moving to poland to be together is this the right decision?

i think i am beginning to come to this conclusion myself. i am ready to be with him now but obviously his situation does not allow this at the moment. i will try and keep myself busy the inbetween times we are not together and enjoy to the maximum the times we are and in time love will find away


this i agree with and there vis no nway i want to destroy the happiness ww i share with this man

sorry to hear of his family problems. Good luck and hope you can work it out so that you can be together soon. I hope for your sake that he is telling you the whole truth.

When his father dies, who is going to look after his mother? He will not be able to leave her on her own and that will be another reason why he cannot move to England to be with you.

he has four brothers and four sisters-i have asked him that question- he will always offer some financial support to his family but be mainly based in england and go to poland when needed -i am ok with this-also hope to buy a flat in poland for when i am there- i am willing to move to poland to be with him. it is he who feels i will not be able to cope with living in poland-but as i have said i am used to living in different places-this he finds diificult to understand because of his extended family situation

goodlady - you are either desperate after your divorce, you have been lonely for too long or you are truly in love and “blind”. Either way, you lost your mind, your pragmatic thinking. You ignore so many warning signs and just keep pushing yourself towards guaranteed disaster.

You are special to him only where you are right now. He finds you comforting when he is visiting you there in UK, far from all the people he knows, all the problems and responsibilities to financially care for others.

If you moved to Poland “permanently”, very shortly, you would find out that you are no longer special to him. He can find plenty there, especially in rural areas. Soon, it is going to turn into a disaster for you.

If you do not move to Poland, there is a slim chance that he would stay with you beyond occasional hook-ups lasting from few weeks to few months on his as needed basis when he is visiting there on his business ventures. Based on all the information you provided about his big family, dependent parents, X, kid, business, and so on, the likelihood that he could ever move to UK permanently to be with you is extremely low.

So my advice to you: “enjoy” him in UK while you can, but look elsewhere for any permanent guy. Is that so hard for you to find another good guy without the load of problems from the start?

goodlady has said their plans are to have homes in both poland and england-she accepts he has responsibilties in poland- its about time he added her to his list of reponsibilies!!!-she is not his comfort blanket-she is a loving understanding women and i thionk this man knows what a gem he has in her-i think she should start making some demands on him


so what are you saying here? only his situation and needs should be considered? goodlady has said they lived together when he was ih england that he loves her- she seems to have made little demands on him being very understanding of his situation. she misses him -shue says she is able and willing to be in poland to be near the man she loves-and from what she has said he still says he loves her.

maybe this man is using his "so called " reponsibilities in poland so that goodlady feels sorry for him and will believe she is his salvation- i think if she lived out in poland for a while she would probably find out that his "reponsibilities" are not so demanding afterall. i think she should either demand he comes to england- even if only for a visit -let him do something for her or she should go and stay in poland and find out if he is really as busy with his family as he says

hello pldudeinus and angel thank you for your opinions.

i am not despearte nor lonely-yes i think i am truely in love and not blind but bewildered by his indecision. i think he is trying to please too many people-he himself has often said he does everything for other people but nothing for himself. because of this i have not put pressure on him or made demands- but now i do not feel i can continue like this for much longer.

he still insists he will be coming to england-it has been over a year since he was here. i think the best thing to do is to insists he gives me a definite date he expects to be here. i think i have been a little too soft with him-this halfway house situation has been going on for too long.