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ARE POLES ROMANTICS?? [36]
Hello Everyone,
Hello.
I live in Toronto and have had the "pleasure" of getting to know two Germans (male and female) and a Swede (female).
Well, you don't have to socialize with people you dislike?
Anyways after hanging out with them on a few occasions I've learned that they are your stereotypically liberal thinking Western Europeans- mostly after casual sexual relationships and anti-family.
Listen, casual dating doesn't make you anti-family all of a sudden. It does make you a sexually active person. Seriously, people have always been like that, and there's not much wrong with that, unless you keep telling yourself everything is wrong with that.
It's nature way, because some women can't get pregnant, and for other women it takes quite a few times before they get pregnant aswell. Oh, and ofcourse some guys are infertile too.
Being raised Polish in Canada, I feel like I've had a greater sense of family values instilled in me- and I am proud of that.
How do you know you have a greater sense of family values instilled in you? Do you honestly believes you're a better father than someone else simply because you have a certain religion? Do you think you're a better father because you have little to no experience with different women? What if she will cheat on you? Will you forgive her? Divorce? Or kill her?
If you have more experience with dating and relationships, you'll get in touch with your human nature yourself, and it won't be as much as a shock to you if, or when you find out about such things. You should keep in mind no one's perfect, and that about 60% of all the men and women cheat sometimes. And yes, this includes Christians.
Also the two Germans and Swede do not seem to identify with Christianity (this does not surprise me).
Why should they? Oh, and I've got news for you, there are a lot of people who don't really identify with Christianity anymore, but ofcourse a lot of people still pretend like they do in certain regions and communities.
The German guy said that Germans do not really date. I found this hard to understand.
Me too, because they obviously do date. I've had a holiday romance with a German girl in Lloret de Marr once, and we got along really well in those three weeks. Ofcourse I've lost all contact with her, but hey, I get to keep the memories!
Some of the Poles I've known in Canada seem to to much more pro family and not so cold.
I've met a few Polish women who were married, and they wanted to come home with me, and I kept asking them about that ring they were wearing. You know what they did? They smiled, and shrugged their shoulders! They didn't care about their marriage. I didn't touch them. (Some of them don't wear their ring, and they won't tell you, so you can't blame me when that happens!) I believe that if you're married you've made a choice and a promise to someone else, and someone else trusts you with that promise, so you shouldn't do those things anymore, unless the two of you are having what they call an open relationship, or an open marriage.
So I would like to know if Poles in Poland are still the pro-family, romantic types? I would think for the most part they are. But I'm not joking when I say this- after meeting the Germans and Swede, I am not attracted to these kinds of cultures and people, if this is the norm that is. But I have read that the Germans are cold like this :)
You've read wrong. People aren't cold because they date. I know a woman who lives just a few houses away. She had five marriages, and now she says she treasures her children, and enjoys her life. Is it her fault these guys ran off? Is she better off than someone who dates casually?
Rychlik, morals and sex are two different things, and having sex doesn't make you a cold person. Sex and romance often go hand in hand, but true love is so much different, and so much deeper if the feeling's mutual.
I know it would treasure it if I ever found it with someone, but for as long as I'm single, I'm just going to be brutally honest with everyone. I'm a young man, and I can see there are a lot of beautiful women out there. I'm not making anyone pregnant, I'm not running away for my responsibilities, and I'm not pretending anymore, like so many others still are. Do whatever makes you happy, but please don't try to tell me that someone is a cold person, or morally wrong, simply because he or she dates.
You can find true love after many dates, and you can find true love as a virgin, but it all depends on who you find. You can be a good mother when you really feel you're ready to be one, and you can be a good father when you really feel you're ready to be one. (It's just the simple truth!)
I won't lie, a broken heart isn't funny, and a broken heart can really hurt you sometimes, but it usually starts with what you're telling yourself. The more you expect from people around you, the harder people will let you down. The more you believe in fairytales, the uglier reality becomes. Just be you, and let someone else be the same. I respect your vieuws, and I won't tell you to see things my way, but I won't respect your lies about Germans and Swedish people. You say they're cold people, but the truth is that you don't know all of these people personally.
:)
