My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this

Now why does this sound like a subject you are an expert in..?

I have tried everything,i support her in all she does,i am with her all the time,she is doing an accounting course,an she gets stressed to hell,and she takes it all out on me,and still i go back home everynight.Tonight i get home after working 12 hours,and i just want to sleep,but because i didn't help her with a job application form,she starts again,her pc freezes up after she has just done 2 hours of work,so she can't save it,i said there is nothing you can do,and asked if she wanted to use mine,i said i know you will have to start again,so i will help,and all i get is F-THIS F THAT,u don't help me your only with me cus you need something from me.Oh yeah so naturally when she is putting me down,my first thought is "i love you" I tell her at least once a day i love her.just seems no matter how hard i try.....i am always wrong.

I would most definatly bailed by now, Sounds as though she has a bit of a complex....

you know already that it's not good to stay with her... she'll keep putting you down... it's a waste of time... i know you love her, but don't sacrifice your life for somebody who doesn't deserve it, and who doesn't appreciate you... we all have problems, and we stress out a lot, but we respect the other person...-that's the way...

Listen to PGT....she's spot on.
You teach people how to treat you you. In that respect, what have you told your GF about how to treat you (what you will put up with and so on)?

I don't see her changing, and even if she did...what happens the next time she gets "stressed"? How much can you take?

I have told her that i don't want to be her emotional punchbag,i said i want her to treat me the way i treat her,i will do anything for her,anything i can that is,i get this from her alot lately,been the last 2 weekends,happened again tonight,so i just walked out,and now i am at my mums for the time being,think i might have to give the house up,means its going to cost me alot of money,money i just don't have right now,but i can't go on like this,she has her final accounting exam next tuesday,so i know she is going to get alot worse,there is a big drum show in london this weekend,she said she don't mind me going,then she said she might right me all day if she gets stressed,i said you saying that just so i don't go,and she smiled........man my life sucks big time,why can't i just be a f**king man and walk away from her.its like she has a hold over me....and she knows it

so take some time off...think about it...calm down...try to figure out what's best for YOU...and then try to walk away...

maybe that'd help...

Jea, she knows how stupid you are to be down on your knees as if she were your religion...

I don' want to offend you, but get the hell out of her life. I've a polish gf and if it cheers you up: my polish gf is kind the same. But i just get her stressing when she's on period. For 3 days in the month i cannot say 1 wong word, and she will yell as hell, even things like: we don't match at all, you don't love me for real, what do you want then?, go find another girl....

Well, this last one "go find another girl"..... She just says that cause she knows i'm a stupid guy who is down on its knees as if she were my religion, and she knows i won't do it....

Jea.. i completely understand you... But at least i just get that 3 days a month :/

cmon...are we really that bad? :/

More than you'll ever know :D

i guess, we can't remember what's happened during those 3 days so.... it's like amnesia ;) lol .... you got to forgive us, we don't realize what we are doing! ;)

I'm stupid, but not THAT much to believe in such speech :D
She even alternates her anger and "we don't match at all" with "Lucas you are so cutie, goldie, i love you so much, you are so mniam, my zdzisio" blablablas... WOMEN WOMEN... never going to understand :/

damn... ;)


she still loves you, it has nothing to do with her feelings for you...sometimes we, women, don't understand our own behavior... :/


and you, guys, like it ;)

I believed it once, but about the hormones thing "4 days in the month the girl is more 'opened' to have sex"... ********!


I know she loves me.. I just said it's strange that she's being angry and suddenly stops and start saying "sorry, lovely" and those blablablas i said..


Not always :D It's annoying sometime:)

lol....i know.... but you, guys, are sometimes annoying too... and you don't have those hormones games....and what's your excuse? ;)
i am joking, but it happens every month and all we can do is to try deal with that at that time...sometimes, i have second thoughts too...

Haha i just have to talk to you.. i sent you a PM... please, contact me fgs!!!! I'm so sure you'll help me :D

Get some distance between you.
And clear your head.
It will give you both time to think about it..
And mb she will realize what an ass she was.

If not.
Your out of it now.
Stand your ground. Your doing whats right for you..

i don't think she'll think about that because of her exams...

but he has to take some time off and think what's best for him...

I know what you mean when she is on her period,its even worse,and that will be the same time as her exam,next tuesday,she is always telling me she doesn't know what she is doing,when she does it,just not sure i believe that.I stayed at my mums 2 nights last week,and 2 nights the week before,incidently it was the same 2 nights,thurs/friday,the last 2 weeks in a row she has started arguements on a thursday night,i stayed at my mums last night,and never heard anything from her,usually i do,she keeps saying she thinks she shouldn't be in a relationship,cus of the way she is,today she has a counselling session,i am not going to contact her today at all

Come on Smiffer,
get a grip on life, my friend
I am from jamaica, although living in london as british citizen; my financee is polish, POLSKA through and through, I CAN'T CHANGE THAT AND DON'T WANT TO, she is a tough, resilient woman although just 27; if there there is something I don't like, I approach the issue, WE TALK IT THROUGH, and try to understand why we act in a certain way and agree on how to deal with it. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO FIND THE ANSWERS TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS ON THIS FORUM. Do the decent thing and give her the opportunity to explain her actions; if all else fails and you can't reach an understanding and it's unbearable; then don't lie down like a red carpet, call time out, because you're not only wasting your time and energy, you're wasting hers. Polish women are beautiful and endearing, they are no different from any other woman; they just have different inbred family and cultural values, as do people from other nationalities. If you are Polish you will understand that, if you are not you will have to LEARN; or don't get involved.

hope you work it out, but talk to her, THAT'S WHERE YOU NEED TO START MY FRIEND...

in saying all that, no one should have to live with threat of 'i'm breaking up with you' hanging over their heads... and can't speak to your mother, THAT'S SERIOUS, sit down and talk this over...find that strange 'cause women are usually so family oriented.....sit down with HER and SPEAK YOUR THOUGHTS....

Yeah, she can't fault u 4 wanting 2 discuss ur relationship. The sooner u ascertain her position, the better.

NO smiffer, she has not got a hold on you, YOU HAVE ALLOWED HER TO.

having read additionally threads, GOD GAVE YOU A BACKBONE, STAND UP!!!

She senses your weakness and is using it to good effect on you. I am not going to tell you what to do, you NEED TO BE A MAN AND WORK THAT OUT FOR YOURSELF.

But it starts with YOU being ASSERTIVE.....CONFIDENT......SELF-ASSURED

GOOD LUCK...

Vit B6 - trust me it works, Ive been taking it for years because I probably could have murdered someone my moods were that bad!

Patryk_Pati

While i appreciate your feedback,you make it sound like i haven't tried to talk it through with her,i have on many different occasions,i have told her what i think,i have asked her about cultural differences,and she just likes to hide behind them,as for family orientated,she has a daughter which she left in poland,when she first came to the uk,and she didn't bring her over until 2 and a half years later,now she is over here she takes no notice of her,all she says is "i have my own life to live" so why bring her over here??i have talked to my g/f time and time again,and trust me if it don't ALL go her way, then i get the "we are splitting up" routine again.I am not saying she is a horrible person all the time,just when she gets stressed,she said to me yesterday that she doesn't even like me sitting in a different room to her,and she hates me using the internet,as for me not having a backbone,i have told her many many times i don't like the way she treats me sometimes,and all i get is "its my character" and to make it worse her daughter is a minature version of her mother,same attitude and same sayings,she calls me stupid all the time.I work dam hard to be where i want to in life,and i have worked dam hard to keep this relationship going.slightest little problem and she wants to get out of it,like her pc yesterday.

she sounds abusive. no one needs that in their life.

Some people are like children and need boundaries. You're not giving her any as you're accomodating her on everything.
At what point do you tell her 'shut the f*ck up and make my dinner' just so you can see the look on her dumbfounded face?

When the going gets tough, the tough gets going, I think kilkline makes a valid point, harsh as it seems.

it's her daughter...how could she say that...


it's not an excuse...


not good at all...

run away from them as fast as you can...!

ABUSIVE man that is an understatement,i have been called worthless,a looser,and thats just the ones i remember,oh and the usual swear words.

Kilkline.........tried that but not in those words,other day she said something i didn't like,and i said "how ******* dare you say that" and "who the **** do you think you are" she just looked at me,not sure what response she gave me really.i am sure she thinks if i try and put my foot down then she will just dump me.

Not heard anything since a text from her last night saying she had packed all my stuff,lol,in 10 minutes,still i will go back to the house tomorrow night,and see whats happening,she said she had thrown all my stuff in the bin,heard that before,many many times.

It seems that if i try and put my foot down she will just finish it,so i guess i never win,i think she has been like this in every relationship she has been in so far.but she just says never this bad as she has with me......ain't i the lucky one.

you pack her a suitcase and tell her to get out, and take her brat with her. be a man!


or so she says. you will be surprised to see how confused she will be when you actually tell her you're over and she can leave if she really wants to and you ain't gonna stop her. she won't leave, she'll be scared to be on her own and believe me NOONE else will want her unless she drastically changes her attitude. dont let an insecure, disturbed woman like that rule your life and call you a loser. and if that kid of hers ever calls you stupid again, show her some discipline, she's living in your house so she should respect you. please stop doing this to yourself.