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waveydave   
13 Apr 2008
Life / The strangest things in Poland [468]

I know two things that Polish people may find strange about the UK.

1) Windows that open outwards. I think I am right in saying that all Polish windows open inwards so they can be cleaned. Makes sense really.

2) Hot and cold water taps. All Polish taps seem to be mixer taps. There is no benefit to having separate hot and cold taps.

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One thing I think is really nice about Poland is the friendliness of the people. I met, through a friend, a man that couldn't speak English at all, but he came up to me and said "David Beckham"... just in an attempt to make conversation. I smiled and said "Yes, David Beckham" and he replied... "Chelsea, Liverpool" etc.etc.

Its really good that although we couldn't understand each other, he still made the effort to be friendly.
waveydave   
13 Apr 2008
Life / The strangest things in Poland [468]

Oslol,

I've got a Tomtom with eastern europe and its been brilliant. Its gone wrong about twice so far but thats probably because the roads have recently changed but I just keep going straight ahead until it plans a new route - no problem at all.

It went wrong when I first got off the ferry at Dunquerke and I thought at that point it was going to be rubbish, but it was fine and it got me through Germany and all the way to Southern Poland perfectly.

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And Bartolome, Dobzre, Posh, tak, tak!
waveydave   
2 May 2008
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

I met a Polish girl online 3 years ago and we had a very romantic "cyber" relationship. At the time she was divorcing her ex-husband with whom she had a daughter who is now six years old.

She visited me in England and we had a wonderful time, there was even the mention of marriage. Since then its me that has made all the effort. The romance seems to have died and now we seem to be just friends but all of the time I have been thinking about her because I really think that she is wonderful. She knows that I am in love with her but from time to time I ask her how she feels about me and she says she doesn't know. If I show her that this upsets me she gets annoyed and so I back off. Occasionally she will say encouraging things like tell me how wonderful I am or talk about a possible future for us.

I have phoned her every day in the last three years and she tells me she likes this. Now, searching for answers I have taken a sabatical from work and I've come to Poland. She booked me a hotel close to her home and I am here for 8 weeks, but I would stay forever if things worked out.

We've been out 10 or so times in the last 5 weeks that I have been here and still we are acting like friends. Today me, her and her daughter have been out to a Salt mine in Krakow. Its driving me crazy that I can't ask her how she feels, so after the salt mine I txt'd her to say I needed to talk and I would phone her tonight. I just phoned to her but she didn't answer, probably she is asleep.

I'm confused, is she stringing me along or is she confused? Any help from women would be appreciated.
waveydave   
3 May 2008
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

Thanks everyone for your responses, really every response is food for thought. Its nice to be able to talk about things because it gets quite lonely in this hotel room.

I know one thing, forgetting her is not going to happen. She is the most special person I know and she really is not a bad person at all. Its possible that she is 'playing' me, but then we all have issues and I am sure she is not being deliberately nasty.

I think the choice I have is either: confront her and if it goes badly I go home and carry on with life, in a sort of 'set her free and see if she comes back' scenario, maybe even stop phoning her; or I just continue as I am, waiting and hoping that she remembers the special time we shared together.

Its taken a lot of effort to get here to Poland, I set up my own little business so I can afford to live here indefinately and I've taken time off work, risking the best job I've ever had by telling them there is a possibility I won't come back. Maybe I am just a dreamer, but I do believe in chasing dreams.

LondonChick - we did meet up in person, once in England and twice in Poland. This was during the time when things were going well between us. It was her that mentioned marriage - I think to see if I was serious. I haven't mentioned the possibility to her about 'staying here forever'. As far as she knows I am here on holiday for 8 weeks and then going home.
waveydave   
3 May 2008
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

Is she lonely? Does she need your attention?

She has a normal number of friends and relatives, although she has told me that I am the person she confides in most.

Do you give her money?

No. I have been trying to pay for meals and things since being in Poland, but only because she probably wouldn't be eating out if I wasn't here. This is only right because I am much better off than she is.

Why does she stay with you?

I don't know if answering the phone is the same as staying with someone.
waveydave   
3 May 2008
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

I haven't met her mother, who I know was very disappointed at the divorce, being a strict Catholic. I don't think I will meet her mother any time soon. I've met her father but this was rather a crazy meeting because we couldn't communicate but we shared Vodka and cigarettes. I am quite good friends with her cousin. I think I am introduced as just a friend. Her best friend from work came to Wroclaw with us on Thursday and I am fairly sure that she knows most of the full story.
waveydave   
24 May 2008
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

Wavey Davey... if you're out there - give us an update...

Oh, sorry - I thought this thread had died.

Well, I'm still here in Poland but according to plan, I'm going back to England on Friday.

I think that the problem with this girl is that she is imprisoned by her family. The only time I see her alone is when her mother looks after her daughter. Her mother is very religious and has two children, the other one being a son that is a priest. I haven't been introduced to her mother and I think its because she wouldn't approve of her daughter having a life after divorce. Yesterday we went shopping and she was clearly upset that she had to rush off after a phone-call from her mother.

I am still here for 5 days and despite the concensus of opinion on here that I am being a wuss and I should move on, I'm not going to. There is still something special between the two of us I am sure. I will go home in 5 days and what will be, will be.
waveydave   
28 May 2008
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

I think you should go back home, and wait for her to call you. leave all the
decisions up to her.. tell her this is how you feel. its what you want or you have
to move on. if she doesnt respond, then you know..

sorry you are going thru so much. :(

Thanks Patrycja. This is exactly what I've done. I'm back in England now.

(My 2 Cents) For what its worth.

Firestorm your 2 cents is worth a lot, thankyou.
waveydave   
30 May 2008
Law / Saving in Poland; bank interests [4]

When I was in Poland I noticed that some of the bank accounts there offer 8%-12% interest on their savings accounts. This beats the 4 or 5% offered by English accounts. Combine this with the fact that there is a steady demand for Zlotyś as Poles take their money back home after working abroad and the Zloty has been raising in value compared with the GBP and USD.

Is it just me that has thought that a Polish savings account might be a sensible place to save. Does anybody know how easy it would be for an English man to open a savings account in Poland? ie, could it be done on the internet?
waveydave   
1 Jun 2008
Law / Saving in Poland; bank interests [4]

Max 6-7% and which inflations over 4% that's nothing special.

Ah, ok. I stand corrected. Probably I was looking at adverts for loans and mistaking them for savings accounts.

Try bank Zachodni WBK they have an internet bank site. Tick the English button to get the info if you don't speak Polish!

Thanks for that.
waveydave   
2 Jun 2008
Travel / How much $$$ to bring with me to Poland for a 10-14 day trip? [27]

200 zlotys a day would be quite a lot. But the ¨how long is a piece of string?¨ question really is relevant... maybe you want to live like a king or a student we don't know.

Bring plenty of cash though - try not to use your credit card or cashcard because your bank will rip you off.... only 5 or 10 percent but thats quite a lot really.
waveydave   
9 Jun 2008
News / News in Poland: are Poles more positive? [7]

When I was in Poland I saw a few different things on the news. One was about the May 1st celebrations about the end of communism. Another was about Poles voting in the London Mayor elections. Another about the success of the Polish formula 1 driver.

As soon as I got back to England I saw the usual English news. The muslims wanted to kill us, 1/4 of the population are on disability benefit, we have more grandmothers in there 30s than ever before, credit crunch etc. etc. All bad news.

Is is just me - or are British people quite negative and the Poles more positive? I know the Poles like to complain but I didn't here any complaining when I visited. I could be wrong about this, I'm just curious to know does anyone else think that Poles are more forward thinking than the British?
waveydave   
9 Jun 2008
News / News in Poland: are Poles more positive? [7]

Yes, I am sure I may well be wrong.

I am quite a negative Brit. I loved Poland when I was there. To me it felt like a country on the way up whereas Britain feels like a country in decline.

Its probably just that holiday feeling.
waveydave   
30 Jun 2008
UK, Ireland / 800K of Polish immigrants in UK don't pay taxes -what do the poles think [190]

Please ask your tutor to go through when to use "your" and when to use "you're".

I've noticed that a lot of students these days aren't up to scratch with basic skills like their own language. Its terrible what has happened to the education system of this country.

I think we need some more well educated Poles to come to the UK and help us out. Noimmigration can go and do the minimum wage work.
waveydave   
2 Jul 2008
Travel / Glasgow to Katowice - Wizzair OK? [21]

I once got delayed going from Katowice to Luton for about 15 hours while engineers were fixing the wizzair plane. Really annoying.

Recently I was at Katowice airport and three flights from Wizzair were delayed whereas the only other plane took off on time - that one was LOT.

I'm not suggesting there is anything wrong with Wizzair and I hope you leave on time but I think you do have to be careful with budget airlines because they really do operate on a tight budget.
waveydave   
2 Jul 2008
Travel / Glasgow to Katowice - Wizzair OK? [21]

Well, yes I am happy the plane was fixed when I got in it.

I wasn't meaning to have a pop at Wizzair but I work in air traffic control and I know that budget airlines have a very tight budget. I think on the whole Wizzair do a great job at a good price.

If I travel with work I always go with a national carrier like BA - but then its not my money I'm spending then :)
waveydave   
2 Jul 2008
Travel / Glasgow to Katowice - Wizzair OK? [21]

NATS ... yes?

Yes, exactly... this is where I learnt not all airlines aren't equal. I'm not a controller though.

You took me by surprise there telefontinka.
waveydave   
2 Jul 2008
Work / Wizzair/Lot airlines - working for them [14]

Wizzair or LOT

Go with LOT... the pilots'll be ex-military and will have more flying hours. Might be useful if you have to crash-land (joke) ;)
waveydave   
4 Jul 2008
UK, Ireland / 800K of Polish immigrants in UK don't pay taxes -what do the poles think [190]

Maybe true

I was just trying to make the point that the figures quoted in the daily star might sound shocking but its normal. At least you are thinking about it rather than blindly reading the article.

The other thing that struck me was that 800,000 Poles claim £33 million a year in child benefits. Thats 79p a week each. 7.5 million families claim child benefit in the uk. Thats 1 in 8 people. If each of these families had only one child to claim for, they would get £18 a week. Many of the families will have more than one child of course. If they did only have one child it works out to £2.25 per per capita.

The point I am making is that from the daily star article and a few quick google searches, I concluded that Poles statistically work more and claim far less benefit than the national average.

Nonimmigration can keep picking out these tabloid reports but as an (half) educated man I'd hope he'd have the sense to see that things aren't quite as bad as the Star and the Mail would have you believe. I'm sure he'll never change his mind though because people form opinions from snappy headlines and then search for evidence that they are right.
waveydave   
28 Jul 2008
Life / Smokers in Poland..... price rise. [47]

help pay for the care people require after overusing these over their lifetime

Smokers cost the health service less than non-smokers because they statistically die younger and faster.
waveydave   
4 Aug 2008
Life / Smokers in Poland..... price rise. [47]

Quote from: news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/background_briefings/smoking/86599.stm

It is assumed that if large numbers of smokers give up, the NHS will make substantial savings.

This is not necessarily the case. Dutch researchers have shown smokers may actually save society money because they do not live so long. The study, conducted by the Erasmus University Department of Public Health in Rotterdam, compared the health care costs of smokers to those of people of more advanced years.

They concluded that in the long run, if many people stopped using tobacco products, costs would actually rise as a healthier population eventually moved into nursing homes and into the relatively expensive diseases of old age.

They calculated the average lifetime costs of a smoking man to be $72,700 - much less than $83,400 for the non-smoking man.
waveydave   
18 May 2009
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

One year on and this situation is still going on. I returned from Poland last year and stopped phoning her so much. I was getting on with my life just fine. Then, a couple of months ago she invited me to go on holiday with her.

We had a really nice week in the sun together and now I am even more sure we are compatible. Still she will make no commitment to me. She tells me that after her divorce, she needs to be sure about me before she can commit.

I'm thinking of wrapping things up in England and moving to Poland, to a flat nearby where she lives. At least then we can go on dates so when she is ready I will be there for her. If I am not, I'm sure someone else will be.

Its a big step and a big gamble but now I have known her for 4 1/2 years I have to do something. Forgetting her is not an option.
waveydave   
18 May 2009
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

Thanks for the replies.

We did make it to the bedroom, but not completely. I don't want to go into details.

I think I have to go to Poland and take a gamble. If it doesn't work out, then I will be unhappy but at least I will have tried.
waveydave   
18 May 2009
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

I understand that it can be difficult for her and that she needs time. But you have given her 4.5 years. That's more than enough.

Thanks mate. You are a really good guy.

I will see how she reacts to my idea about moving to Poland, and take it from there.
waveydave   
18 May 2009
Love / Confused English man: is she stringing me along or is she confused? [62]

I was blessed to realize v. early in life that people will only accept advice which confirms their intentions & dismiss opinions to the contrary

Yes, I know Anubis. But, like you said before, you don't know the full situation.

I do think about what everybody says, really. I can't help what I feel, maybe love is blind.