What makes Polish girls tick - or is it just women in general....:-)

Cut to the chase - I am English, g/f is Polish. I am 16 years older, got divorced, sold my house etc etc and have been living with g/f for a year now.

But she still doesn't trust me and thinks I will go back to my wife.

It's been said before - I think (generally) Polish girls are great. Very caring, high values, thrifty (to the point of distraction!), loving, dependable, great memories...I could go on.

But this is getting to the point where she keeps saying she will leave because she doesn't trust me. I have done nothing to warrant this. I do not have regular contact my ex (since we resolved the divorce / money / moving house etc etc). We have spoken once this year and she recently sent me text message to say thankyou for the birthday that I sent her 4 weeks ago.

I do have to say that my ex does not know that I am living with anyone, she does not know that I got divorced because I found someone else - I want to keep it that way. I se no reason that she needs to know.

Any comments?

Marry the Polish girl end of problem.:)

I have only been divorced 8 months....not quite 'ready' to get married agin (yet) :)

Fairy nuff

I do not know if Polish women are always so thrifty. It all depends. As they het used to the west and gain new values they can start to want the same if not more than English women. Also great memories can be a dangerous and annoying thing too because they will always repete and remind you of something said or done twenty years ago! Every time you have an argument they love to repete something-they will never allow you to forget. Starnge as when it is something bad of their making they will never let you know about it. I also see that you have an age difference of sixteen years. Remember too that Polish women are less mature than English women. If you are living together and ant to be together see what happens, after all, you have destroyed your marriage-I imagine for this new love in your life so you have to some extent burnt your bridges. Only you know how you really feel so you will have to go with your instincts. If you have been together for a year now you will know that living with a Polish woman is rarely easy!

Life seems so easy to you, isnt it? :)

Well, First of all, if you Cheated on your wife with this girl, the thought of you doing
it again to her is strong, because it was possible for you to do it once with her, what
would stop you again??

Yes we women work in mysterious ways,. but I think its because this is new for her
that she would be afraid to lose your full attention.

Sometimes these things work out, depending on the person and how much trust
they have, in this type of situation though, its hard to really say, we can only
listen to your side of the story, maybe there is more she might want to share , I would
take her somewhere shes not experienced and proclaim your love in front of a million
people, its worth a try??

I think she will feel better because you were spontanous and your attention was only
for her.... GOOD LUCK :)

Without knowing more it is very difficult to give advice. How old is this Polish girl/ Has she been in England long? Does she know English well? Does she have many friends and contacts other than in your house? All these things can be important in a relationship too. A relationship is very three dimensional and a woman's hapinness is based on various things coming together-well, I suppose that is true of all of us.

my husband of 23years went to poland on buisness. after returning to england he announced 3 weeks later he was leaving me. i then was informed he had got this polish woman pregnent. he then went to poland to live he stayed there 2 weeks and told me he was coming home. we still 6 months later are now going through a divorce and hes just informed me that the polish woman is moving here when the baby is born.

NIce man!!!! my advice is take the bast*rd for everything he has including his pension, hit him where it hurts, every cloud has a silver lining, make this yours! and just remember all the sleepless nights he is going to have with a new born baby crying, at his age does he really need that :)

thank you i am trying but law is law and im only entitled to half of property pensions and earnings.

Well all I can do is wish you luck for the future and hope that he dies a really horrible and painful death :) or ends up with PD (penile dysfuntion) and his Polish woman runs off with a younger man :)

ive hoped for worse than that. do u think she will be content moving to england

Who knows, she will be isolated with a young baby, he will be going off on business, and she knows all to well what he is capable of getting up to when he's away :) one thing that does make me think is that she is waiting until the baby is born to move over here, the baby will be registered in Poland and will have a Polish passport, so if things do go wrong she wont really have problems just uping sticks and moving back, if it is born here your soon to be x husband has more rights, the reason I know this is because my friend was married to a Greek guy and she came home to have the baby here for the above reasons - they ended up getting divorced because she ended up wanting to live in England - he managed to live here for a couple of months and then went back to Greece, some people just can hack it in another country, we all need support networks and usually family and close friends win in the end over partners - my friend had been out in Greece for many years and had good friends but she just wanted to be close to family - the Polish woman on the other hand has nobody here so who knows how she will adapt, but for sure she is ensuring that she has more rights than your husband has where the child is concerned.

thank you for that. the baby is supposed to be due july which was proberbly concieved whilst he was away on buisness 1st trip away. i have no picture to who she is/ she as never met me or spoken to me. she lives in opotawek and works for or was working for a company called vegex. that it where he had beeen visiting. i wanted to go there to at least stand up and say how i felt. we have a son together and i feel he as been pushed to aside. he as now said he as signed the adultry papers. my life is devastated at moment

Dazzer.

You sent your ex a card? You want to earn trust then knock it off! Us women know everything you do! She may notice your distance or your secretivness and feels like you are cheating. Maybe she has found the card you sent or saw the text message. If you care for this girl and you want her trust then earn it whole hearted! It discusts me when men want trust but only on their terms. You either need to decide if you want this girl or not. There's no inbetween with woman. You can't have your cake (Girlfriend) and eat it too (ex-wife). I don't think you have to confess love or make a lifelong promise, just show her you care how she feels. Don't use her until you figure out what you want, this month.... You divorced your wife for a reason, you think it's fixed now? Get your mind straight before stringing these 2 women along. Maybe you need to remove yourself from women all together for a bit. Time to be honest with yourself, your girlfriend and your ex-wife!

I wonder if her company know that she is planning to leave for England, maybe you should email their personnel department and let them know what she has done and what she is planning to do - mail: biuro@vegex.pl .

They wont be happy that one of their employees has been messing about with married men :) and you know what Poland's views on family and marriage are like, they are very good catholics :)

:)

I don't think that's a good idea....did he tell her he was married before they had the affair? I doubt it. I think by doing such a thing would lower you to his level.

Just my opinion.

already done that when he went to start work there. he left his job in england for 2 weeks and started work at vegex. 2 days later he told me he was returning to england this was january07. he as now staarted back at his old company who still supply vegex in poland. i would feel better if i had a name of this woman or details. i know the woman who owns the company is kinga legg. i spoke with her but she refused to give me the womans name.

I agree for the most part, but why on earth shouldnt he be able to send a card to his x wife?? no harm in that, after all she didnt do anything wrong and is blissfully unaware what has happened - Im not sure if you have ever had a long term relationship that has ended on good terms, people still meet for drinks and get on, the Polish girl has made her bed she should lie in it, she was happy enough to have an affair with this guy, she got what she wanted he left his wife, is that no enough?? must he never speak to this woman who was in his life for some years. She needs to grow up!

Thats really great. Wishing a man to die for deciding to start a new life. I had someone in my family murdered and I would even wish death on him.


Clap clap clap. I dont think that would be a good idea. The woman has not fallen in love and got pregnant to hurt jackson51. She doent even know the woman. I could understand doing something like this if it was a friend who had done this to her but still it seems a pretty low thing to do especially as she is will be bringing a new life into this world, she will need to be able to support that baby. Does the baby really deserve to be punished?


*Wouldnt*

Ranj, I know where you are coming from, but I dont believe that he didnt tell her he was married, English men are quite honest when it comes down to things like that, also the fact that this Polish girl got pregnant, was that part of her plan?? I say dont get mad get even and if rubbishing her name does it then so be it, what has Mrs J got to lose, she has already lost the man she married 23 years ago, she has lost the financial security which she would have had after retirement and her son is being pushed aside...I say she has pretty much ever right to do whatever she feels will make her feel better.

dont blame the baby although the baby was concieved through lies and deceit. i also have a son imagine the hurt his dad as caused to him. i have wished so many evil things to happen, but i feel as though my grieve will never end. she does know he was married, and she does or must of realised the devastation she as caused. why couldnt she of stayed in poland. its like rubbing my open wounds in salt

The woman should have stayed away from a married man, the woman should not have got pregnant to a married man and maybe she should think of all the consequences in stead of sod everyone else Im happy as for the whole unborn child thing, what about Mrs J's son, he has an absent father now. I didnt expect a man to be sympathetic to a story like this!

sounds like a woman scorned. Yes youre right go out and ruin this girls life. Get her a bad reputation, ruin her chance of getting good CV's and therefore make life hard for her and her baby. Im sure that will make jackson feel better knowing that there id 1 more child growing up in the world in a bad situaton.


T no point have i said I dont feel sorry for Jackson loosing someone you love is a terrible experience, I know this. however I dont feel it is neccesary to wish death upon that man and then make a pregnant girls life difficult. I suppose it depends on your outlook on life

and thank you toamathyzt, i feel she knows exactly where im coming from and understands the pain i feel. i will and hope that my x husband will one day feel the pain im now going through. as for the polish woman i only hope she will never settle here in england and will return home knowing the way she as destroyed me and my family.

I didnt mean that littrally

but jackson you cant spend your life hoping that the people who have hurt you will one day feel that pain. They didnt do any of this to hurt you. I know it hurts please believe me its not just amathyst who understands this feeling, but if you spend a long time wishing bad for other people it wont help you. In the future when you are getting over this you will see what I mean. Yes your husband is a bastard for doing this. I belive that if someone wants somebody else then out of respect to their partner they should explain things before doing anything. however when somebody wants something different it is inevitable that person will go.

Okay so that makes everything okay - if only life was that simple :) So if your wife ever meets someone I can say the same to you :)

No problem Mrs J, I have seen friends go through similar situations over the years and they have come out of it the other side stronger - invest time in yourself and spend time with friends, it will help X

No that doesnt make it ok but it gives less reason to intentionalty ruin her life :)