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Speaks Polish?: the very basics, hope to improve
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rachek13   
4 Oct 2007
Love / The Polish girl i love has gone back to Poland . [65]

I have started a long distance with Polish man who altho not in Poland, wants to go back there. I have a son too, it's very complicated - anyone ben in this position?
rachek13   
7 Oct 2007
Life / Why are the Poles picked on there is no reason to do this to them [108]

Yeh I would tend to agree with Amirah. I llive in UK, where every other person walking down the street seesm to be Polish. My boyfriend is Polish (my 2nd Polish b/f) and here I think some British people feel threatened by their morals, their strong work ethic etc.

There are more opportunities for muliticulturalism and the British have to stop being so ignorant
rachek13   
9 Oct 2007
Love / How to sustain a Long Distance Relationship with a Polish girl [75]

Czesc everyone

it's good to read all these comments/opinions..............I would appreciate any advice/suggestions on my current long-distance relationship, please guys!

Like Sausage, I'm in UK, my Polish man is in Netherlands, at present.

We met a year ago (long story).......and it was many months before we spoke again, and decided to give it a go, after sensing this amazing connection when we first met. However, we were both in unhappy relationships at the time; tho we corresponded by email in the meantime. I then ended my relationship, and he planned to separate from his wife who he'd been living apart from for several years.

We have met 3 times, each time we have grown closer and feel our love is so strong. But about a month ago, he suddenly went quiet.

He seems to have got cold feet (he's been sorting legal stuff with wife etc), he seems worn down and he sent an email kinda saying he didn't deserve my love. Also said he's bad father, so he'd fail with my son, who he hasn't even met (I have young son, he has grown up kids) - we had been planning to live together, possibly for me to leave UK etc.

I have spoken with him, he sounds defeated at the moment, everything uncertain, his job, future.

But I love him and want to be with him - he says he loves me, misses me, that I showed him what true love is etc

Any ideas how to give him some courage? Surrely he wants to try to see if it can work after he feels that I am "the ONE" ??!!
rachek13   
29 Oct 2007
Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]

Thanks for the comments, everyone :-) ................just hard as we're both in seperate countries and he's silent at the minute.................

just a thought but... 23 years is a long relationship to get over or let go of, you can see why he might be conflicted, especially if his wife is sending him mixed signals.

I do take your point, Nitka - tho he has been living apart from her for seven or eight years, and hasn't gone back to live with her day to day like she wanted....which does give some indication that maybe he's been more ready to finish it than her..........?

I hope he regains some strength after being worn down by all her comments etc
rachek13   
31 Oct 2007
Love / british women in long-distance relationships with Polish men [9]

Hi Debianco

I saw your profile and notice you have same interests as me (drama, music)!! Did you study drama at uni?

Anyway. you can see some of my situation in the subject "advice (preferably from women) on stressed/depressed boyfriend" on the Love & Relationships forum

Just to summarise, I'm in UK, my Polish b/f is in Netherlands and currently in the midst of fall out of divorce (wife in Poland). I have a son who's 8 (who he hasn't met) and we'd been planning to live together and for me possibly to leave UK, but everything has gone a bit pear-shaped right now.

How about you?
rachek13   
1 Nov 2007
Love / british women in long-distance relationships with Polish men [9]

Hi again

he's been there at least 6 years........................I met him a year ago and started dating him in May.............

I know how you feel about complicated situations!!!!

what about your situation - do you want to tell me some details...........if it's easier I coould give u my email address to correspond?

have been reading some of your earlier posts about your situation................what is happening now? Does he live in UK or just come here occasionally for work?

When he's in Gydnia does he have his own place?

My man lives alone and is going thru divorce proceedings - if you read my earlier posts you'll get more of the story!

Wha's killing me is he's gone silent on me through all the stress of his divorce, feeling he's not worthy etc. And I need to know if he can see a future with me, amonth ago he sent an email telling me I'd always be the one, but he felt he didn't deserve my love (possible as his wife has guilt-tripped him and laid a lot of blame on him)