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Are expensive gifts offensive to polish guys?


LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #1
That is if you are not related to them?
mira - | 115  
15 Dec 2009 /  #2
offensive?why "offensive"?
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #3
Are expensive gifts offensive to polish guys?

No, not at all. But if I were you, I wouldn't give him something that he could never afford to give you. (Some guys can be insecure like that!)

;)
Nika 2 | 507  
15 Dec 2009 /  #4
That is if you are not related to them?

I think it would be really ambarassing for a PL man/any man...

I guess it would be awkward for anybody to receive an expensive gift from someone not related to them?
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
15 Dec 2009 /  #5
Anyone offended by an expensive gift can ease their pain by passing on the gift to me....nice cars are very welcome , as are large piles of dosh...
OP LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #6
Nika
Maybe you are right, about that, I just wanted to be nice, gave sth. he would need to buy anyhow :-/
terziev - | 49  
15 Dec 2009 /  #7
better play safe and give the expensive gifts to some bulgarian guys.
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #8
I guess it would be awkward for anybody to receive an expensive gift from someone not related to them?

I guess it all depends on the financial backgrounds of the persons we're talking about? I mean, my idea of expensive might be totally different from your idea of expensive..

;)
Nika 2 | 507  
15 Dec 2009 /  #9
Maybe you are right, about that, I just wanted to be nice, gave sth. he would need to buy anyhow :-/

I don't know how well you guys know each other, what kind of a person he is or what you wanted to buy for him.

I would say that most PL men would be amabarassed if a woman gave them an expensive gift, especiall if they couldn't afford to buy her something precious in return.
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #10
especiall if they couldn't afford to buy her something precious in return.

I agree, this is perhaps the most important part, it may make a guy feel like he's a loser. (It's not because he gets an expensive gift from a woman, but because he can't afford something *that* expensive.) But if he's a wealthy guy, and you're certain he'd be able to return the favour if he wanted to, I don't see why you shouldn't?

:)
OP LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #11
It was not expensive, expensive, little less then 100 Euros, but it's though more then you give here in general as a "casual" gift.
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #12
Okay, well, I'd consider it pretty normal. (I gave a homeless dude 50 € a few months ago because I didn't have anything smaller on me, and I didn't know him either!) Maybe it's different in Poland, but I don't really see how this would damage the average working guy's wallet too much?

You should do what you want, and give people whatever you want to give them, but it's pretty considerate of you to ask about such things.

:)
sadieann 2 | 205  
15 Dec 2009 /  #13
Don't put a price on the gift.. It feels good to give.. He'll know you have a good heart :)
terziev - | 49  
15 Dec 2009 /  #14
I gave a homeless dude 50 € a few months ago

well, that one i think offensive for sure. the minimal wage in bulgaria is 120 € !!!!!!
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #15
Yeah, but here it isn't. The average house here is 300.000 € Okay? So you might think we're all spoiled and rich, but reality is that we may earn more, but also have to spend a lot more..

;)

Suffice it to say, I'm not sorry.
Nika 2 | 507  
15 Dec 2009 /  #16
It was not expensive, expensive, little less then 100 Euros, but it's though more then you give here in general as a "casual" gift.

It makes some 400PLN so it's definitely more than casual for PL. As the others said, it depends if that's more than casual for the guy in question. If it is more, then I'm telling you as a PL girl that an average PL guy would feel ambarassed about receiving such a gift.
OP LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #17
Thank you all, I feel better :-)...
and then came the ohooo
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #18
I think Nika's right there.

:)

Thank you all, I feel better :-)...

Edit: You're welcome!

and then came the ohooo

Oh dear, just give him whatever you want to give him? I'm sure he'll know it's from a good heart!

;)

Edit II: Sorry if we made you doubt!
terziev - | 49  
15 Dec 2009 /  #19
So you might think we're all spoiled and rich

well, lets say i hope you were exaggerating, otherwise i would say you live in some parallel universe.
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #20
I'm not overexaggerating, this is what most houses will cost you in my region. (Maybe even more!) And could you please elaborate as to why I should be living in a parallel universe? (There's nothing surreal about anything I've said in my previous postings I'm afraid.)

Just another few houses in my parallel universe!

Enjoy!
OP LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #21
Arien

Yeah, but here it isn't. The average house here is 300.000 € Okay? So you might think we're all spoiled and rich, but reality is that we may earn more, but also have to spend a lot more..

Im not sure where you are Arien, but I think the average housing here is around 200.000, the cheapest are from 100.000 but plenty reach the 300.000 as well and even more :-o.
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #22
Where would that be? (North Holland over here!) I think I would absolutely love to be able to buy a house for 150.000 €, because I'm not really concerned with all the status and showing off..

:)

I'd rather go on a holiday a little more often!
OP LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #23
Well that would be in Iceland... you know.. the bad, bad, bad country, where most of us are terrorists ;-)
Arien 3 | 721  
15 Dec 2009 /  #24
Oh really? You don't seem that much of a scary person to me! (I've never been there, but I bet it's as cold as its name!)

;)
OP LMH 1 | 8  
15 Dec 2009 /  #25
Actually the weather here has been great lately, upto 10°c :-D. But didn't you hear? We took all the savings from Holland and UK and now every citizen has to pay it for next 30-40 years :-/
frd 7 | 1,399  
15 Dec 2009 /  #26
I think that giving an expensive gift could hint that you want something in return, or it could hint that when he will be giving you a present he'll have to buy something equally expensive - and if he can't afford it - it might be kind of offensive. I'd refuse taking a present from a girl that I'm not in some sort of relationship in and can't efford giving her a similar one, I'd also do the same if I knew that the girl isn't particularly rich. Even if he looks like he is in need of the object for instance moving to a new house and has lack of certain house wares it could be embarassing to get anything if it was really pricey.. ( if you guys are not long term friends )
asik 2 | 220  
16 Dec 2009 /  #27
Are expensive gifts offensive to polish guys?

Not offensive but could be seen by many as you're trying to "buy" a man or that you don't have much to offer as a person.

You can drive the man away from you in case he is not able to give you back similarly expensive gift (as a custom -that's what should follow after receiving gift).

Of course , there are always others who would be more than happy to receive gift as often as possible but these men usually are womanisers and don't give a s....t about one specific woman.
beckski 12 | 1,617  
16 Dec 2009 /  #28
Not offensive but could be seen by many as you're trying to "buy" a man

I had the same interpretation as well.

I think it's better to start off with a smaller, less expensive gift. Something given from the heart, such as a handmade item. After all, dynamite comes in small packages!
PlasticPole 7 | 2,649  
16 Dec 2009 /  #29
An expensive gift is never offensive but give at your own risk. Just because you give someone an expensive gift won't make them like you or want to be with you forever.
OP LMH 1 | 8  
16 Dec 2009 /  #30
Thank's all, good to get insight from so many :-)

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