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How to sustain a Long Distance Relationship with a Polish girl


PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #31
The financial cost will not be too big and you will learn the truth of the situation

This is a good idea. You will physically see each other and maybe some kind of conclusion will be made about whether to carry on or stop the relationship.

When you do find that feeling, I think you should go for it even if there's no guarantee involved.

I do to. Risks have to be taken.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
21 Sep 2007 /  #32
yes, thanks for the advice everyone. i was thinking more along the lines of cold showers or taking up building model aircraft!

Some things we take seriously, which by your final comment, you are not.
OP sausage  
21 Sep 2007 /  #33
sorry to sound flippant. leaving her at the airport was very hard for me. i hope and pray that it doesn't turn out to be just a holiday romance.
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #34
Some things we take seriously, which by your final comment, you are not.

Yeah, seems that way Wroclaw. That's what we get for being such a caring lot ;)

sorry to sound flippant. leaving her at the airport was very hard for me. i hope and pray that it doesn't turn out to be just a holiday romance.

Good luck sausage and maybe in the future you might let us know how you get on. All the best :)
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
21 Sep 2007 /  #35
i hope and pray that it doesn't turn out to be just a holiday romance.

let us know what happens when you see her again. I mean if it works out for the two of you.
OP sausage  
21 Sep 2007 /  #36
i was saying to a friend of mine how lucky i was to find her. He quite rightly pointed out hat equally she was lucky to find me! We are both equally wonderful, i don't want to idolise her too much, but it's hard not to when you find someone you like that much.

yes i will create a proper profile and you know the outcome.
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #37
Then work at it sausage. Maybe it won't work out to be the wonderful romantic fairy tale but if you don't give it a shot, you'll always wonder "what if....?"
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
21 Sep 2007 /  #38
but if you don't give it a shot, you'll always wonder "what if....?"

exactly right! That's why you have to at least try.
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #39
it all seems like a dream so far... a whirldwind romance
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #40
don't loose touch of reality, its all good these girls telling you 'find out' but thats women for you they love a good 'romance' to read :)
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
21 Sep 2007 /  #41
ha ha. You're so bad. I say lose touch with reality. You only live once. And you survive in the end.
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #42
tornado, you are still sounding bitter and twisted! :)
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #43
they love a good 'romance' to read :)

Actually I prefer a good 'murder/mystery'.

it all seems like a dream so far... a whirldwind romance

It probably does feel like this because everything is so unsettled and nothing is confirmed. Wroclaw's advice of a holiday together soon is a good one and you should spend some of it discussing how the relationship is.

I say lose touch with reality. You only live once. And you survive in the end.

Exactly! Take a chance on the unknown, rather than remaining with the "safe"!
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #44
Exactly! Take a chance on the unknown, rather than remaining with the "safe"!

some things are worth a risk others are not

Actually I prefer a good 'murder/mystery'.

cool me too :) sounds just up my street

ha ha. You're so bad. I say lose touch with reality. You only live once. And you survive in the end.

ok if you really think wasting time is a good idea, then crack on :)

tornado, you are still sounding bitter and twisted!

about what, you asked for a point of view and advice i'm just giving you mine, you commenting to me on a personal level know either because you want to find an excuse not to take my advice or because you want to find a reason apart from the fact i'm thinking realistically about your situation.

If you want to get personal then fine i'm not going to reply in kind
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #45
no offence meant. but your last comment about "wasting time" speaks volumes!
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #46
realistic, look at it, your thinking about this girl you knew for six weeks. You even talked of marriage, then about meeting her parents. She is away in Poland you are in the UK. Then you say your in love, is this sounding like reality at the moment.

Think of what you could be doing, finding your self a partner that is better situated for you, like somebody you can see, somebody you can spend time with, somebody worth putting effort into. Why put work into a fantasy when you can put just as much good work into something 'realistic' :) NOW THAT SPEAKS VOLUMES :)
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #47
tornado, if it's not too personal can you tell us about how your relationship with a polish girl went awry.
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #48
ok if you really think wasting time is a good idea, then crack on :)

Unless you know sausage personally and the girl he's involved with and his situation and both their feelings on the situation then you cannot possibly say that either of them are "wasting time".

How to sustain a Long Distance Relationship with a Polish girl

This was the original topic title. Nothing about it being realistic or being a fantasy.
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #49
tornado, if it's not too personal can you tell us about how your relationship with a polish girl went awry.

i like the wording and not its not to personal, you make it sound like some kind of tragedy, it was just unfortunate.

Its pretty simple really, we were together for about 6 months, we had a good time and we liked each other a lot. She had finished her studies and kept her word to her family that she would return to her home in Poland. It was agreed by us both that it was probably for the best that we end our relationship instead of dragging it out into nothingness. We had a lot of good times and we wanted to remember them. We both have no regrets about our decision, i'm still in contact with her through e-mail, messenger etc and enjoy talking to her, its no basis for a relationship though. People move on and thats it :)

Unless you know sausage personally and the girl he's involved with and his situation and both their feelings on the situation then you cannot possibly say that either of them are "wasting time".

yet its ok to give to suggest the flip side of the coin, 'ow yes go for it, why not, risk it' you know him as much as me, were both commenting on something we don't really know much about. Our opinions are of equal standings and validity, just because i'm giving what could be viewed by some as negative, your telling me i'm wrong :) funny that :)

How to sustain a Long Distance Relationship with a Polish girl

This was the original topic title. Nothing about it being realistic or being a fantasy.

part of the topic, this is the title, if you look at the actual content of the first post he clearly states his situation, please don't try and discredit my points with bureaucratic forum rubbish, a point of view is a point of view, whether said in or outside of a forum.
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #50
yes i was hoping to hear from people who had (and preferably hadn't) had their relationships fizzle out...
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #51
of course mate i understand, i explained my situation and have been in a similar one to yours, i'm not giving you the advice i'm giving you to make you sad, i'm simply giving it to you as i see it
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #52
thanks for telling me about your relationship. you say you had a good time and like each other a lot. that doesn't sound like very strong feelings for one another! maybe if you felt more you would have moved to Poland
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #53
maybe if you felt more you would have moved to Poland

don't be crazy, what is in Poland for me??? i'm in no position to move to Poland in my current curcumstances, i'm a student finishing my masters degree. I have my life here, my family and the same could be said for her family in Poland.

We talked about this many times and it was agreed that the most realistic situation would be for her to become a resident in the UK where she had a secure job and prospects of promotion alongside her study. The only counteracting factor was that she had promised her family that she would go back to Poland to help look after her father who is seriously ill and disabled and needs looking after.

you say you had a good time and like each other a lot. that doesn't sound like very strong feelings for one another!

i don't show my emotions i public arenas, take from what i said what you like. If she came back to the UK then we would be together, its a simple as that, if it were feasible that i could live in Poland then we would also be together. Its pretty simple really but were not forcing the issue.
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #54
, just because i'm giving what could be viewed by some as negative, your telling me i'm wrong :) funny that :)

Don't believe that I said you were wrong. I think you'll find that while I suggested he try (rather than walk away), there may also be the risk that it won't work out. You were suggesting he did even bother about it. Different altogether.

Windy, you'll see that your first reply doesn't really respond well to the topic title and first post.

He was asking 'how to sustain' and you just pounded him with reasons why he shouldn't. An opinion, yes sure.
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #55
fair enough, neither of you were in a position to emigrate. thanks for the lively discussion!
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #56
He was asking 'how to sustain' and you just pounded him with reasons why he shouldn't. An opinion, yes sure.

i was saving another 20 pages of debate on something that i have experienced and have place to comment on, i believe that to go down the avenue of 'sustaining' would not be a good course of action. It is to do with the topic however comes along a different line of approach.

fair enough, neither of you were in a position to emigrate. thanks for the lively discussion!

its ok mate, its what i do best. I don't mind questions about my situations as i'm pretty open as you can tell. I'm just pleased we were grown up enough to realise our situation and deal with it.
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #57
thanks for the lively discussion!

No problem. Thanks for joining PF :) I hope you got something here tonight that will help you :)
sausage 19 | 777  
21 Sep 2007 /  #58
I hope you got something here tonight that will help you :)

yes i want to prove tornado wrong! at least you girls have given me a more positive outlook than he has! i have got to give it a go or i will be crying into my beer for some time to come...
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
21 Sep 2007 /  #59
good luck in proving me wrong

if you were looking for a pat on the back why didn't you say at the start :):):):) brown nosing is not my style as you may have guessed, i respect your position and respect your decision, just because i don't give you what you want to hear dosen't mean you cannot get on with me
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Sep 2007 /  #60
yes i want to prove tornado wrong! at least you girls have given me a more positive outlook than he has! i have got to give it a go or i will be crying into my beer for some time to come...

I said this earlier but who cares? If you don't try, you'll never know and you'll always think "what if?" especially if you really are fond of this girl. Good luck :)

brown nosing is not my style as you may have guessed,

I hardly think giving a different opinion from you is "brown nosing". And I hardly think sausage was looking for a pat on the back. Some advice maybe...

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