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26 Mar 2007 /  #1
Could you please give me advice. I have been friends with a Polish girl for 9 months. She is married but her husband knows we are very good friends and they have both invited me to Poland for 2 weeks in April to stay at their house.I have been this girls best friend for all this time and she even told me if she had any children that i would be one of the godparents.

About 4 weeks ago i lent my friend some dvds as she had just bought a new TV.She agreed to bring me back one of the dvds within a couple of days.She brought me back the dvd two days later but she was with her husband and was very offhand with me saying she could not stay and her husband was whispering in her ear all the time.The next day I rang her up and told her off about her behaviour saying i did not want to be her friend anymore to which she was shocked to say the least.She then told me she would bring me the other dvds the following day.

On the following day i waited outside for her and she arrived with her husband . I said sorry to her which she accepted and said I must of been drunk. She also told me that she had been fighting with her husband in the street again.She has always confided in me. I then told her i would speak to her tomorrow as i would be getting the same bus as her into town.

The next day when i got on the bus she was not on it.I then rang her to see if she was ok but she did not answer her phone and then by mistake i sent her a blank text. The next day i admit i was angry and i sent her a text saying that i would not be going to Poland with her and her husband but that i would be goingwith two other girls.

The next day i bumped into her in my home city and she was very angry with me saying she did not trust me anymore did not want to be my friend and that i had a problem.

She also said that she did not trust English people and that i should not trust Polish people.Finally she said that she saw me in the street she would still say hello to me which confused me.

About a week later I had to ring her because i had been trying to find a husband a job in England. I did not expect her to answer her mobile knowing it was me but she did. I told her about this job for her husband . She thanked me and asked me about my trip to London were i had been the previous weekend.

Since that day there has been no getting in touch with each other.The problem is next week I have an appointment in my home city and it means i have to get the same bus as her. I am worried what her reaction will be when i get on the same bus. Do i talk to her and sit down by her or do i just say hi. All i want is for her to forgive me and be friends again as we were before and hopefully learn to trust me.

Thanks for the advice and sorry for the long post
daffy 23 | 1,508  
26 Mar 2007 /  #2
if you want to be friends again, sit next to her. explain your frustrations and your inability to communicate together is a barrier you want to overcome.

if you do not try and sit next to her. say sorry for all this (regardless who you think is to blame)
you will never mend the fence
James Bond  
26 Mar 2007 /  #3
america. You seem to want more from this relationship than you are letting on. Be polite, remember she is married and get on with your life.
26 Mar 2007 /  #4
No i do not want more from this relationship. We have both understood from the beginning that it is friendship and nothing else.
daffy 23 | 1,508  
26 Mar 2007 /  #5
then what i advise is sound
26 Mar 2007 /  #6
Yes daffy thanks for your advice
daffy 23 | 1,508  
26 Mar 2007 /  #7
then Powodzenia! :)
ArturSzastak 3 | 593  
26 Mar 2007 /  #8
Daffy The love Doctor :)

Just like Hitch :)
daffy 23 | 1,508  
26 Mar 2007 /  #9
lol, id chose the 'negotiator' anyday :)
ArturSzastak 3 | 593  
26 Mar 2007 /  #10
Then can I be your "transporter" so I can draw "First Blood" and maybe we can go to "Syriana" for a vacation? :)
daffy 23 | 1,508  
26 Mar 2007 /  #11
ahhhhhh its 'apocolype now'!! id better 'snatch' my 'lock stock and two smoking barrells' and you'd better be 'gone in 60 seconds'

ArturSzastak 3 | 593  
26 Mar 2007 /  #12
Then we'll rent "backdoor sluts 9" and go "out for a kill" and watch the "Barby's Parade" go down "16 Blocks" as the "300" march down East 24th street :)
FireWire - | 23  
27 Mar 2007 /  #13
on their way to 'independance day', but they are attacked by 'aliens' with a will to 'kill'

as for OP,

i would suggest as first step not to talk to her / call her whilst you're drunk lol.

After that i would not try to avoid her. If you do have a situation on the bus ur best bet is to acknowledge her with a hello, and try and leave it to her whether you sit next to her or not. Her body language will say whether she wants to talk to you or not.

Bryn - | 4  
6 Jun 2008 /  #14
I'm in a similar situation with a Polish girl. I do only want to continue our friendship since she married her Polish boyfriend. He dislikes me calling or texting her although he doesn't even know me and she is contacting me less and less. As much as I'd like to drop the whole thing, I can't -since we became such close friends. What should I do?
beckski 12 | 1,617  
9 Jun 2008 /  #15
What should I do?

It's probably time to let go of her now. Her husband probably feels uncomfortable about your friendship with her. She needs to move on and devote most of her time to her husband.
Bryn - | 4  
10 Jun 2008 /  #16
Thanks for your tip, Beckski, I'll work on it but easier said than done.
10 Jun 2008 /  #17
easier said than done.

everything is easier to say than to do.... that's why there's so much talking on PF....where is the "action"??? ;)
Bryn - | 4  
11 Aug 2008 /  #18
You're right so I've left the ball in her court. I'm always there if ever she fancies a chat or help of any kind... I must let it all go and wish her the best in life.
Poor Edward 10 | 154  
11 Aug 2008 /  #19

Co oznacza to słovo po angielski, proze?
RJ_cdn - | 267  
11 Aug 2008 /  #20
Co oznacza to słowo po angielsku, proszę?[/

Powodzenia = good luck
Poor Edward 10 | 154  
11 Aug 2008 /  #21
Powodzenia = good luck

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