Do you think that Polish should stick to Polish?

What do you think?

Do you think that Polish should stick to Polish?
I am a Polish/Canadian woman, mid twenties that has always been told I should find a nice Polish man. I agree it would make life easier in the sense that if I were to have kids we would teach them Polish and teach them Polish culutre. But if I were to end up with someone from a different culture/nationality it would be hard to mix the two together and teach them possibly two languages and cultures....

I'm curious to see what you think....

I've been looking for a nice Polish man but it seems as though I just cannot find one. Nothing against Polish men, I just haven't found myself to meet many Polish men. But i would love to lol. It would atleast make my mother happy!

I don't think that is too difficult, I also believe it is good for the child.


You yourself sound like you know two cultures and two languages.

I do... I was born in Canada but have a strong connection with Poland. So English is my primary language and Polish is my second. Trust me I'm a super proud Pole. So I guess I sometimes feel that I want to continue that.

If you feel that way, great.

Why don't you look for a man in Poland, there are plenty of them here.

(I'm Irish:)

Ha that's cute.... and if I could just simply do that I would. I'm thinking of moving there actually. Trust me I love different cultures including Irish =) but I've always had that traditional mother in the back of my head telling me to find a Polish man lol

I feel it's strange that I'd rather live in Poland than Canada since it's where I have been for 25 years but there's just something that pulls me toward it lol

Pity that they didn't tell you to 'find a nice man' instead. If your heart tells you that a particular guy is the one, then go for it. Nationality doesn't matter; all that counts is that you are happy.

TheOther you are very correct! Sometimes I wish our middle age population and elders weren't so darn traditional. Atleast we are becoming more open to everything which is wonderful!

I am sure she only wants what is best for her daughter.


Not just the men? :)

I suggest coming over for a long holiday or even a working holiday before comming to moving over here full time.

I am sure you'll have Polish men lining up outside your door.

No not just for the men, lol, I would go there to teach or something else. I do have an educational background that would, I'm sure, help me. But just the culture itself makes me want to go there and live there. I've been there about 12 times in my life and each time I go I fall more and more in love with it.

If it ever comes to that, we've got 4 between us. You end up proud of your heritage(s), but never bound to any one in particular. I think it's given me personally a much more open approach to the world, and people in general. There is no 100% tie to American, Slavic, or German culture, but at the same time, you get to be a part of all of them.

I agree the more experience you have with different cultures, the more aware you are of this world and what it has to offer. For myself, I have many friends that are either different in culture/nationality or who actually live in different countries. It's nice to broaden your horizons.

Angie or is it Angéli where you live? lol

- I think you really have to let your heart decide on that one. Nationality, heritage, religion, race, etc. should in my mind never be the determining factor. IF it so happens the guy is Polish then it'll be a huge plus but I don't think you should look for someone simply because he's Polish... At least that's how I feel. Good luck!

Oh forgot to mention - personally I hear the best men around are guys of Polish heritage, raised in Scandinavia who now live in the US. However, that's just what I've heard... Just keedin'.

My best friend is an American who married a Brasilian lady of Japanese heritage (they're kids are gorgeous!!!)

It gets better - my friend is an airline pilot and his grand father was was in the US Army 0 captured in Japan and spend almost a year in a Japanese camp. Two years after my friend married his wife he realized that her grandfather (who's a very old and senile man still living in Brazil) was one of the guards who guarded his grand father in the prisoners' camp. That's how her grandfather neded up in Brasil - he was a war criminal who fled Japan after war. My point? Today both of them are a very happy couple despite the odds - let your heart steer you.

Skysoulmate, It's Angie... short for Angelina..... lol.... but I choose to go by Angie. I live in Ontario Canada. And thanks for your advice. i'm not actually "looking" for a Polish man but if that person was Polish I would accept and go with it. lol

Short answer yes, then I'd never have to experience flying to Krakow tomor in the height of winter.
In truth I'm a guy and my girlfriend isn't and me being Irish or her Polish has nothing to do with us being together.

Angelina? Oh so it is Angélique LOL

Sorry 'bout the spelling errors in my earlier post - hope the gist of my message got through.


That makes you... straight? LOL sorry resist...

no.
relationships with people from the same country is boring. diversity adds fire :)

yeah, we are for mixed couples!

One thing you should know Angie, is that expats are often more conservative and anxious about preserving their national & cultural heritage, so I understand your mom as well. I respect my parents a lot, their opinion and desires are very important to me, but I don't always agree with them. In order to not upset them, I say "yes mom, yes dad" to most of the things they say. Then I do what I think is right and say "sorry, it just happened".

Nika I agree.. you know i'm so glad you came and replied to my thread. I completely agree with you.... I really want to move to Poland, even if it's for a couple years, but I do want to. Were you born there?

It's just easier with a person with the same or similar background. You don't have to explain every little detail about your traditions and customs. It could get tiresome over time. Making marriage work is hard enough, adding more stress to the mix might be too much. Just practical viewpoint: never over-estimate your strength. Good luck.

Nika
I just noticed now that you are from Kraków. I'm krakowianka too. I like you already! :)

Sure! I'm Polish, born in Świerklaniec, grew up in Tarnowskie-Góry, studied in Nowy-Sącz. Then I moved to Brussels, lived there for 5 years and returned to PL in september last year. I'm currently living in Kraków. I love this city!

Where in PL would you like to move?

Bzibzioh
I like you as well.

Angie, wanna join us in Kraków?

That's great that you wanted to move back but atleast you got the experience living in Brussels. Well I'm not sure where I'd go. My family lives in Lodz. But if I were to begin teaching then I'd probably have to find a good private school, most likely working with adults and teaching them English. My only concern is that I know a lot of British people teach English and their English is different then North American. What's your thoughts on that? What made you move back to PL Nika?

Stick to Slavs. Polish best case, but you could also possibly find a nice Czech, Slovakian, or if you want a domineering man, Russian or Serbian.

Either way, respect your parents, you only get one father, and one mother in this life. DO NOT, in any circumstance, marry a black or Asian man. This would ruin your relationship with your mother, and put huge strain on your marriage already. Your children would also already have disadvantages. They would neither belong there, nor here, if you catch my drift.

Your culture, values, family, is most important. Do not be possessed by some perverted desires to get in bed with an 'exotic man' from Africa or Asia. I'm not saying you have had those, but many Polish women I have met these days, seem to think that is a great fad...

holy I didn't expect to get that type of message! lol......... To each their own.... if someone falls in love with an Asian or Black than all the best to them.... that's one thing I can never disagree with! =)

I don't believe in love, only temporary infatuation or lust.
You marry to be comfortable in life, and to carry on your family values and name with pride.
When women marry black or asian men, it is purely for money and to be 'seen.' Rarely do these marriages last very long in fact. There is simply nothing tying the people together, other than some temporary desire to fool around in bed, and for money. I have yet to meet a white woman who married a poor black man. It simply doesn't happen. They do not marry for 'love' sake.

Women marry men who can provide money for the family, provide his seed, and who will give her enough room to carry on a social life.

I've heard that before (err replace man with woman:) )! I think you should do what you want to do and not worry about making somebody else happy.


It's not hard. There are plenty of people in canada that speak french & english.


Well try living in PL and a see how it goes. I think you'll come back soon though.


They would find work easier in canada.

Taken that a lot Poles have recently gone to the UK & Ireland, British English is probably more popular in PL, but I don't know for sure. However, there's a lot of teachers posting on here, I'm sure some one will be able to give you a proper advise.

But you don't have to work as a teacher, unless you want to, of course. Have a look at the link I posted in your other thread. I was head-hunted myself (via GoldenLine), am working for an investment bank but in operations. Don't know if that's your działka.


Chciałam trochę odpocząć od mieszkania samej za granicą - that's one of the reasons. I'll tell you the rest of the story when we meet up for a drink in PL :)

He's Greek, what do u expect ;)

I think you are bias to assume these relationships are based on a false pretense. Any woman, of any colour, can fall in love with someone of the same or different colour/nationality regardless of financial income or socioeconomic level. I'm not sure what you've experienced in your own life, but, I know that skin colour does not have an impact on partner preferences as it used to. In any country, in any continent, you will find women that use men for their own financial gain. And on the other side of the spectrum, you'll find men who use women as well... So i can't take your opinion too heavily because at the end of the day some people find love, some people use others and all of this is regardless of ethnicity.

Just stay away from Arabs, Blacks, and Slant-Eyes and you will find true happiness.
And very importantly, so will your family.


And at the end of the day, those commie, liberal bastards will keep promulgating this image of a melting pot society, and call anyone who wants to preserve his own ethnic identity, and pass that on to his family, as a fascist, or ultra conservative, rather than a true patriot.

Angie - just teach them proper English! :)

Besides, your English (CA) is closer to the British English than you think. Just look at how you mispelled "color" ;)

Hope you know I'm keedin' LOL

I'm a guy and disagree with filios1 100%

If he/she is right then I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life...