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What would you think if you were me? Having lived with a Polish woman for over a year.


milina2000 1 | 2  
21 Nov 2008 /  #1
I live with a Polish woman, and have done for just over a year.

Can anyone tell me what a typical Polish woman is like under the age of 40, well 36?

My girlfriend is nothing like what a lot have described on this site, GOD, "sorry if most of you are catholic!" but I wish she was a bit more understanding sometimes.

She's 5" 4', fairly straight laced, doesn't like to try anything new, especially in bed, don't get me wrong I'm certainly no perv in bed by no means, she's a school teacher mmmm maybe that's it.

She prefers to go to the theatre, cinema, or restaurants, and has told me that in the time we have been together which as I said is just over a year, that I am worse then both of her ex husbands and worst than an Arab.

She details all what goes on in our private live to a male friend who she has never met in Toronto and he has told her what to do and she has done it.

He tells her to delete her chat history on skype conversations between them which she didn't, I read her chat box on skype which she left open, I know I shouldn't have done it but my name and other details in it caught my eye, then as anyone would, I read it, and it didn't read well, she told him all about our private life and the things I do and don't do.

The thing that really hurt me most was the fact she said to him, "I wish you were my husband!!!" and he say's the same thing, " I wish that as well."

I think the only thing stopping her leaving is the fact that we live in England and she has a secure job, and he lives in Canada, she always say's to him why do you live so far away, I wish I could see you.

I am quite a private sort of guy and think that the things that she discus's with him, well, I think she should be talking to me about instead of an internet stranger she's never met.

Do Polish girls/women have that kind of respect normally for their men??

She say's she loves me all the time but as I said to her the other night anybody can say that they love the other partner, but do they always mean it?? It's just so easy to say it.

Also would a Polish woman in a year long relationship choose to go to her sisters over xmas, e.g.: xmas eve and or xmas day with her 15 year old son and leave their partner at home on his own just because of a so called argument between me and her sister, which was caused by my girlfriend moving out of her sisters because she was being used by her sister as a mortgage, electric, food, telephone, cook and gas payer when she lived there, basically treated as a slave and used.

Her sister is Polish as well of course and is doing very nicely for herself in London.
However she is so arrogant that even she hasn't managed to keep a BF in the 10years shes been in London?

If anyone reply's to this please confirm what sort of things are going on in her or my head.

Sorry to put this on all of you but the only way for me to get some idea is to get another Polish woman's ideas and advice on it.

Sorry to have to ask such personal questions but can any Polish women on here help me out on this?

There is a lot more to this but if I get any answers, I'm sure it will come out in the end.

Paul
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
21 Nov 2008 /  #2
If anyone reply's to this please confirm what sort of things are going on in her or my head.

What you describe has nothing to do with "Polish". It has to do with [insert your favorite "slang" for a bad woman]

Start thinking about the best (for you) exit strategy. Based on what you wrote she's looking at the neighbors' lawn, and frankly, if there are 2 (two!) ex-husbands, I dunno...

Good luck.
time means 5 | 1,309  
21 Nov 2008 /  #3
i agree with darius, get the hell out sharpish.
Krakowianka 1 | 243  
21 Nov 2008 /  #4
Paul,
I'd say your lady is trying to experiment outside the relationship, and that she doesn't take relationships seriously.

She say's she loves me all the time

the fact she said to him, “I wish you were my husband!!!”

I think this is like emotional cheating. It may be more if the guy were a local.

Unfortunately, what I think happens on chats/skype is that you talk with a person with similar interests, you find enough in common to not even talk about the differences, and then it seems so perfect... like a dream fantasy. And this makes the person want to have more & more contact with this untouchable (distance) fantasy.

Honestly, I dont think its a Polish woman issue, I think its her character. She doesnt seem to be respecting you & your relationship.

in the time we have been together which as I said is just over a year, that I am worse then both of her ex husbands and worst than an Arab.

More points to her lack of value for a relationship, to be 36 and twice divorced.

I'd lay the cards out in the open, tell her your not happy with this contact with the other guy. If she refuses to break it off, then you have a sign, her heart is not true. How could someone pick an internet relationship over a live in boyfriend.
Wyspianska  
21 Nov 2008 /  #5
She prefers to go to the theatre, cinema, or restaurants, and has told me that in the time we have been together which as I said is just over a year, that I am worse then both of her ex husbands and worst than an Arab.

That's just very harsh and cruel. How can she loves you saying things like that. If I was you I would leave her.
szkotja2007 27 | 1,498  
21 Nov 2008 /  #6
Dump her.

Christmas is a great time for parties :-)
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
21 Nov 2008 /  #7
I agree with z_darius.

In simple terms she is extracting the urine. Using you until she can move on.

The fact that you are pouring your heart out shows everyone... including you... that it's time to get out. If one of us had written the above post, What would you say ?
Krakowianka 1 | 243  
21 Nov 2008 /  #8
If one of us had written the above post, what would you say ?

I think he knows its time to part, but he loves her, and is not getting the feeling back, so he's trying to find a reason behind her actions... but there are none.
wildrover 98 | 4,451  
21 Nov 2008 /  #9
DITCH THE *****....
Shawn_H  
21 Nov 2008 /  #10
Plenty of other herring in the Baltic. Move on.
OP milina2000 1 | 2  
21 Nov 2008 /  #12
You know only one side of the story
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
21 Nov 2008 /  #13
That's enough for some people
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
21 Nov 2008 /  #14
The thing that really hurt me most was the fact she said to him, “I wish you were my husband!!!” and he say’s the same thing, “ I wish that as well.”

I think the only thing stopping her leaving is the fact that we live in England and she has a secure job, and he lives in Canada, she always say’s to him why do you live so far away, I wish I could see you.

Why have you stayed with her? Why does she stay with you? Do you pay for her housing and food? It doesn't make sense that these things are happening and that you stay together.
Patrycja19 63 | 2,699  
21 Nov 2008 /  #15
How could someone pick an internet relationship over a live in boyfriend.

you have a point, but I dont think its just a internet relationship. it sounds like she knows him better, like they are long time friends.. or old lovers..

in any case, I do think it takes two to make it work.. but it doesnt sound like she is in love with you anymore ( and I dont mean to sound harsh) its just that this happens sometimes and how and why it happened could help turn it around, or you can let her go, and start new with someone who will be compatible..

dont feel like your wasting time, love is hard to understand. sometimes we think its love, its not, but we mistake this, and then all the sudden things go sour and bitterness sets in, you dont want to set yourself up for a fall..

you just have to find the compatible person for you. someone who likes things you like, I dont think you like the things she likes and Vs Versa.. but maybe both arent trying hard enough and compromising for each other and learning to love each other no matter where you are is what love is about.. its not the things around you is who you spend them with.. and you learn to accept that maybe she doesnt like different styles, certain things, but thats ok, because you love her and that other stuff is all small shyt you get thru.. the large and small bridges you cross you whole life.. all the tests.. once you find the one, nothing else matters :)

so anyway, what I was getting at, maybe do some different things for her.. she sounds like she would appreciate more educational/intelligent conversation, or just more conversation period.. sometimes we forget to communicate with each other and dont say you have, because everyone is guilty of it,, even me :)

but sometimes you dont need words either..

find out more about her, and her interests.. the relationship is still fairly new,, its just lost its varooooooooooommmmmmmmmmmmm...

do the romance thing, get out the candles, roses, candy, get your grove a grovin and run her a warm bath, massages, all those wonderful things that lead it back to the first time...

What you describe has nothing to do with "Polish". It has to do with [insert your favorite "slang" for a bad woman]

you are correct here,, and the word you look for is B***H.. but we all get this way when we feel neglected.. we dont ask for these things, and if we did wouldnt that look pretty silly if we had too all the time?

honey can you communicate with me more and take me out to a candle light dinner and buy me roses and candy and put on some sexy music and make me feel wanted?

she's talking to a man whom prob could be her best friend and thats how great relationships start.. so you need to talk to her.. whatever way you have to go about it, you need to do something, or let her go.

remember while your talking to tell her, that you know things are partly your fault as well as hers..

if shes not willing to listen.. I would just move on, and find someone more compatible, because you dont sound happy with her much either..

anyways.. my two sense? or cents?

:)

PS Edited for the sake of conversation
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
22 Nov 2008 /  #16
youre being used mate, have a little selfrespect
Wroclaw Boy  
22 Nov 2008 /  #17
Hes hoping that the fact that his missus is Polish that it will be something related to culture. Sorry dude she's a nasty one and playing on your good side.

Best thing you can do is flirt with her sister even if you dont get on. Failing that act like your having an affair, dress up better than usual, start wearing aftershave more often, work out at the gym and dissapear for hours at a time. That'll get her worried. She knows good old you will be there through thick and thin, give her a taste of her own medicine.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
22 Nov 2008 /  #18
You know only one side of the story

Does that mean it was a test ?

If you would like advice then please give us all the facts. We can only help with what we are given.
figa - | 2  
22 Nov 2008 /  #19
Hi there,
It's me ,Paul's evil girlfriend. He showed me what he wrote, and of course your replies.
As I'm so diabolic, I'm looking for a supply.
A candidate for this position should:
1) stay at home (working is not acceptable)
2) have some savings to do every day shopping(if you have enough you can pay his debts or pay for reparing his car)
3) not have any friends who don't speak English(as you can talk about secrets)
4)ALWAYS go out with Paul (don't forget London is extremely dangerous, so something can happen to you ) so forget meeting your friends(even femele ones)

5)be quite resistant to Paul's mood changes
6)not complain about wasting time as Paul doesn't like work in any case so you would like any better life then in 70s - look up in your savings account

7)think how expensive cinema or theathre is, even 10 pounds is far too much for a ticket to a musical
8) remember not to join any sport centre-wasting money
9)know you can produce everything - it will be cheaper and you dont spend money
10) be a house wife(and if you are polish you know what it means)

There are more conditions but I personaly think they can be disscus with the Master

Good luck, girls

And don't forget not to talk to any of your friends on Skype- even if you know them for years!!!! And don't joke- it might be taken seriously!!!!
Wroclaw Boy  
22 Nov 2008 /  #20
So the story unfolds Paul your a tight twat, Figa your a skype flirt.
Daisy 3 | 1,225  
22 Nov 2008 /  #21
I don't believe either of these two are real
Lir  
22 Nov 2008 /  #22
But one would have to believe that these two characters weren't making the whole thing up ?

If it's true <which I don't feel it is> then it's a bit sad to be discussing it all on a forum !

:(
miranda  
22 Nov 2008 /  #23
It's me ,Paul's evil girlfriend. He showed me what he wrote, and of course your replies

looks like you both are done. Yak
figa - | 2  
22 Nov 2008 /  #24
Miranda, you're right.I agree what we've done is disgusting!!!!!
It took me long time to decide to write anythyng back.
Wroclaw Boy  
22 Nov 2008 /  #25
looks like you both are done. Yak

Yeah do they really think we give fcuk. Take your little argument and do one-thank you,,
Franek 8 | 271  
22 Nov 2008 /  #26
This thread sounds like (Dear Abby ) or advice to the lovelorn

So much for the lonely hearts club.
Wroclaw Boy  
22 Nov 2008 /  #27
Go to bed you mean old bastard.
Shawn_H  
22 Nov 2008 /  #28
I think milina2000 should have bypassed us riff-raff and went directly to the Ask Joe Thread.
Franek 8 | 271  
22 Nov 2008 /  #29
Go to bed you mean old bastard.

Nope. I am going to torture the hell out of you until make a macho man out of you.
Wroclaw Boy  
22 Nov 2008 /  #30
Nope. I am going to torture the hell out of you until make a macho man out of you.

Cool ok, grandad torture me
You remind me of my old man so opinionated and so wrong,

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