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14 year old rape victim from Warsaw denied abortion! [348]
I can certainly understand abortion in rape cases, or the woman's life is in danger. Those whose condom blew up, whose pills are seriously on the wrong side of the expiry date, or who had one too many and exercised an incorrect judgment are a different story.
And here's where your logic ends and your morals become double standards...
Since you already decided that fetuses are humans, what makes a fetus created throuth rape less worthy of life than the one created because of a blown-up condom? And if the life of a fetus is worth just as much as the life of a grown woman then who are YOU to decide which one should live and which one should die?
Personally I also used to support abortion "only in special cases". But since that argument is simply hypocritical, I now support abortion in every case when a woman simply doesn't wish to be a mother. And here's why:
Being a mother is not simply a matter of material costs but it's also a HUGE cultural, psychological and social burden. A woman cannot simply give birth to a child and then stop being a mother by giving it up. Even after rejecting the child she continues to be a mother. The only difference is that then she is a BAD mother. After the child is born a woman has two choices - to be a good mother or a bad mother. She can't choose not to be a mother at all. And if you think that it's somehow not a big deal then ask yourself - what is a difference between a person who's raped and a person who has sex willingly? Or between a man who has sex with a 19-ear-old girl and a man who has sex with a 12 year-old girl who just had her first period (a sign from nature that she's mature enough to breed). Physically there is no difference and someone raised in a culture that condones rape or pedophilia would probably also think that it's 'not a big deal'. And yet the difference exists, only it lays in social norms that are so deeply engraved in our mind that it can literally cripple a person.
To a woman, there is no bigger social pressure than that which stems from having given birth to a child. From that moment on woman's worth is judged through the prism of motherhood. Even the most successful woman is discredited the moment someone says 'she sacrificed her children for a career! She may be famous but she's a BAD MOTHER!'. Physically a woman is free, but mentally she becomes a slave for her children. Everything she does must result in their well-being, otherwise she ends with a label of a BAD mother.
For a 14-year-old child it's simply impossible to take on that pressure. It's also impossible for such child to stop being a mother and highly improbable to be a good mother. Therefore she automatically ends up with a label of a BAD mother=BAD woman=BAD person. That kind of stigma can never be washed off. If she keeps a child and is unable to give it proper care, she's a bad mother. If she gives a child up for adoption, she's a bad mother. If she decides to find her child once she's an adult then it is not seen as an act of good will on her part but rather as 'bad mother trying to pay back for her sins'
It's as if an act of giving birth was such a huge favour for a woman from the baby she gave birth to, that she now OWES something to that baby and must pay off that 'debt'.
In that aspect, an unwanted child really does become a mental parasite. Which is why it's so important that a woman chooses that responsibility willingly. Abortion is the only thing which society accepts as an act of actually stopping to be a mother. So the moral depth to abortion is not only a matter of whether the life of a brainless fetus is worth the same as life of a child with thoughts, dreams and feelings but also a matter of woman's mental stability.
