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Real relationship with a polish girl


hdmiman 2 | 12  
12 Jun 2009 /  #1
Hi friends, I'm new in this forum and I'm not from Poland, but I have a doubt and I would like help on solving it by polish girls preferably, but anyone with a lot of experience with polish girls might help me.

I met on a social network a nice polish girl (she's an adult, not a teenager) and we started getting along pretty quickly,we became friends, then, after a time, we chatted using messenger and we saw each other via webcam and stuff like that.

A few days ago, we started a "relationship" and I quote it because I usually don't believe in long distance relationships and specially if we've never been really together.

She is very kind, she gets online a lot and she stays late for her usual time (we used to chat until 10 pm in polska time, now she says goodbye almost at 1 am) but all is by messenger, webcam or microphone.

I would like to know please, based on Polish culture, ways and believings, do you think this girl is really feeling something for me??
For me is hard to believe, but maybe someone has an experience like that one and advice is very welcome, do you think a polish girl can really feel something over the internet or she's just playing with me??

We've talked about seeing each other but it involves long distance travel, I've never been in a situation with a girlfriend on messenger and I really don't know what to do (I know that with a girl in my country it doesn't work, due to my countrie's way to be)

She seems to really love me, she says so and she acts like it, but maybe it's just her way to be...

Any hint are appreciated, thanks in advance

byee :)
plk123 8 | 4,150  
12 Jun 2009 /  #2
get some sun and fresh air, pronto.
OP hdmiman 2 | 12  
12 Jun 2009 /  #3
LOL dude, what's that supposed to mean??
plk123 8 | 4,150  
12 Jun 2009 /  #4
there is just one line.. no need to try to read anything into it.. it is what it is.
shadowcat - | 1  
12 Jun 2009 /  #5
agreed on the get some air.... though made me laugh a bit um so you need to see each other in real life to see if you guys actually make a connection. Internet connection different from people connection
seppi65 - | 3  
12 Jun 2009 /  #6
you need to see each other in real life to see if you guys actually make a connection.

Agree, you're going to have to meet in person to really know. Do it soon.
OP hdmiman 2 | 12  
12 Jun 2009 /  #7
George8600, where are you from??
Well, thanks for this advice, is very good and believe me I'll consider many of the things you've told me =)

Thanks for all the hints, and for the luck wish, that's very useful information and maybe you should open a thread and paste it complete as "advice on How to treat polish women" or something like that.

See you, good luck to you too =)

mmm The comment frome George8600 dissapeared from my thread, how strange, how did it happened?
George8600 10 | 637  
12 Jun 2009 /  #8
Hi hdmiman, I don't know why my message was deleted, but I PM'ed it to you. I am from Chicago, I am half Greek and half Pole. ^_^

Your post was not deleted. It was moved to Random, with an explanation as to why it was moved.
Wyspianska  
12 Jun 2009 /  #9
do you think this girl is really feeling something for me??

She is. Don't let her down...
rohit85 - | 1  
13 Jun 2009 /  #10
hi hdmiman,
i am from india. i read ur message here. i can understand ur feeling and the way of thinking. i know,it is very difficult to trust on net friend. maybe he or she will be just doing for fun. but as far as my experience is concern, u should go ahead,but make sure and talk everything and on each topic with her like lifestyle,living habit many more. this is ur own business. so u know better what to talk with ur gf if u r going to live with her. but friend life does not give u chance again and again. so if u feel that she is sincere abt u then go ahead. i know some of polish girls and they r really sincere and if they decided to be with u then they will go ahead. i think she loves u and wanna be with u. start ur car and go ahead, don't think abt traffic problem or other problem. be confident and try to trust on ur gf , good luck man
Wyspianska  
13 Jun 2009 /  #11
i know some of polish girls and they r really sincere

That's what I meant in my previous post. She is sincere knowing my own mentality as a Polish girl. The question is whether HE will be sincere. Not many men know how to rise to the occasion, unfortunately.
OP hdmiman 2 | 12  
13 Jun 2009 /  #12
rohit85 and Wyspianska,
Based on my experience with this girl and the things we've talked about, I also think she's sincere.

I'm thankful for your comments n_n

And so you don't think bad of me, I'm not the kind of guy who let women down, I wanted information in order to know if I could really expect something good from her, and now I think I can (based on your comments and some other things I've talked to her that I can't write you about because it's private)

Of course I'm looking forward to meet her as soon as we save money to see us.

And well, any further advice is welcomed, if anyone has any more opinions feel free to write them :D I hope this information works for anyone in the future if they find themselves in a situation like mine.

Thank to everyone who has written something so far ;)
Wyspianska  
13 Jun 2009 /  #13
I hope this information works for anyone in the future if they find themselves in a situation like mine.

I understand that better than you think... Just remember, don't let her down and I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
OP hdmiman 2 | 12  
13 Jul 2009 /  #14
It's been exactly a month sincfe the last answer D: and we've gotten a vew days over 1 month in our Internet relationship.

She will go to another country, what if men there start hitting on her :O I know this sounds naive but, does anyone here thinks she'll stay loyal to our commitmen?

Since the beggining this relationship looked like an impossible dream but through effort we've somehow make it go on.

but now she goes to another country... Can I expect her to keep her word D: ??

regards ñ_ñ
Cardno85 31 | 976  
13 Jul 2009 /  #15
but now she goes to another country... Can I expect her to keep her word D: ??

Well we still don't know her...so I think you are the best person to answer this!
ram prasad 2 | 10  
17 Jul 2009 /  #16
But long distance relationship sucks. No one noes what the other person is doing. Yes Trust is a must. But on my experience I have always being cheated and lied.

Good luck
dnz 17 | 710  
18 Jul 2009 /  #17
Its not really a relationship now is it? I suggest perhaps going to bars, clubs etc and you might meet a real person........
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
18 Jul 2009 /  #18
Wild romanticism just doesn't work with Polish girls, they'll clean you out very quickly if you show this. Dnz may come across as harsh to some but he's right on the money.
kasqures 1 | 7  
18 Jul 2009 /  #19
Well it seems you have the same situation as mine but I hope you don't end up with the same result. One word of advice never trust anyone but yourself because when if you do that then it is very hard to trust again. Cheers!
noreenb 7 | 557  
19 Jul 2009 /  #20
Some people let us down in real world as well. It's not a matter of this if relationship is long-term or real. If somebody is trustworthy won't dissapoint you no matter what kind of relationship you are in. I would say that polish woman are often (not always of course)more... well... old-fashioned or reliable. Sometimes someone you trust in real world can be just a perfect liar. You should rely on your intuition and this, what you really want. And in this situation you should give her a credit of trust. You are only guessing, if she was honest with you. Probably she was...
OP hdmiman 2 | 12  
20 Jul 2009 /  #21
Well, maybe for some of you doesn't look like a real relationship, I promise, I'll come and tell you the conclussion once it happens (even if it's a happy ending or a sad one) but I agree in the point that some people in real life dissapoint us too, it happened to me once with a former gf who seemed sincere and I realized she only had time for me when she needed something, so things didn't finished well between us.

I know I'm taking a big leap of faith trusting a woman I've never even actually been with, however, maybe it has a good ending in the future :P

I must admit it was harder for me to believe her in the past and now I trus her more, however, well, until you have someone face to face you can actually tr to read her intentions.

I'm thankful for all your comments, feel free to keep posting your opinions.

oh, and dnz, maybe you're right and this relationship doesn't seem real in the first place. and believe me, I used to be in bars and dance clubs where I met "real" women and although some are very good and nice people, some of them are... well, imagine it yourself. So I've decided to give this long distance relationship a chance (and if it doesn't work out, it'll be the last LDT I'll be part of) but in the meantime, I'll try to make it work. Thanks for your comment too =D
King Sobieski 2 | 716  
20 Jul 2009 /  #22
do you guys ever think that these girls are just getting kicks from being idiots on the internet?

i mean seriously, i would never consider a girl a "girlfriend" without having tangible human interaction. you guys need to get away from the keyboard and get some fresh air and most importantly...perspective.
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
20 Jul 2009 /  #23
i mean seriously, i would never consider a girl a "girlfriend" without having tangible human interaction. you guys need to get away from the keyboard and get some fresh air and most importantly...perspective.

i agree with every word you wrote, how on earth can somebody virtual, be considered as a 'girlfriend' i think these people need to turn of their computers and open the front door to their house. That is of course if they know where that is :)
King Sobieski 2 | 716  
20 Jul 2009 /  #24
online dating i can understand, but most actually meet up in "real life" and decide if they like each other.

these stories themselves sound made up but unfortunately i think it is the truth.
Arien 3 | 721  
20 Jul 2009 /  #25
i think these people need to turn of their computers and open the front door to their house.

I agree with you. There's only one problem. I open the front door, I walk through town for my usual dose of daily abuse. So far, I've always managed to reach the bar or club in one piece, only to find out that most people my age aren't there, because they probably don't enjoy this type of atmosphere that much either. Or could it be they are simply too busy chatting back home?

I could probably understand a lot of people who are looking for friends or even companionship this way. It's hard to make new friends when you're still single in your late twenties, and especially when you're working shifts. (I usually have to work when normal people are sleeping, and I usually have to sleep when normal people are working!) I have to miss a lot of Friday nights because of my work.

Dilemma.

I myself never had a webcam, and you won't find me on social networking sites either! I think it's gay. (Or lesbian, whatever!) I prefer eye-contact aswell, but like I've said, I could probably understand a lot of people. Especially when you're a boy or a man, it can be really rough out there when you're walking alone.

;)
OP hdmiman 2 | 12  
23 Jul 2009 /  #26
do you guys ever think that these girls are just getting kicks from being idiots on the internet?

i mean seriously, i would never consider a girl a "girlfriend" without having tangible human interaction. you guys need to get away from the keyboard and get some fresh air and most importantly...perspective.

i agree with every word you wrote, how on earth can somebody virtual, be considered as a 'girlfriend' i think these people need to turn of their computers and open the front door to their house. That is of course if they know where that is :)

Men, are you fo real?
If you're so open, why aren't you hanging around with others instead of writing in a forum??
I think most people here have true friends outside, and they're giving the chance for something good happening using the internet as a media, noone's talking about always living in darkness. If you don't understan it, the ones who need opening yourself to a new world are you!

By the way,

open the front door to their house. That is of course if they know where that is

come on man, where are you from, dumbland? Only there a comment like that would be smart...
I invite you to open your eyes to a wider world and consider that people do other things beside using the computer and ocmputers are complementing real life ;)

Well, by the way, thanks to everyone for their comments, but maybe this thread has gone too far, I'll stop it before it becomes a flame war and declare it closed.

Special thanks to everyone who really offered sincere advice.
My experience has been so far good concerning the girl, it's very hard for me to keep a relationship with a girl I've no physical contact with, but I'll keep fighting for we to see each other this year.

Good luck everyone!!

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