Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man!

No this is not what i meant: a slow seduction or 'wooing' as we say in English, is always better than jumping straight to sex. By 1950's morality, i am refering to the idea that good girls become bad girls (and therefore worthless) by going to bed with a man too easilly and/or quickly. Whereas a man is not judged one way or the other for this.

In the case of what happened here, there was no time for wooing. And sometimes things simply happen and only afterwards you think to yourself - how on earth did that happen. Like fire.

I slept with a Polish guy, just a few hours after meeting him in a bar... and he barely spoke English either.. we are still together nearly 2 years later... although I have to admit that he did have a wife that he left for me. .. anyway, just wanted to share this with you..but all experiences are different. I would be surprised if he didnt have a wife or serious gf at the age of 31.. but maybe not.

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why is that so funny? we were both looking for some fun.. just didnt know that we would end up falling in love.. it might not be a traditional approach, but you never know whats gonna happen.. thats all Im saying.

Well than you are right. This is very similar to the polish males mentality. When we want to engage in a serious relationship we prefer that women are not to easy to get. But than again, I don't think that we would call a woman that has sex with a man on the first date a slut. A slut is a woman that does it frequently with many men. At least that’s my and my friends opinion.

Everything would be alright, if he didn't left his wife...
Not picking on you or your partner, but I really HATE that kind of behaviour...
Does he have kids in Poland?

And what is the male equivalent?...or is he just a stud!!...who said it was an equal world!


There always seems to be fall out...but who knows..the relationship coulda been or the rocks for years...then an opportunity came along!

My advice is forget him, I met a guy out the other week, it just so happens he is Polish, very nice guy, met him last night for a drink, he seemed inteligent he's 29 and all grown up, how insulted was I when he basically said he was very honest and he came out with the hopes of sex, I wasn't happy told him that in England maybe some women didnt mind just shaggin anything that moved but I for one had some values, needless to say the date went down hill from there.

On a positive point he did open doors!!!!

No, they have no kids... and believe me I didnt know he was married at the time.. but sometimes things happen for a reason.. he clearly wouldnt have been with me had he been happily married.... and at least he had the guts to tell his wife and do the decent thing by leaving a loveless marriage.. I believe its a lot more common to leave your family in Poland and pursue another relationship in another country.. keeping them both on the go.. being fair to no-one.

If you are refering to my avatar, that is a standard one I found on this website. My actual picture is under my profile---as for my eyes being that exotic, I can't say that they are, although I've been told that I have beautiful eyes and smile!:)

The male equivalent would be "babiarz", "kobieciarz", "lowelas", which isn't a positive name, but at the same time it isn't as negative as "ladacznica" or "wywłoka" (eng. "slut").

Equal world? I agree that men and women should have the same rights when it comes to the law, the right to vote, equal state of wages for people that work on similar posts, etc...but we can not forget that men and women aren't the same.

If a guy doesn't have any problems that his girlfriend had sex with multiple partners every party, then I don't have any problems with it. It's not my business. But I wouldn't engage in a serious relationship with that kind of woman. Simple. :)

this is so true and thank god for that.....whilst I say each to their own...I dont think women should be acting like thirsty dogs..I know Im gonna get called a prude or whatever else but I dont care I think that one night stands are shallow and from what most of friends have said the sex is usually quite poor i.e, generally no orgasm...so whats the point!..you have to know someone to be truly intimate:)

rowan,

My opinion is that you're putting thoughts into his mind that probably aren't even there. Maybe he did fall in love with you. And what proof do you have that he thinks poorly of you? He spent two days with you. He wouldn't have done that if he didn't approve of you.

Didn't you say he has a wife and child that he is separated from? I think that explains why he hasn't returned your emails. Maybe he can't just leave everything to be with you. I'm sure having a child complicates things.

Shewolf, Yes i aggree that having a young child and probably loving his country stops him from seeking his fortune here like his cousin. I would hate to be reposible for upsetting a childhood, even one where the father already lives elsewhere.

I just wish he would let me know how he is and whether or not he feels the same.
I had cut any kind of love out of my life (except for love of my animals and plants) for so long and life was simpler. Then - BANG - i am hit by a Polish truck of a man and turned into jelly!!!!


Who are you talking to, Ary?

I love the way you said that. Do you mind if I borrow it?

Please go ahead Shewolf!!! :)

I felt the same way over the 25yr old polish lad that let me take those photos of him :)

Its quite a BANG aint it??? LMAO!

how is thing going on, roman?
I had the same experience with a polish guy last year. He was visiting his friends who are my neighbors in Germany. We slept together after one week. It is not that fast, but the problem is that I was in a strange relationship(sextual relationship) with one of his friends. I was in love with him in this week. He also likes me a lot, cuz i am a beautiful, intelligent, laborous and independent woman. He was 27 at that time, and i was 31.

He went back to Poland without leaving me any contact methods. But I got his email from his friends, and sent him an email saying hello. He answered me, but he didnt think anything serious. We met 3 times later, and I kept write him email with my poor english telling him I am in love with him with time. He is the one that i dreamed for from i was a little girl.

Now we are together, and I visited his family in poland last xmas. we are happy now although it is still a long way to go to live together.

What I want to tell you from my experience is: make your effort, offer your love, show the true you, explain the misuderstanding between you, and then you can get his love if he is a good man.

I love polish guys with traditional values.

I love this quote... dogs are so unbiased arent they?

hi
im english women
i know how you feel i fell inlove with turkish man.would love to chat my email address is painterlove jayne@yahoo.co.uk reply if you wanna chat

slept with a Polish guy, just a few hours after meeting him in a bar... and he barely spoke English either..

ahahaha hah aha haha hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah lol ahahahahahahahahah

I hate to say this, but, you might be his booty call every time hes in town visiting
relatives.

I hope he emails soon, least then you know he was feeling the same as you.


casper, in the real world of men, tell me in your past that you havent had any
one night flings? possibly thought it meant more?

tell da truth :)

I also have fallen for a polish male friend of mine....I never thought I would date outside my race but I would with him. I say if it feels right....be patience...... if he cares he'll in touch.

good luck!

Me thinks Rowan has disappeared. Hope all is well with her.

I'm still here! Still in love and still waiting for an email or something. I don't think this will happen but i haven't given up hope.

I have been learning Polish - don't think i can type the special letters so that you can see them so i'll stick with words that don't have krescas: Jestem bardzo trudny. Does this make sense?

I'm glad you are doing alright. I'm sorry you have not heard from him. Even if you never talk to the guy again, one positive thing to come from it is that you are learning Polish. You will be better prepared the next time you come across a Polish lothario.:)

I'm glad you are learning polish; You do not have to use "Polish letters", All Poles will understand you in net if you don't type the "Polish letters", many Polish don't have operation system that support the Polish capitals so they don't use them; use only english capitals in writing on keyboard and it is OK.

Darek didn't respond to my email; I think he:

is not using this email at all, or don't have computer (but probably has) or don't have internet connected I remember when I was in pub lately some polish man said (I was sitting close and heard this):

"I would never let my wife to suc*k my cock, she's my wife, she has with my kids, only ***** can suck my dick, it was very funny but typical to Polish man, I'm not sure what you were doing that night but sex on 1st date made he probably didn't take you seriously.

And another thing: When I was trying to talk to english girl she started to scream "go away bla bla", "My boyfriend is in this house and will come here so I don't advise to be here, bla bla", she treat my like wild barbarian becouse I am Polish, very oddly and she said: "I will call for caps", but why she did not simply go away, anyway I did not try more with english girls and give up; funny story

Polish men really feel that way?:(

If they do, I'm not a POLISH man, then :)

:) I was going to ask if all men feel that way.