Marta1
7 May 2006 / #1
This is my composition in English - I got an A :). Hope you'll like it ;-).
Although Poles often say about themselves that they are tolerant it is a common truth that we think and act according to many stereotypes. For example relationships and marriages to foreigners are considered to be difficult, sometimes impossible and unhappy because of the cultural differences. Fortunately stereotypes are not rules and many people from various countries decide to live happily ever after, never minding cultural obstacles.
To answer the question from above we have to realize why (apart from the natural reasons :)) women are atrracted to men at all. Everybody knows that power and money are greatest aphrodisiacs, that make even the ugliest and most disgusting guy look like a Prince of Persia. Luckily not every girl considers those two things as essential to get interested in the representative of the opposite sex.
However, for many years foreigners, especially from the West, were symbol of wealth, good taste, knowledge about luxuries such as fancy restaurants, vacations spent abroad, famous concerts etc. It was kind of fairy tale for girls that grew up in the grey reality of communism. Many of Poles then decided to marry strangers because that ment better life in freedom and proper life conditions.
Although nowadays Poland is still poorer than the West countries, we have access to the same freedoms, luxuries, technical achievements and cultural events as the rest of the developed world. Therefore Polish girls look in men for something else than just their money. Still, foreigners have something that attracts Polish women, something a little more elusive than material arguments. For instance they think that Polish women are among the most beautiful on the world. To hear something like that from a stranger can cause a real outburst of fondness for the author of such words. Polish men are not escessively eager to complemet their ladies, forgetting that the way to female's heart goes through her ears. :) The best complement experts of the world are men from the East. East languages have the richest dictionaries and florid style and their users - great imagination and warm hearts. Every spice seller from Marakesh is ready to prove a girl that she is worth of Kohinoor diamond and every carpet maker from Istanbul swears that she looks like Jennifer Lopez (and he is Ricky Martin, which is an authentic quote from Kapali Carsi in Istanbul). They will sing, they will shout, they will worship and adore, they will write letters and poemsjust to win girl's heart. Of course all that doesn't always mean that they are really in love. It's just the way they are and act, so if the fish catches the bait it's great, and if doesn't, well, there is plenty of fish in the lake, isn't it? For some of them marrying a girl from abroad is the only way to get West and have a possibility to earn some money. The benefit is on both sides: Polish woman has a husband who admires her, and for example Turkish boy has an opportunity to make his future better than in his homeland.
The trouble with East men is that even if they adore women as their goddesses, they can't treat them as their partners in our meaning of the word. West men dont's see anything strage in women discussing about politics, economy or science. They even hold girls interested in something more than just clothes and make ups in higher esteem. Maybe it's because such girls are independent and don't have to rely on their partners in everyday's life, therefore they give them some freedom and satisfaction of having a partner not a burden.
This bunch of thoughts is obviously not all there can be said about Polish women's attraction to foreign men, because I didn't mention the simplest and most natural reason: they just fall in love. If they like to be dependent on men and prefer spending life in home, East men seem more attractive, otherwise they choose partners from the West countries.
Marta :)
Although Poles often say about themselves that they are tolerant it is a common truth that we think and act according to many stereotypes. For example relationships and marriages to foreigners are considered to be difficult, sometimes impossible and unhappy because of the cultural differences. Fortunately stereotypes are not rules and many people from various countries decide to live happily ever after, never minding cultural obstacles.
To answer the question from above we have to realize why (apart from the natural reasons :)) women are atrracted to men at all. Everybody knows that power and money are greatest aphrodisiacs, that make even the ugliest and most disgusting guy look like a Prince of Persia. Luckily not every girl considers those two things as essential to get interested in the representative of the opposite sex.
However, for many years foreigners, especially from the West, were symbol of wealth, good taste, knowledge about luxuries such as fancy restaurants, vacations spent abroad, famous concerts etc. It was kind of fairy tale for girls that grew up in the grey reality of communism. Many of Poles then decided to marry strangers because that ment better life in freedom and proper life conditions.
Although nowadays Poland is still poorer than the West countries, we have access to the same freedoms, luxuries, technical achievements and cultural events as the rest of the developed world. Therefore Polish girls look in men for something else than just their money. Still, foreigners have something that attracts Polish women, something a little more elusive than material arguments. For instance they think that Polish women are among the most beautiful on the world. To hear something like that from a stranger can cause a real outburst of fondness for the author of such words. Polish men are not escessively eager to complemet their ladies, forgetting that the way to female's heart goes through her ears. :) The best complement experts of the world are men from the East. East languages have the richest dictionaries and florid style and their users - great imagination and warm hearts. Every spice seller from Marakesh is ready to prove a girl that she is worth of Kohinoor diamond and every carpet maker from Istanbul swears that she looks like Jennifer Lopez (and he is Ricky Martin, which is an authentic quote from Kapali Carsi in Istanbul). They will sing, they will shout, they will worship and adore, they will write letters and poemsjust to win girl's heart. Of course all that doesn't always mean that they are really in love. It's just the way they are and act, so if the fish catches the bait it's great, and if doesn't, well, there is plenty of fish in the lake, isn't it? For some of them marrying a girl from abroad is the only way to get West and have a possibility to earn some money. The benefit is on both sides: Polish woman has a husband who admires her, and for example Turkish boy has an opportunity to make his future better than in his homeland.
The trouble with East men is that even if they adore women as their goddesses, they can't treat them as their partners in our meaning of the word. West men dont's see anything strage in women discussing about politics, economy or science. They even hold girls interested in something more than just clothes and make ups in higher esteem. Maybe it's because such girls are independent and don't have to rely on their partners in everyday's life, therefore they give them some freedom and satisfaction of having a partner not a burden.
This bunch of thoughts is obviously not all there can be said about Polish women's attraction to foreign men, because I didn't mention the simplest and most natural reason: they just fall in love. If they like to be dependent on men and prefer spending life in home, East men seem more attractive, otherwise they choose partners from the West countries.
Marta :)