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Why Polish Women are Attracted to Foreign Men?


Marta1  
7 May 2006 /  #1
This is my composition in English - I got an A :). Hope you'll like it ;-).

Although Poles often say about themselves that they are tolerant it is a common truth that we think and act according to many stereotypes. For example relationships and marriages to foreigners are considered to be difficult, sometimes impossible and unhappy because of the cultural differences. Fortunately stereotypes are not rules and many people from various countries decide to live happily ever after, never minding cultural obstacles.

To answer the question from above we have to realize why (apart from the natural reasons :)) women are atrracted to men at all. Everybody knows that power and money are greatest aphrodisiacs, that make even the ugliest and most disgusting guy look like a Prince of Persia. Luckily not every girl considers those two things as essential to get interested in the representative of the opposite sex.

However, for many years foreigners, especially from the West, were symbol of wealth, good taste, knowledge about luxuries such as fancy restaurants, vacations spent abroad, famous concerts etc. It was kind of fairy tale for girls that grew up in the grey reality of communism. Many of Poles then decided to marry strangers because that ment better life in freedom and proper life conditions.

Although nowadays Poland is still poorer than the West countries, we have access to the same freedoms, luxuries, technical achievements and cultural events as the rest of the developed world. Therefore Polish girls look in men for something else than just their money. Still, foreigners have something that attracts Polish women, something a little more elusive than material arguments. For instance they think that Polish women are among the most beautiful on the world. To hear something like that from a stranger can cause a real outburst of fondness for the author of such words. Polish men are not escessively eager to complemet their ladies, forgetting that the way to female's heart goes through her ears. :) The best complement experts of the world are men from the East. East languages have the richest dictionaries and florid style and their users - great imagination and warm hearts. Every spice seller from Marakesh is ready to prove a girl that she is worth of Kohinoor diamond and every carpet maker from Istanbul swears that she looks like Jennifer Lopez (and he is Ricky Martin, which is an authentic quote from Kapali Carsi in Istanbul). They will sing, they will shout, they will worship and adore, they will write letters and poemsjust to win girl's heart. Of course all that doesn't always mean that they are really in love. It's just the way they are and act, so if the fish catches the bait it's great, and if doesn't, well, there is plenty of fish in the lake, isn't it? For some of them marrying a girl from abroad is the only way to get West and have a possibility to earn some money. The benefit is on both sides: Polish woman has a husband who admires her, and for example Turkish boy has an opportunity to make his future better than in his homeland.

The trouble with East men is that even if they adore women as their goddesses, they can't treat them as their partners in our meaning of the word. West men dont's see anything strage in women discussing about politics, economy or science. They even hold girls interested in something more than just clothes and make ups in higher esteem. Maybe it's because such girls are independent and don't have to rely on their partners in everyday's life, therefore they give them some freedom and satisfaction of having a partner not a burden.

This bunch of thoughts is obviously not all there can be said about Polish women's attraction to foreign men, because I didn't mention the simplest and most natural reason: they just fall in love. If they like to be dependent on men and prefer spending life in home, East men seem more attractive, otherwise they choose partners from the West countries.

Marta :)
Guest  
7 May 2006 /  #2
What a load of crap.
Guest  
7 May 2006 /  #3
What a creative expression, bravo! [What one could expect from someone who hasn't even finised a high school...]
justmypoint  
16 Oct 2006 /  #4
I agree with the article...polish women like "For instance they think that Polish women are among the most beautiful on the world. To hear something like that from a stranger can cause a real outburst of fondness for the author of such words. Polish men are not escessively eager to complemet their ladies, forgetting that the way to female's heart goes through her ears"

But the polish women don't realize that honestly they are not the most beautiful it is just a way for a guy to catch them...most beautiful women don't need such compliments...most beautiful English women will just rebuke a guy if he compliments her..unfortunantely Polish women are seen as easy prey...how many times I have heard from British/american tourists that the best way to pick up Polish women is to tell her she is the most beautiful and b/c of her undervalued ego she will fall for it
Frank  
16 Oct 2006 /  #5
Emmm....not sure how to comment on this.....isnt it always the expression that the grass on the other side of the fence is greener and that applies to both sexs too?

Everyone likes to be paid a compliment, female and male, old, young, ugly, pretty, talented etc...........so why would Polish girls be any different?

Its always, of course the sincerity of the person paying the compliment which is important........yes?

I don't think Polish women are any more gullible than other countries women, but perhaps they believe more in knights on white horses than the other disillusioned girls in the west!
uk-  
16 Oct 2006 /  #6
ha. ha........ ha...........

Articles is very nice. you suppose to get A+
iwona  
16 Oct 2006 /  #7
Polish men are not escessively eager to complemet their ladies, forgetting that the way to female's heart goes through her ears"

quite funny British or American men are very romantic:)

...most beautiful English women will just rebuke a guy if he compliments her..

yes with sure, rough women without class living on council estates....I guess your favourite.

her undervalued ego

what about your ego??????
Petey  
3 Nov 2006 /  #8
I'm just about to ask a Polish girl out...........because I think she is gorgeous. I've no presumptions about what she thinks about western men, maybe I'll find out, maybe not.

All over the world, people meet with other people and yeah, sometimes I suppose there's clashes of cultures and differences of opinions on what;s important in life.

" Love is all you need....." we'll see
petey  
25 Nov 2006 /  #9
I am a foriegner from England living in Poland with my polish wife. I have hypothesized that Polish women tend to like rough and dark men rather then Fair Western men. For example: ask a polish women if she likes Sylvester Stalone or Ali G? Most likely she will prefer these men over a Matt Damon or a Brad Pitt. Polish women tend to not like pretty boys but a dark hairful less gracile man. I heard women say many times men arent supposed to be beautiful. I understand this is my cultural bias, but this also could be Polish women's genetic inclintaion towards rugid men. But if these Polish women go to places like the US, Britain or Ireland they will realize that we are obsessed with the pretty fair man. And if a Westerner were to find a Turkish man or Kazakstani attractive it would most likely seem like a perversion.

PS. I may be wrong, i just see what i see, both in time and space.
FISZ  
25 Nov 2006 /  #10
Ok...so you ask this PL woman out around Nov 3, 06 and by Nov 25 you're married. What the hell are you thinking? And what is this rant about how they like dark men? Who are you to speak for a whole country of women? Perhaps you're one yourself. I think you're talking out of your ass....and it's most likely a joke IMHO :)

haha time and space
Maati  
25 Nov 2006 /  #11
Ali G? You mean, Borat.. Yes, he's sexy and I want to have sexytimes with him. Why not, I like!
Polish woman ...
Craig  
25 Nov 2006 /  #12
I fell for a beautiful, petete polish girl in work .We use to tx each other all the time. She has a boyfriend but she said are friendship could develop into something more. I think she is teasing me though because she is now saying we can only be friends . She seems to forget all the encouraging txs she sent me. She still txs me even though I said it's not good for me. Is this typical of Polish women? She let me fall for her and she seems to enjoy it. What is polish word for tease? Any nice Polish girls out there , or don't you like English men?
FISZ  
25 Nov 2006 /  #13
She let me fall for her and she seems to enjoy it. What is polish word for tease? Any nice Polish girls out there

Or...just just fell for her to easily :)

There are many nice PL girls out there. Just don't leave your heart on your sleeve.
Maati  
25 Nov 2006 /  #14
She is playing with you...I hate this kind of ppl, do not care what nationality they are...
Please write her next time: Proszę, nie baw się moimi uczuciami i zostaw mnie w spokoju/zostańmy przyjaciółmi...
Craig  
25 Nov 2006 /  #15
Thanks for that. Not sure what that means but I will tx it to her. Its not like me to fall so hard so soon but she really done a number on me. she gave the impression she wanted rescuing from a bad relationship. It was her that done all the running and gave me her phone number. I just think she liked the attention.
Maati  
25 Nov 2006 /  #16
"Please, do not play games with my feelings and leave me alone/ stay friends."
That's a short translation.
EraAtlantia  
9 Sep 2008 /  #17
haha, this sounds familiar, i was dating a polish girl who actually had a partner in poland...she also implied that i was somewhat rescuing her from him and she didnt really want much to with him...we kinda hit it off, she would refer to me as friend, handsome, etc, confusing but i didnt really give a ******* gave the impression that she had strong feelings for me. during times spent together she would be txting but i had no idea who, i presumed it was the partner, i didnt have a major issue after all i was the between figure, what pissed me off was the ******* smirk on her face when textin him, as if i wasnt there...i'd tell her off about it, it all lead to bad feeling and it kinda burned out eventually.....

the point is that it seems polish women are very liberal with regards to relationships but ultra conservative with regards to manners, behavior, intelligence, humor....dating a polish girl is like dating a trophy, you can look at it, admire it, but you wont ever get anything from ****** them.

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