It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again...

Hi,

Its a funny thing but its going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again. Case and study, I was introduced to this very beautiful woman from Bialystok, we chatted a lot on the internet, I got balls and flew over there, spent 3 days and we were in love or infatuation. A month later, she moved in with me in London. Err, it might be nice for me to point out I'm very tanned, very very tanned with coarse hair, black for the strong hearted. Anyway, she moves in, we have three magical months together, except she seemed kinda freaked out by everything. I had thought about asking her to go back home and come back when she felt more ready and comfortable and the more we discussed it, the more will she got. Except she said give me more time i will find my feet. Anyway early Dec, we had to separate for two years, I had family problems back home so I flew to sort em out, she want back to Poland. The two year trip lasted one month, I hopped a plane went back to Poland and spent a month their with the family, came back to London without her (needed to get a house and stuff and get work). So she was supposed to come end of May, soon, but in April, she started being weird. Strangest fact, she was avoiding me. I was suspicious and on our anniversary, she walked, I was shocked. Anyway, we have been talking straight for three weeks, trying to figure ourselves out. I have been supporting her financially, though today was the last day, had to cut her off. All I have heard from her is I am not ready, I am not sure, I dont know blah blah blah, excuses. She said I should wait for her to come back in the Summer and we can try salvage the relationship (ha ha ha). I packed it, told her if she comes, she is welcome, though she may find me here or gone, I cant be sure, so its up to her, and I told her not to even bother coming to look for me back home. If she were in love, this would not need time to figure out. Im smart. Take my broken heart, get on that horse, and start all over again. Or am I wrong?

How old are you, if you don't mind asking me?

me asking you, sorry LOL

Im 26 this year, she will be 24

All I can say is enjoy your life and don't try it too hard and she'll probably return your feelings but even if not there are more mothers with pretty daughters, don't you think? :-)

Plenty mothers, im already staking the for sale sign and hunting lawns. What do u mean she will return my feelings? I know she is in love with me, she can say what she says, but when we talk, she is hiding them or she is using me on skype for emotional support. Damn it why do i have to be a daft nice guy?

The bottom line is nicgentile it would seem that if your nice or too nice to a female esp polish they go all strange on you (as you found out, and I found the same thing!) I think the trick is to be a b**tard to them treat them mean keep em keen! kind of thing!

The one I was seeing use the same line "I need some time" blah blah
But by the sounds of it you got out just in time before she screwed your head up!
Theres penlty more out there! they must be hiding or something!

My head was screwed. Big time. And its cost me a lot. I was depressed, I lost weight, blah blah blah, but I knew I had to come out. I hate being a bastard, cause it does not need to go there, but if this is the case, time to play. If she comes back, she is going to have a nightmare getting back in, and since I'm free, she does not get automatic entry back. She has to slave for it. And I know she will come see me in summer. I just need to be ready and get some outside game ;)

Well get as much outside game in as you can, because when she come back you should feel not as much for her as you did before!, I trying the same thing! if I play the field and s**ew as many different women as possible then there is no way back!

GO GET EM TIGER!! RRROOOAAARRR!!!!

Feelings, i don't play around with em, they are dangerous, but, if she comes back, finds me single, I think I would take her back but after a lot of work and if she is ready to commit without issues. Question is, if she does not come back, what then? This infantile hope, I need to kill.

Oh man here im bout to go for the second time tonight.

First of all ...you were supporting her financially? Damn, thats probably the worst thing you can to in a relationship. Now you just brought up all kinds of issues about Paying for her time, paying for her affection... etc.

"i need time to figure it out blaaaa bla" Ok, perfect laboratory example of a woman whos lost all ATTRACTION for you and does have the words to describe it. Im bein real man.

If you want to learn WHAT ALL WOMEN WANT...read my post here...

polishforums.com/girl_wants-9_9759_32.html#msg169081

Im not trying to sound like a dick, but you really need to start learning about what women really want from men...for your own personal development in life

Its the second time today im having to respond to this subect, on one random forum...hmm sounds like this is a large, universal problem for women...finding a real man.

No, you do it with ease :)

oh yeah.. no penned up anger there Lt Navy..

I am glad i seen this. because it bothers me that you would use force and brutality
against a woman because the other direction for you didnt work with one woman..

so in turn you a man in the military,, calling himself a LT would give such advice
when people turn to you for protection..

it isnt her who is wrong it is you.. if your so disaplined by the military, then you
should practice this always.. and never let your emotional state become a burden
in the eyes of your public and or future relationships.. your better then that
Sir !!!

and it is Mam'am. yes Mam'am to me.. Sir.. <~ heh heh,, always wanted to say that.

oh LT Navy this never works. My ex (a military man by the way) was like this to me. I suffered 13 years and then one day SNAPPED!!!!! we're now divorced.

So take heed of what i say "IT DOESN'T WORK!!!!!"

There are so many experiences like on this Forum ( including mine) which all have a similar theme as follows:

- Non Polish man meets Polish woman;

- They get on great initially and do lots of stuff together and everthing is good:

- The Polish woman is really warm and friendly;

- then after about three or so months or maybe longer the Polish woman becomes cold, distant, unfriendly and the non Polish man cannot work out why this happened:

- the Polish girl then says stuff like I never saw you as a boyfriend, I need time, lets stay friends ( that is what I got):

- the relationship ends and the non Polish man does not understand why or what has brought this about.

I think there must be something in the mentality of Polish women who live in the west to befriend a western man experience all the benefits of that relationship ( place to stay for example) and then move on after three months ago no doubt to another western man and start the whole cycle again. I know the Polish women I went out with had befriended two men in the UK prior to meeting me in the space of a couple of months who she said at the time wanted to be her boyfriend but she did not want to be their girlfriend.

Seriously, one of the gayest sentences ive ever read.

The pattern you describe is perfect. Think again if you think its because of 'polish woman mentality' to want to mentally and emotionally drain 'western men'.

There obviously WERE no true benefits to these 'relationships' or she sure as hell would be sticking around. its just the fact that ALMOST ALL MEN ACT THE SAME, the reason why the same boring and hurtful pattern keeps happening.

hopefully by now im making this aware to some men on this forum willing to learn the right way. i've already given you the link to learn more. Don't act boring, and women wont give u the boot!

Yes there maybe something in what you say.

mmhh just forget her ... i think is the best you can do ... the world is full of nice girls :))

The thing with Polish women and non-Polish men is that it is hard to adjust to a non-polish speaking guy and to another country's culture and tradition. No matter how much english the woman studied, she is always Polish in her heart. She will always find it easier to communicate with Polish guys and no matter how long she lived in another country, she will always remember Poland.

In this case when she was back in Poland, her friends and family could have said something that made her realize that you weren't for her, she cannot communicate as easily as in Polish but can use you for MONEY!!!!

I know many people from Poland who live in the states for 25 years or more, some still do not know enough english to communicate, and feel like outsiders. But will not return to Poland because of MONEY!!!!!

OOOOH SOOOO TRUE!!!

the girl I have been seeing for the past few weeks keeps saying "we're just friends...."

WELL.....
>> i don't have a physical / romantic relationship with my "friends".
>> My "friends" don't cuddle up on my chest when we watch a movie at home.
>> my "friends" don't wrap their arms around me when i am sitting at the computer and kiss my neck.
>> my "friends" don't bring over their toohbrush and shampoo & related items.
>> my "friends" don't start nesting in my home.
>> my "friends" don't stay in my bed and flat when i have to go to work early in the morning.

>> and my "friends" CERTAINLY don't buy groceries for me.

dang... thats just sh8t man... what sorta friends you got...?

i was refering to the "Male Gender" of friends

what happened to this funny fellow and his silly little sidekick... they appeared, made fools of themselves then buggered off again...