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My Polish boyfriend fancies are Pakistani neighbor. What do I do ?


umm_hottie 2 | 75  
6 Aug 2008 /  #1
My boyfriend and i have been living together for 3 years and his friends live with us too. They are all polish from krakow and have all developed crushes on the pakistani girl who lives next door too us.

The guys all claim shes so beautiful and pretty and the fact that my boyfriend does this too makes me feel lame but he says he cant help how he feels and he tried to break up with me but i begged him to take me back as i told him it wont bother me that he likes her but it does.

Whats worse is she likes him too i think. I dont understand why polish men like pakistani girls but my boyfriend tells me its because they dont have girls like her in poland.

what do i do please help!!!!
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
6 Aug 2008 /  #2
what do i do please help!!!!

Dump him! No offence but that's a bit of an insult that he fancies a paki above you!
IronsE11 2 | 442  
6 Aug 2008 /  #3
Well put. No really.
Misty 5 | 144  
6 Aug 2008 /  #4
that's a bit of an insult that he fancies a paki above you!

And why would that be an insult?
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
6 Aug 2008 /  #5
Just my own personal point of view Misty, that's all.
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
6 Aug 2008 /  #6
well mate

i anint being funny or nuffink like but if i had to make a choice between a woman who could make decent vegetable karahi or a plate of bigos i know which one id be walking off with

jolly good
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
6 Aug 2008 /  #7
why would that be an insult?

Openly oggling or fancying any girl of any colour is an insult to your girl....perhaps you ought to tell him you fancy one of the guys next door...see how he feels about that....?
Zgubiony 15 | 1,554  
6 Aug 2008 /  #8
The guys all claim shes so beautiful and pretty and the fact that my boyfriend does this too makes me feel lame but he says he cant help how he feels and he tried to break up with me but i begged him to take me back as i told him it wont bother me that he likes her but it does

?
Are you that insecure? You need to let him go. Why would you lie and say it won't bother you? Let him do as he wishes. If you don't, you'll just be tossed aside. You should have a bit more self-esteem. Good luck with that.
Sophia - | 99  
6 Aug 2008 /  #9
It sounds like you're out the door if she shows enough interest in him. Have more respect for yourself than begging him to stay with you. You should be with someone who doesn't count you as a 2nd prize until he can get his hands on the first.. Be with someone who truly wants you.

Something made me think this was a regular to the forum winding us up...
Daisy 3 | 1,227  
6 Aug 2008 /  #10
Stick a poster of Johnny Depp on the bedroom wall, that'll teach him.
Sophia - | 99  
6 Aug 2008 /  #11
Lol Daisy :) She won't even notice where his eyes are wandering because she'll be too fixated on the poster. Problem solved!
Daisy 3 | 1,227  
6 Aug 2008 /  #12
we're brilliant aren't we? All this good advice for free :)
polishgirltx  
6 Aug 2008 /  #13
he tried to break up with me but i begged him to take me back as i told him it wont bother me that he likes her but it does.

lol... if you keep doing that, she will be moving in with you guys pretty soon...
JustysiaS 13 | 2,240  
6 Aug 2008 /  #14
he says he cant help how he feels and he tried to break up with me but i begged him to take me back as i told him it wont bother me that he likes her but it does.

how old are you? your boyfriend obviously doesn't love you very much if he's so open about his feelings (or more like his lust) for another girl after 3 yrs of living with you. i just don't understand why it's you begging him not to dump you, if he's not sorry for his words and actions then it looks like your relationship might be over and really you should let him go. i'd just kick out the tw*t and tell him to move next door with the other girl. what a feckin pig.

oh and by the way, the fact she's pakistani is totally irrelevant here. asian women can be hot too. not for very long though haha ;).
loco polaco 3 | 353  
6 Aug 2008 /  #15
Dump him! No offence but that's a bit of an insult that he fancies a paki above you!

What's being a Pakistani have to do with anything. Is this another racist comment from you dear?

I am thinking the issue is that he fancies another girl while having a serious girlfriend, no?

umm_hottie: what do you feel like doing? go with your internal feelings; they are never wrong.

perhaps you ought to tell him you fancy one of the guys next door...see how he feels about that....?

that's just more games. don't do that hottie.
edward - | 1  
6 Aug 2008 /  #16
dump him get my phone number
Blingin 5 | 52  
6 Aug 2008 /  #17
What's being a Pakistani have to do with anything. Is this another racist comment from you dear

insult that he fancies a paki above you!

why is that an insult, and why are you using that term 'paki' its disrespectful? the fact he likes someone else while in a relationship and doesnt feel bad is wrong, but liking someone who is of different race and nationality is not wrong, would you find it an insult if he fancied a man instead? probably not to you, itd be ok right why? because its more socialbly acceptable to accept gays than to accept interracial relationships, WRONG. you think really bad. open your mind you silly little girl.

I dont understand why polish men like pakistani girls but my boyfriend tells me its because they dont have girls like her in poland.

what do i do please help!!!!

hottie, its true that some Polish men desire different nations, cultures and races because its rare for them and they want that, they want to try it to see. it shouldnt matter what race she is, thats not the real problem, hes not into you as you are into him thats the problem. have a break from him, if he comes back to you and misses you then he knows what he could have lost, but if he dont, then he didnt want you in the first place. whatever you do, dont run after him, he loves it.
Bartolome 2 | 1,085  
6 Aug 2008 /  #18
I dont understand why polish men like pakistani girls

Not every one of them. I, for one, fancy white lassies.
mafketis 24 | 9,361  
6 Aug 2008 /  #19
The problem is that they could get this poor girl killed. Too many Pakistani men think nothing of killing female relatives who consort with non-muslims (or a non-muslim not approved of by the family). Controling (and bartering) their female relatives' sexuality is a major pillar of the culture (stronger than paternal or fraternal feelings).

If they really like her the best thing they can do is to stay far away.
Andrew78 - | 97  
6 Aug 2008 /  #20
Just make sure you take shower every day dude
loco polaco 3 | 353  
6 Aug 2008 /  #21
If they really like her the best thing they can do is to stay far away.

is this going on in Pakistan or UK? bad advice if it's anywhere outside a muslim country.
mafketis 24 | 9,361  
6 Aug 2008 /  #22
bad advice if it's anywhere outside a muslim country

Why? Pakistanis carry this behavior with them to the UK (along with cousin marriage and arranged marriage and treating daughter in laws like slaves).

I'm sure on an individual basis there are lots of nice people from Pakistan but the culture puts severe restrictions on female behavior and females challenge those restrictions at peril of their life (at the hands of their family).
Arise_St_George 9 | 419  
6 Aug 2008 /  #23
My boyfriend and i have been living together for 3 years and his friends live with us too. They are all polish from krakow and have all developed crushes on the pakistani girl who lives next door too us.

The guys all claim shes so beautiful and pretty and the fact that my boyfriend does this too makes me feel lame but he says he cant help how he feels and he tried to break up with me but i begged him to take me back as i told him it wont bother me that he likes her but it does.

Whats worse is she likes him too i think. I dont understand why polish men like pakistani girls but my boyfriend tells me its because they dont have girls like her in poland.

what do i do please help!!!!

Get rid. There's going to be a strain on your relationship. The fact that you've begged him back has given him control. He'll feel free to walk up and flirt with her and if you open your mouth he'll always use the threat of breaking up. You've given him power. Just break up with him. He should keep his opinions to himself when it comes to an attraction to other people. I think it's wrong when someone tells their gf/bf that they find some other particular person attractive.

There are SOME nice looking Pakistani/Indian women. At one time I thought "ew a paki" but having seen some they can be quite attractive. Only the women though.

Anyway, dump him and find someone else.. Come to Preston :)
Blingin 5 | 52  
6 Aug 2008 /  #24
ew a paki"

what is wrong with peoples perceptions nowadays, we are all people
Arise_St_George 9 | 419  
6 Aug 2008 /  #25
Nah, Pakis, blacks and whites are different types of people.
Spade 1 | 81  
6 Aug 2008 /  #26
open your mind you silly little girl

FYI, That person is a 52 Years old fart :D

Only the women though

Regardless of nationality, Why would a man look attractive to You? unless You're gay :D
Arise_St_George 9 | 419  
6 Aug 2008 /  #27
Regardless of nationality, Why would a man look attractive to You? unless You're gay :D

I think any heterosexual is able to tell who's a decent looking guy or an ugly git. This doesn't mean we're gay.

I'm straight 100%. Give me pus5y anyday of the week. Asian men aren't decent looking people. Besides they smell like curry O.o
Spade 1 | 81  
6 Aug 2008 /  #28
I'm straight 100%. Give me pus5y anyday of the week.

With curry or without?
Arise_St_George 9 | 419  
6 Aug 2008 /  #29
Without. I'm a vegetarian but I can take exception for human female flesh.
LAGirl 9 | 496  
7 Aug 2008 /  #30
y fancy some muslim girl over you.

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