Love / My Stupid Friend [40]


oh yeah. well explain lol


so your saying you never in your whole life experienced jealousy?

I think your full of poop! lol everyone feels it, and even though we cant
do anything about it, its there, it hurts , but mostly makes people out of their minds
and of course facts should be layed down before jumping the gun and reacting
but some dont. like that guy nauzcy is talking bout ..

Love / My Stupid Friend [40]

chicken!! bak bak.. lol

Love / My Stupid Friend [40]


I thought you already had a GF ??


this isnt unusual for a man who fears losing his GF.. I think most guys who find out
this is going on with another male would probably do the same. even if nothing is
theres always going to be jealousy.. its part of your nature.. you would prob
do the same if you were feeling neglected/fear of another man taking over no?

Love / In love with a Polish teacher... [83]


well , you could be reading him wrong, most do want that extra * thang*

but ultimately its up to you to stop it as you started it.

he might be attractive, but is it worth tearing apart a family thats whole and blossomed?

if he was in the process of divorce, I wouldnt even blink. but this is a real issue
that you * YOU * need to stop. dont let it happen, grab onto your morals...

temptation walks in our shadows all the time.. its up to us to make sure we keep
our lives in check. you seem like your sensible enough to end it same as it started.
least thats my humble opinion.. I hope the best for ya. and him as well.

I just want you to remember .. and you also said it. your attracted to him.
you dont love him as his family does.. and if he is into his family, hes not going to
give them up for a one night mistake. especially such a young family.

dont you want love not lust?

Love / In love with a Polish teacher... [83]


now I agree with PLK..

if hes married and you havent been in contact, why would you want to make a man
become unfaithful with you ? theres plenty of Polish men out there who are
single and avail.. some circumstances cant be helped/ rather the marriage is to late
for salvage, but in this case, your baiting him.

there is a difference .

=--=

plus .. any man , just like any woman would love the attention , especially after being
married a few years, its like a adrenaline rush. someone else thinks your sexy , your
going to flirt back, and its human to do this. but dont be a home wrecker , that could
happen to you ..


he hasnt done anything wrong yet. he kept the notes yes. but.. he is human. probably
they made him feel good yes. but he still hasnt cheated

bendable bones however. after finding out that he was married and has kids
(small children I presume) .. that would have ended it for me. first of all. his heart
is going to always be with his children of his first wife. second, maybe your pushing
something hes not sure he wants to do. and third. would you want someone pretty
young and smart to come along and steal your husband right from under your nose?

like I said some work and some dont. but in this situation, its really your decision,
just dont go putting your eggs in one nest so to speak.

or the wrong nest.

UK, Ireland / Anti-Polish sentiment of England [253]


you know. my grandfather I think was like that because when they arrived in
America, they had so much to deal with then, it was fueled hatred, because they
were struggeling to become a part of the polish community, on top of worry for their
families back in poland, forced integration ( this was planned by local govts too)
with other minority groups such as hungarian, Italian,etc.. which back then were so
seperated.. no one was allowed to mix and marry ( hungarian with Polish) etc.

so when my dad was born, by then it eased up a bit, but then they dealt with
a new onset of problems involving the communities.. and it was more of a rich vs
poor. how much money do you have type of problems..

and the kids from my fathers neighborhood all were clothed the best they could.
they didnt have the money and saved what money they had/made and the
economy just crashed.

then me growing up. my dad would say things, but I would just look at him like thats
not very nice of you to say, ( but never said it out loud to him or risk getting my dupa
kicked ) LOL...

UK, Ireland / Anti-Polish sentiment of England [253]


same here.. it was mostly my dad, but also his father who had these views.

I knew they were wrong..it is what were taught.. because as babies we dont know
anything about color or different skin until we are older and taught it.

Genealogy / how many know their own family histories? [139]


I have a great great aunt that I believe her children ( few of them) came here to the
states, but can I find any records? no.. can I attach anyone here to anyone ? no

frustrating , its more then that.. but I still love doing it :) as much as I have wanted
to call it quits because I hit the brick wall.

UK, Ireland / Anti-Polish sentiment of England [253]


me too :)

its difficult I do agree. things we see on tv, hear, read about, make it extremely hard
to be completely open minded when in the back of your mind you know things and
worry that you might be standing next to a time bomb..

that is a good way to show it though ( above post with dogs)..

but the only thing we have to remember is.. any animal is capable of turning on you
at any given moment even in the deepest times of trust.

UK, Ireland / Anti-Polish sentiment of England [253]


has nothing to do with prejudiced.. lets say they are just like any othe breed of dog
with good care and attention and love.. then would you think or like them?

I agree with you on one part. its the cirrculation of known facts which make the hype
bigger and before ya know it , people form opinions and never experienced these
types of dogs.. so Its the same with people.. we cant form opinions based on hype.

UK, Ireland / Anti-Polish sentiment of England [253]


yes and you were one of them however many years ago when you were born and
maybe thats the reason the dr dropped you!


agree.. there is no constructive debate..ANOTHER TROLL.

Life / Smoking ban - will this be coming to Poland like other EU countries? [183]

*big grins* Thank you Szarlotka :))

Yes I feel a whole lot better :)

NO disrespect to others who smoke, but the feeling I had was that it was taking
over my life and I hated the fact that all I could do was worry about when my next
break was at work to have another ciggarette ( that extra nail in the coffin).

and now a days they put even more chemicals in the cigarettes so we dont quit
and make us more addicted.

I was ready.. it took more then once. its true, you really have to be ready.

Life / Smoking ban - will this be coming to Poland like other EU countries? [183]


I quit smoking a month and half ago and have been doing fine, although I had
two dreams where I smoked a ciggarette and I yelled at myself in the dreams lol

the smoking ban is moving across the world ..

UK, Ireland / Another girl from Poland murdered in uk [63]


annie,

some of us have been saying this all along.. but people want to create hate from
posts..

if you look carefully, a good portion of people have given condolences.. and that
still stands.. this was horrible. and we all feel very saddened by the senseless
brutality that exists in our world today.

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]

well IMHO from the posts whats been said, it just sounds like she is giving him grief
not every relationship works/marriage should i say.

alot of people think that material possessions are more important to fight over in
a relationship. but what good do they do you when it is all over with?

ya cant make love to a couch ( and I dont want to hear any silly comments from
the guyz) lol even though I know its coming.. lol.

UK, Ireland / Polish teenager murdered after arriving in UK [117]


again media fed kilkline. I agree with you. its causing alot of grief.. domino effect
so to speak.

UK, Ireland / What will the Polish give the UK? [58]


without them riveting things together , you would be enjoying your philosophy in a
tent..

Love / Bad experience with a Polish Guy who... had another girlfriend :( [49]


Frank think positive :))

History / Ancient Polish History thread [180]

as I appreciate those helping me to learn more

Thank you :))

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]

so that wonderful gal of yours who probably thinks she has a future of love and children will never see candles and cake..hmmmmm..

I think your better then that.. not every relationship works, but not every one fails
either.

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]

I would also like to add. in alot of cases, some people get the false idea that when
you say I do, its like having ownership papers. and you can treat this person anyway
you would like to because you are their owner.. ****NOT****

every relationship requires full attention. ive had my good and bad and its always going
to be two working at it not one.

the most important is to not manipulate children if any are in the picture. in the long
run it can only create hate, possibly for you or the other parent and that doesnt say
much. children should never have to hate their parents because they disagree and
dont love each other anymore.. there is ways to make things work . but its working
together while your apart.

IMHO.


I think thats why hes not responded, maybe he is giving it a chance, but from personal
experience, once that love is gone .. it doesnt reture the same.. the feeling is so
different.. it was more of a pity love rather then I would do anything love.

yes stay supportive. email him again, tell him he dont have to respond, just listen
and tell him how much you miss and that you will be here.. dont spit any anger
because hes got enough of that on his plate right now to deal with more.

hang in there Jasper :))

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]


Yes.. support and listen.. he fell in love with you because of who you are.
right now all the changes are scarey and hes depressed because his wife is
manipulating him with probably everything. its easy to say I do. so much harder
to say I dont..

just stay focused and keep open heart and mind. its going to be rough for both
till its over with and hes finally his own person. it sounds like the daughter will also
be with the both of you. if she can involve her daughter in this by asking questions
about her father thats says a whole lot about her character..

children should be protected not involved.

its sad, but many parents do use their children as scapegoats for their own lack
of communication and relationship skills.

Love / Bad experience with a Polish Guy who... had another girlfriend :( [49]


bad day frank? :)

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]


it doesnt seem like much if the daughter is encouraging someone else to be in
her fathers life..

wouldnt you think that she would be angry and upset that her father is /has
been unfaithful? or perhaps she sees more then we all know and decided that
her parents would be better of apart? after all we set the inspiring roles for our
children to live and be happy and grow.

children who come from broken homes ( young children) who watch their parents
fight and hate also learn this and it follows them to their lives in certain cases.

anyone disagree?


what I see with this is, she is going to take him for all hes worth, there fore he
feels like all he will be doing is paying his ex..

this is the oldest but real plight of a divorce.. he wont pay on the kids, but he
probably will pay his ex..

the real question is. does he want misery or love??
she to me sounds very vindictive.. the house up already?? hmmmmm shouldnt that
be in his name and his decision?

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]


his wife.. in every relationship both have to work on it.. she isnt seeing apparently
that he fell out of love with her.. and rather then find out how to change this
she is out to blame..

Ive also seen similar relationships.. one being one of my good friends, she still expects things from her husband, do this do that, but yet she stays in the same rut, sleeping all

day, watching soap operas, never wants to go anywhere, doesnt cook, or participate
because she says she works and she is tired when she gets home.. even I get
upset with this type of behavior , and she wont change.. she asked me if I would
follow her hubby around for a few days since I do not work in the day, and I could
make sure it was work he was going to..

she wanted me to spy for her.. while she keeps on doing the same things over and over.. so yes, I see both sides.. but in reading your post, I am thinking the wife is like

my friend and so therefore agree the relationship is no longer there. it would be best
for him to be with you so he can rebuild his life. if he has encouragement from his children, apparently they see the same..


This would be a definate reason to believe that something went wrong and trying
to repair would only cause more grief.. the daughter is encouraging tells a story of
its own..

when you are together, is he very attentive and considerate?

Love / Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend [42]


kataryna is right in some ways.. first of all some relationships do take a turn and if
he is miserable and she is miserable what kind of life is this for them and the kids?

in our lives we hope that when we do finally meet that soul mate, this is the only
one for eternity, but it simply doesnt happen that way, we rush into marriage , or
think we have found them, only to find out later on that we didnt match, or things
are just not what they should be.

humans are inclined to make mistakes, we hope this wont affect our long term
but it does.. so what kind of life of misery are we putting ourself thru?

I could have stayed with the man who had three children ( his) and had one of
my own and married him and lived unhappyily ever after, I chose to not stay with
him because the hate outweighed the love.. do I want to hate this much - no

it brings alot of problems with the children, should they see the fighting? no
should they see their mother and father breaking items in the home that were
memories? no..

I agree to a Point, but we have to at least see/give the other side of it a chance.

I personally would hate to put my children thru this.. its never easy to divorce, but
the children in certain circumstances suffer more when the parents do stay together
and try to work it out.. counseling doesnt always work.. and if your heart is no longer
with the person you married, your creating your own misery.

love hurts.. it will hurt, but if the wife is a good person, she will also see this same
point, and not decide its all his fault.. it takes two people to work at a marriage and
the one thing I see in this post is blame.. it wont work if he stays because she is
already blameing him only and not willing to figure out what went wrong.

IMHO..

life is to short. we all make mistakes, but what is life without that one person you
feel at peace with?

Genealogy / how many know their own family histories? [139]


yes me too..I think also the work ahead of me on certain records that I still have yet
to work on.

but for the most part.. I dont think I will be able to fill in the gaps either.. if I do
it would be miracle.

News / Polish Tourists wrestle and kill attacking bear! [39]


* group hug * ;)

Genealogy / how many know their own family histories? [139]


i am jealous :)) in a good way.

UK, Ireland / Polish teenager murdered after arriving in UK [117]


yes so does the british, but your forgetting that britian has more then one nationality
immigrating, so it could have been anyone.

just because it happened in britian, doesnt mean it was someone british.
we had a guy who murdered three young teens near a school and he wasnt even
American and was here illegally still. so remember it could be someone who isnt
even a citizen.

keep a open mind and wait for the truth.. let the authorities do their jobs.


as i suspected.. not that he was irish, but it shows that it could be anyone, and
its not always going to be british or Polish that it happens to either.. its just unfortunate that we have sick saddistic bast*rds who dont deserve to walk this earth

with any breath of life in them when they feel no remorse for the life they took!!!!

arghhhhhh..