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Poland reverse of fortune in dating


LukeXX 4 | 75  
17 Aug 2009 /  #1
What I have always seeing in Poland is a reversal of fortune for guys when it comes to romance.

And this goes beyond the typical mis-match, when a very hot Polish girl walks hand in hand with a guy that not only is ugly but doesn't seems to have anything going for him

What it seems to me is that in Poland not only any guy can score, but a big disadvantage turns into an advantage. So that the the typically handsome foreign guy does not have a chance again a guy with a disability.

My top 2 are the following:

1) An Sicilian guy deaf and numb.
He could not speak but only make sounds, and of course he would fake dancing cause he could not hear much of the music. But this guy with the local girls was a success.

2) Some English guy without a leg, knee down.
Saw him a few times walking around. At first I thought he only had a limp, then I realized it was more serious that that.

Other typical successful guys are (of course) ugly guys, v.old, short, Indian, brain dead looking etc. A total reverse of fortune compared with the rest of Europe.

I would like to find out if this is only my impression, or someone else has notice this as well.
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #2
A total reverse of fortune compared with the rest of Europe.

I have noticed that as well.Polish girls do not seem to hook up with the guys western girls commonly find attractive.Some examples of the above are the young,tall,dark,slim mediteranean guy who gets tons of western women when working on holiday resorts as a barman,the physically advanced blonde scandinavian guy who lands english and dutch women and the decent,clean,well mannered,stylish german guy who gets the hottest german girls.

Polish women do not seem to prefer these types of men.

What do they seem to like?The exotic,very dark skinned(turk or above in darkness,the minimum is the turk),the guy who has a certain facial expression(that is not like doll) and the plain looking young guy,the most ordinary type.They also like players,I mean guys who are obviously players and you realize them instantly,while western girls immediately recognize the players especially those playing bad.Polish girls do not seem to realize the fake part of the thing even if it is 90% fake!

For example I have a friend who is old and bald and has very funny accent because he was raised in Italy and obtained this italian accent.He is very shy but has a very good heart.I hooked him with many women but he managed to shag just the polish ones.Some polish women found him attractive,he even travelled to Poland.

This is the problem in my opinion,that polish women DO pay attention to looks and consciously they choose bad looks for some reason.It is not like in Russia where a beautiful young girl will date an old man because of his money.In this case the motivation is clear and reasonable.But polish girls may date poor,ugly and handicapped guys consciously and this is strange.
OP LukeXX 4 | 75  
17 Aug 2009 /  #3
Polish girls do not seem to realize the fake part of the thing even if it is 90% fake!

Yeah I agree. But there is more to it than that. Fake also becomes attractive to them.

And I can tell of many stories like your Italian friend.
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #4
Fake also becomes attractive to them.

I found extremely easy to pick up girls in polish clubs.It was as if there were no competition at all.Married girls,girls with boyfriends they were all in the market.And what is more,it seemed to me that polish social network which protected polish girls of falling into scam traps has totally diminished and eclipsed.That lots of bfs and husbands are actually abroad while their girls shag foreigners home.

The network I hit as a wall in 2002,2005 has vanished and the opportunities are enormous.
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
17 Aug 2009 /  #5
These threads tend to get so black or white. There are many levels between black and white.

polish women DO pay attention to looks and consciously they choose bad looks

Maybe different persons have different preferences. I don't always agree with my friends about which girls are the best looking.

But it is intersting if you can find some kind of pattern.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #6
The moral of this thread is if you want to pick up a good looking Polish girl, cut your leg off and deafen yourself.
Or the Moral could be that if you are with a good looking Polish girl southern and LukeXX will not want to have sex with you (amazing as that sounds).

Or the moral could be LukeXX and southerener are the same person?. (okay so that one is not a moral).
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #7
Any man can understand what men are good looking.The problem is that some women do the reverse thinking that ''ugly guys are better in bed because handsome guys are preoccupied with themselves and their appearance,they are narcissists.''

There is so much reverse thinking and so many strange ideas appear in womens minds that one needs to be extremely careful not to pull the trigger.

What seems to work among polish girls are the perceptions:
1.If he is ugly,he will adore me,I will be his princess.if he is handsome,he will leave me for another girl.
2.If he is ugly,he will appreciate my love because he had never such a beautiful girl
3.I want to rebel against the norms and date sb the rest does not want
4.I like tramps,guys who appear free.I like men with style.
5.I like to be perv and this mis-match increases my pervesness.
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
17 Aug 2009 /  #8
3.I want to rebel against the norms and date sb the rest does not want

1.If he is ugly,he will adore me,I will be his princess.if he is handsome,he will leave me for another girl.
2.If he is ugly,he will appreciate my love because he had never such a beautiful girl

they choose bad looks

If you say that Polish girls like that kind of men, then she's not dating someone the other girls don't want. And the competition among girls increases (not decreases) if she dates a less good looking man. Actually, your replies in this thread almost completely contradict each other.
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #9
And the competition among girls increases (not decreases) if she dates a less good looking man.

No.There is no competition between girls because girls share the men.
OP LukeXX 4 | 75  
17 Aug 2009 /  #10
The moral of this thread is if you want to pick up a good looking Polish girl, cut your leg off and deafen yourself.

OK the ones I mentioned were extreme cases, but still true stories. And in many ways it's definitely good those guys are given a chance.

2.If he is ugly,he will appreciate my love because he had never such a beautiful girl

Well this explanation give some credit to Polish girls, and I never thought about it.

It was too easy, perhaps wrongly to put it down only to bad taste in men.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #11
If you say that Polish girls like that kind of men, then she's not dating someone the other girls don't want. And the competition among girls increases (not decreases) if she dates a less good looking man. Actually, your replies in this thread almost completely contradict each other.

Good use of logic :)
plk123 8 | 4,150  
17 Aug 2009 /  #12
Luke, you seem like a real loser.. work on that, ok?

:D :D
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #13
It was too easy, perhaps wrongly to put it down only to bad taste in men.

Do not forget this romantic polish soul(only the Russians can save us).
OP LukeXX 4 | 75  
17 Aug 2009 /  #14
Luke, you seem like a real loser.. work on that, ok?

Well, I cannot even take that as positive criticism. You are just saying nothing.

Can't you do any better when it comes to an explanation? :)

Perhaps saying something about the topic would help.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
17 Aug 2009 /  #15
you're obviously very judgmental.. start with that.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #16
Luke, you seem like a real loser.. work on that, ok?

Perhaps saying something about the topic would help.

I thought the topic was about polish women finding losers attractive and PLK123 suggesting you to work on being a loser,
could heighten your chances with members of the female sex but only in Poland (according to this thread) everywhere else you'd be an actual loser.

you're obviously very judgmental.. start with that.

This suggestion to become more judgemental is a good start.
Work on your faults, worsen them whereever possible.
You are going to be Poland's most desirable man by the end of this forum!.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
17 Aug 2009 /  #17
not at all seanbm.. see my comment above yours.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #18
I did and I edited appropriately.
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #19
to work on being a loser,

Being a loser leads nowhere.Appearing as a loser increases chances in Poland.
I understand why guys dating polish girls may find this thread offensive but if so many different men agree on sth,there has to be sth really going on,we are not all blind.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #20
Being a loser leads nowhere.Appearing as a loser increases chances in Poland.

But how do you do it Southerner?.
How do you appear as a loser without being one?.
OP LukeXX 4 | 75  
17 Aug 2009 /  #21
I thought the topic was about polish women finding losers attractive and PLK123 suggesting you to work on being a loser,
could heighten your chances with members of the female sex but only in Poland (acording to this thread) everywhere else you'd be an actual loser.

ha ha good one.

But I've actually head other foreign guys suggesting to talk simple on approach in clubs etc.
So at least pretending to be dumbo, if you cannot become one at once, can take you a long way.
southern 75 | 7,096  
17 Aug 2009 /  #22
How do you appear as a loser without being one?.

Very easy.You just dumben down.It is much more difficult to appear smarter than to appear dumber.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #23
But I've actually head other foreign guys suggesting to talk simple on approach in clubs etc.
So at least pretending to be dumbo, if you cannot become one at once, can take you a long way.

Yes and slur your words, if she is really pretty I suggest letting a little drool hang out of your mouth, they can't get enough of it.

Very easy.You just dumben down.It is much more difficult to appear smarter than to appear dumber.

Yes, I see that.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
17 Aug 2009 /  #24
An Sicilian guy deaf and numb.

poor guy not only deaf, he'd had lost all feeling too?

What I have always seeing in Poland

Maybe your retarded English puts them off.

But I've actually head other foreign guys suggesting to talk simple on approach in clubs etc.

After speaking to you, they were giving you advice they thought was the best route for you to get laid...since there was no other route.

you're obviously very judgmental.. start with that.

You were being very kind Mr P, I just thought he was a bit of a thick tw*t.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #25
I just thought he was a bit of a thick tw*t.

Now if you were Polish, you'd be turned on right now, according to this thread.
but as you are not, you might actually be turned off.

I see what you mean southerner, it is much more difficult to appear smarter than to appear dumber.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
17 Aug 2009 /  #26
Now if you were Polish

Id be cringing that there are freaks like this stalking the clubs in my country...I can honestly say, Poland has done us a big service, they sent us plumbers and we sent them our freaks! Good swap aye? ;0)

but as you are not, you might actually be turned off.

Strange isnt it?
OP LukeXX 4 | 75  
17 Aug 2009 /  #27
You were being very kind Mr P, I just thought he was a bit of a thick tw*t.

He he. As i said before, I know fully well you are an English lady, but always come across as a man because of the swearing and that in your messages :)

After speaking to you, they were giving you advice they thought was the best route for you to get laid...since there was no other route.

With dumb girls perhaps yes. I wish you could see it my way.

poor guy not only deaf, he'd had lost all feeling too?

You surely know what I mean. He had long curly hair and that was partially hiding big hearing aid. A great guy no doubt. And I actually felt happy for him.
SeanBM 35 | 5,808  
17 Aug 2009 /  #28
Id be cringing that there are freaks like this stalking the clubs in my country

This is living proof that you are not Polish.
NEXT!.

Strange isnt it?

Well given that it is much more difficult to appear smarter than to appear dumber, I am just going to eeehhh...,
What was the question?.

With dumb girls perhaps yes. I wish you could see it my way.

Yes if only we could convince all women that ugly losers are attractive, we might actually have a chance.

He had long curly hair and that was partially hiding big hearing aid. A great guy no doubt. And I actually felt happy for him.

At least you have a heart, feeling happy for a deaf man, truly you are a humanitarian.
You should start a thread about it and we could award you medals.
Alx123 - | 180  
17 Aug 2009 /  #29
Being a loser leads nowhere.Appearing as a loser increases chances in Poland.

I don't agree with the first statement. Being loser gives you more chance than appearing as a loser. I think their intuition allows them to separate the men (read losers) from the boys (read fake losers).
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
17 Aug 2009 /  #30
He he. As i said before, I know fully well you are an English lady, but always come across as a man because of the swearing and that in your messages :)

Im a woman, but I really couldnt find any other word to describe you that you might understand, because you are after all a bit of a thick tw*t.

With dumb girls perhaps yes. I wish you could see it my way.

You're just some idiot that girls dont like so you have to make up all these little theories about why they wont date you - was it same back in Pakistan?

You surely know what I mean. He had long curly hair and that was partially hiding big hearing aid. A great guy no doubt. And I actually felt happy for him.

I bet you didnt, after all he was getting laid and you weren't.

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