Why is it that all these men looking for a good woman never find us but the arseholes find us so easily? :)
Because usually the good men dont go out of their way to lie and cheat their way into your heart ;) Some would say that if a woman allows an arsehole to find her so easily, and indeed accept him into her life she deserves him and the consequences :) That and there is the time old tradition of women being attracted to bastards and an inherent need to change them. Having said that the good guys seem to do ok in the end, so happily ever after :)
the bottom line is...love is the absence of anxiety...is this connection energizing or depleting, and nourishing to both parties? based on mutual power,exceptance and naturalness? a true loving relationship with any one is the absence of fear!!!! if your a mess,dump him. find some one who when your with him, you feel good, about him and most importantly feel good about your self. there are alot of fish out in the sea...place your self in other citys, situations, activities,etc....its a huge world if you just get out there.and as you wait for mr. right, focus on your self and self growth...list 5 things you have always wanted to do, even the ones you are scared to do...do then. my best and smile
What a sensible post, well said !