? lol.. some even youger... KY=15 iirc.

Michigan the age actually is 16, but if you are over 18 and with a 16 year old even if the parents know about it and allow it someone else can report it...anyway I really don't believe they are having sex. At least I seriously hope not!

they may report it but the state has no interest, per say.

Sorry, not 52 states---uhhh, drooling now.

well, unless you count puerto rico and canada. lol the there also is iraq.. :D


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in that case there is a problem even if they are happy and he is genuine.

Anglo73 - I don't think he is a creep for this. But - I don't know him and you do, and you say is

We have 52 states?

he can go to jail..yes

your not considered an adult untill your 18

If somebody older than that has a relationship with a younger person plan on
going to jail, even if you give her 1 beer and dont even touch her you still can be charged.

Then you might as well give her 3 beers, if you gonna get charged anyway...O.o

not me.....

I didn't have you in mind.
You would give her a 6-pack.

I dont see a problem with this.. yes, he is older, but only 10 years and at 16 I think she is old enough to make up her own mind if she wants to date him.

16 is to young!!!

We all think we are in love at 16.

Too True Bubbles.

If it wasn't for it being illegal there for her to have sex with him, I'd agree.

Over here, I wouldn't see the problem at all.

no, it's not.. most states it's 16... in UT it's 14.. click the link in my post that's just above yours. i don't think there is one state that has the age of conscent at 18.


beer yes, sex no.

lol is it or is it not somebody?!?!

Anglo73?

actwin.com/eatonohio/gay/consent.htm

webistry.net/jan/consent.html

"Michigan
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if the cousin is from the same place then as anglo73 is in, then it's okay isn't it :)


Thanks lol

wheather it's ok or not is up to the individual.. however, it leagal.

all but two states require a couple be age 18 in order to marry without parental consent. Nebraska sets the age at 19 and Mississippi at 21.
Most states however need a consent of both parents or guardians if under 18

Yesss we know what we are talking about in this state. LOL